Cumming or not while bottoming.

  • jackthejock

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    Sep 02, 2012 12:37 AM GMT
    The other week I was bottoming and I came, which usually makes me want him to pull out immediately and then finish off some other way (bj, hj, wank) but this particular evening everything was still feeling great and so we kept going until he finished too.

    Last night was sort of the opposite, he finished and I hadn't cum yet, but oddly at the time I didn't really feel like I needed to finish off and felt satisfied and content and went to sleep. It has happened before and my boyfriend sometimes gets sensitive about it thinking he didn't perform well enough, but I don't really feel that way about it.

    Can anybody else relate?
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    Sep 02, 2012 1:43 AM GMT
    jackthejock saidThe other week I was bottoming and I came, which usually makes me want him to pull out immediately and then finish off some other way (bj, hj, wank) but this particular evening everything was still feeling great and so we kept going until he finished too.

    Last night was sort of the opposite, he finished and I hadn't cum yet, but oddly at the time I didn't really feel like I needed to finish off and felt satisfied and content and went to sleep. It has happened before and my boyfriend sometimes gets sensitive about it thinking he didn't perform well enough, but I don't really feel that way about it.

    Can anybody else relate?


    I am not sure. I don't have much experience to say; however, I am probably like the boyfriend and want my partner to cum and enjoy himself. I have an extremely high libido so I can go once a day every day, for the most part. I do have off days, certainly, but I'm really interested in finding someone who could meet me eye to eye on this.

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    Sep 02, 2012 6:16 AM GMT
    I seldom cum just from getting f*cked, I have to be really turned on and getting it rough in order to cum. Most of the time I have to jack off while getting f*cked in order to cum, and my partner knows that, so he lets me know when he's about to cum so that I could jack off, or he simply jacks me off so that we can cum together.
  • rnch

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    Sep 02, 2012 5:26 PM GMT
    yourname2000 saidTotally. A good fucking is satisfying all on its own...been plenty of times when I don't feel the need to actually shoot. Frankly, sometimes I feel like I'm too overstimulated to actually do so.




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  • jackthejock

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    Sep 02, 2012 8:17 PM GMT
    chronic2000 saidI seldom cum just from getting f*cked, I have to be really turned on and getting it rough in order to cum. Most of the time I have to jack off while getting f*cked in order to cum, and my partner knows that, so he lets me know when he's about to cum so that I could jack off, or he simply jacks me off so that we can cum together.



    I wasn't personally speaking about cumming completely hands free or not, just cumming in general. I've only ever managed to just cum just from being fucked and no contact on my penis about once or twice.
  • SwimBIkeRun94...

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    Sep 03, 2012 6:30 PM GMT
    I can't say I feel the same way; when I'm getting fucked, I want to cum. (In fact, it usually happens sooner than I'd like it.).

    I do see your bf's concern since, for most guys, the ultimate goal of sexual activity is to blow a nice load.


  • Sep 03, 2012 11:50 PM GMT
    I always try to cum after my guy has cum, so that makes me feel the need to cum so that he knows he still turns me on. He has told me that he feels inept if he can't make me cum.
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    Sep 04, 2012 10:16 PM GMT
    yourname2000 saidTotally. A good fucking is satisfying all on its own...been plenty of times when I don't feel the need to actually shoot. Frankly, sometimes I feel like I'm too overstimulated to actually do so.


    definately realate to that, i rarely ejaculate when i bottom maybe once in every three or four times but i think i do cum just not "outwardly" lol. i definately feel a climax and a relaxing sensation afterwards.
  • maax223

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    Sep 06, 2012 3:48 AM GMT
    I feel the same.

    When I cum first(while bottoming), i like him to keep going until he finishes.
    But when he finishes first, I don't really feel like i need to cum.

  • BlueMoose

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    Sep 08, 2012 1:11 AM GMT
    THe feeling of cumming while being fucked is like no other. So hot to have a guy jerk me while fucking me. Got close one time to cumming hands free.
  • jayatl56

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    Sep 13, 2012 9:18 PM GMT
    And how do you feel when your top cums too soon? I've had that with a fuck buddy. We get going and before I'm fully experiencing it, he cums, pulls out and rolls over. Only once did he keep going until I came otherwise when he's finished, he's finished. Otherwise, him finishing first, leaves me a bit empty and I usually don't finish myself. How do you react to this knowing that your friend or partner or potential partner, while great in other aspects, is too quick in the sack?
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    Sep 14, 2012 5:05 AM GMT
    Has happened to me and my boyfriend a few times too. No big deal just explain to him that you were satisfied even if you didn't cum. icon_smile.gif