New to the single life

  • jason_newman

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    Sep 02, 2012 4:02 AM GMT
    How do you guys cope with becoming single?
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    Sep 02, 2012 4:04 AM GMT
    Go on dates.
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    Sep 02, 2012 4:05 AM GMT
    jason_newman saidHow do you guys cope with becoming single?


    SEX, BOOZE, AND DRUGS-- is what I would say if I were a typical American. icon_confused.gif

    It's the same way you cope with anything else with life: reflection, letting go, and starting anew. Know that being single is not the end. It's not bad to be alone. It only sucks because you're apart from the person you cared about (or perhaps didn't?). Time will help mend the wounds.
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    Sep 02, 2012 4:09 AM GMT
    SEEEXXXXX...



    Seriously. Sex. I've had some many romps with Grade A American beef that it really made me think why I was with my ex for so long. I thought I had lost my mojo but I can still pull nice ass....icon_twisted.gif
  • calibro

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    Sep 02, 2012 12:54 PM GMT
    you're 18 and new to the single life? no offense, but... just stop.
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    Sep 02, 2012 2:41 PM GMT
    Last break-up, I took up Spanish and Woodworking. I made my sister an awesome over-stuffed ottoman in her favorite color which she still brags about. Also saved a lot of money by reupholstering used furniture. Oh, and I masturbated. Like a lot.
  • O5vx

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    Sep 02, 2012 2:47 PM GMT
    calibro saidyou're 18 and new to the single life? no offense, but... just stop.



    I can understand why. He is so handsome.
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    Sep 02, 2012 5:01 PM GMT
    jason_newman saidHow do you guys cope with becoming single?


    I'm still trying...
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    Sep 02, 2012 5:02 PM GMT
    AleksandrD said
    jason_newman saidHow do you guys cope with becoming single?


    I'm still trying...


    It's a hard rode for some of us dude. I know it sounds cliche, but it does get better....
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    Sep 02, 2012 5:03 PM GMT
    jmusmc85 said
    AleksandrD said
    jason_newman saidHow do you guys cope with becoming single?


    I'm still trying...


    It's a hard rode for some of us dude. I know it sounds cliche, but it does get better....


    Sure does, but in the meanwhile, he have to deal with heartbreak, while the other person is happy and laughing.
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    Sep 03, 2012 1:38 AM GMT
    AleksandrD said
    jmusmc85 said
    AleksandrD said
    jason_newman saidHow do you guys cope with becoming single?


    I'm still trying...


    It's a hard rode for some of us dude. I know it sounds cliche, but it does get better....


    Sure does, but in the meanwhile, he have to deal with heartbreak, while the other person is happy and laughing.


    sounds familiar... know how ya feel
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    Sep 03, 2012 1:43 AM GMT
    Did he really ask that question...'How to be single'

    The secret in being single is...

    Nope not telling.....icon_razz.gif






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    Sep 03, 2012 1:57 AM GMT
    Fivealive saidDid he really ask that question...'How to be single'

    The secret in being single is...

    Nope not telling.....icon_razz.gif



    ...Is happiness. icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 04, 2012 1:23 AM GMT
    Learn to love yourself/be self sufficient/be your own best friend - and I don't mean that in a narcissistic way.

    Then get yourself a date or two.
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    Sep 04, 2012 1:55 AM GMT
    Listen to sad songs for a while. Nothing wrong with taking a little time to ponder the relationship. And then you put it behind you and move on. In October I will celebrate the tenth anniversary with my bf. Before that, I had been in a seven year relationship. With wisdom, some of the things that seemed so important in the earlier relationship now seem so unimportant and other things became more important.

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    Sep 04, 2012 1:59 AM GMT
    Just do whatever the fuck I wanna do.! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 04, 2012 2:01 AM GMT
    jason_newman saidHow do you guys cope with becoming single?


    Enjoy being single and don’t be so eager to "jump" back into the saddle.
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    Sep 04, 2012 2:06 AM GMT
    It takes time dude. Don't feel pressured to have to fill that void with someone else. Instead fill it with activities that make you happy. Focus on yourself for now. You're young you have a lot to look forward to.
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    Sep 04, 2012 2:09 AM GMT
    Join Grindr.
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    Sep 04, 2012 2:10 AM GMT
    First, you recognize that there is a huge difference between being single and being lonely and being bored. Next, you figure out which category you fall in. You are 18 so use the next 12 years to discover these answers and find out what influences each in your life. Have fun bud.
  • toybrian

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    Sep 04, 2012 2:24 AM GMT
    Jason, you are still young so you will be going through a lot now with friends going off to college, friends getting a job and guys getting married or g/f's and dating. Enjoy the time with family and friends and you will meet new people in your life. The fun is just starting in your life so embrace it and go for a ride with it and like you said try new things and meet new people.
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    Sep 04, 2012 2:29 AM GMT
    If you are remotely interested in a subject or activity now is the time to try it or check it out. You are young and have minimal responsibility or at least compared to when you will have a real job. So instead of filling the time with a 'search' for someone new, spend it doing things you enjoy. You have PLENTY of time to be in a relationship down the road.
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    Sep 04, 2012 5:38 AM GMT
    AleksandrD saidhe have to deal with heartbreak, while the other person is happy and laughing.

    Well, it all really depends on the situation. Sometimes there's heartbreak on both sides as partners grow apart a relationship runs its course.

    Jason, as many have said, you are still young. What they mean by that is that you have your entire life ahead of you. Plenty of time to bounce back and start over.

    What they overlook, as AlesandrD mentioned, is that doesn't lessen the heartbreak. If it's your first breakup, that makes things even more difficult.

    I came out into my first relationship. So 2.5 years later I was gay and single for the first time. And realized that most all of my/our friends were really his friends. For a while, way too long, I figured he'd come to his senses and wise up and we'd get back together. After all, at the ancient age of 26, I "knew" I'd never love another like that and (gosh, I'm not even sure anymore what else I was thinking). Weeks turned into months and there I was playing Penelope (that's Odysseus' wife who for years waited for him to return from Troy) while he was out dating others. Don't do that. It's one thing to wait 3 days or 3 weeks, but... you're just hurting yourself more by staying in the fire.

    So mourn a bit, but rest assured there are more - and better - fish in the sea. Go out and pursue your interests, make new friends, and (especially if you exude that you are happy) it won't be long before you are once again not single.