Does big gap of age matter to you ?

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    Aug 19, 2008 3:00 PM GMT

    I'm 18 years old and I kinda liked one person who was 5 years older than me. we talked a lot on the IM and he was really nice. and oneday Idk why but I said I love him . and then he stoped IM with me about 2 months.(actually he blocked me.) I was waiting him and finally i sent message to him.

    " Why do you stop talking with me? "

    And he sent e-mail.

    first time, I thought the matter is long distance or too early to say 'love him'. but the answer from him was 'my age'.
    he said I'm dangerous because I'm too young. icon_sad.gif

    I was like 'huh, does it really matter ?' it's only number, nothing other than that. But after the time people who saw my profile say I'm too young. :S

    Humm so.. does big gap of age matter ? I really want to hear what you think about that...
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    Aug 19, 2008 3:15 PM GMT

    Hey king2139,

    Maybe not an age gap.
    Maybe he thinks you are not mature enough.
    His mistake.

    He is only one book in a large library. icon_wink.gif

    -Doug

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    Aug 19, 2008 3:31 PM GMT
    meninlove said
    Hey king2139,

    Maybe not an age gap.
    Maybe he thinks you are not mature enough.
    His mistake.

    He is only one book in a large library. icon_wink.gif

    -Doug



    thanks . and I really Like your sentence icon_smile.gif

    yes.

    ' He is only one book in a large library.'
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    Aug 19, 2008 3:55 PM GMT
    Dude you kind of told a guy you seem to have never actually met that you love him, that speaks volumes
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    Aug 19, 2008 3:58 PM GMT
    chungo44 saidDude you kind of told a guy you seem to have never actually met that you love him, that speaks volumes


    well that's true but still. I could meet him.
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    Aug 19, 2008 3:59 PM GMT
    Love you? In what context?

    I've never found a gap in age to be any hinderence upon relationships I've had with men in regards to friendships or relationships. Currently I am in an amazing relationship with a man who is 9 years older than I.

    AGe difference only becomes an issue when either party makes it one.
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    Aug 19, 2008 4:05 PM GMT
    well ya . my story is just one part of the question but I'm asking generally. well ya I don't think it was true love, but still he is my favorite even if he hurted my feeling. but ya I'm the person who think age really doesn't maatter. ( if they are not same age as my parents.)
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    Aug 19, 2008 4:08 PM GMT
    I don't think 5 years is much of an age gap, but it can be tough if the two people are in dramatically different stages in their life.

    My partner and I started dating just before I turned 19, and there's ~4.5 years between us. The only problem that the age gap has caused is that he usually kicks my ass in bar trivia.
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    Aug 19, 2008 4:27 PM GMT
    It really depends on the couple. But, maturity is a bigger factor than physical age. I know some very mature 20 year olds and some very immature 40 year olds. Age can be an indicator of life experience and where the person is in the way of being settled in a career, etc., but I view that as a guide.
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    Aug 19, 2008 7:49 PM GMT
    I know that i have an issue with age and maturity level
    i am curently dating some one who is 17 and i will be 21 B4 he will be 18 and the maturity just is not really there.

    but yeah i am just not sure on what to think of the sit
    i have dated a guy who was 7 older and i had no prob either did he.
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    Aug 19, 2008 7:50 PM GMT
    I use to think it didn't matter, but as I've grown older, I think it does...

    The last two guy's who have expressed romantic interest in me were much, much younger than me....19 and 22 respectively.

    They pursued me...but I always avoided them. It wasn't that I wasn't attracted to them, I was...or I am...but, I can't seperate sexual attraction from emotional attraction and I refuse to allow myself to become involved with someone young enough to be my son...I'm friendly to these guys, we even do things together from time to time, but once in awhile they start to push the romance button and I pull away....not gonna happen.

    I don't think short term pleasure. I think long term happiness.
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    Aug 19, 2008 8:07 PM GMT
    Please be over the age of 18 and hung...
    After that, GAME ON!!!

    j/k...

    I think 10 to 15 years max depending on current age (say 35 and up) and the younger you are the lower the range/gap should be for anything long term.
    least thaz my opion...
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    Aug 19, 2008 8:49 PM GMT
    I don't think the age difference is a big deal at all. Five years is nothing. Its all about the individual. I've met some 18 year olds that were more mature then some men in their 40's. There becomes a point where the age difference is so great though that you are in very different phases of life. I don't want someone that's doing his funeral planning when I am planning to see the world. I would definitely date a guy as long as he is legal and mature, and all the factors are present. I actually find the youthful idealism and optimism, the belief that we can make a difference in the world to be a very attractive trait. I like young guys for the most part. If this guy freaks on your age, move on and be glad it happened now, because he would never value you enough to make it work anyway. The only caution I would give you about your age is it's to have emotions that are bigger then life, to fall over the internet for someone and that ultimately is asking for a broken heart. Good luck bro.
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    Aug 19, 2008 9:02 PM GMT
    I think age matters a lot.
    I wouldn't date anyone more than 5 weeks younger than me, or 17 days older.

    We just wouldn't be in the same place in our lives.
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    Aug 20, 2008 12:27 AM GMT
    I find that my relationships have been most successful when the guy I'm dating is no younger than

    x1/2+13

    and no older than

    0.01*x2+15

    (where x is my own age); with the ideal age being the average between the two.

    But aside from that, age is just a number.

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    Aug 20, 2008 12:41 AM GMT
    GregStevensTX saidI find that my relationships have been most successful when the guy I'm dating is no younger than

    x1/2+13

    and no older than

    0.01*x2+15

    (where x is my own age); with the ideal age being the average between the two.

    But aside from that, age is just a number.

    icon_razz.gif


    So, that would be somewhere between 'much younger' and just past statutory rape.
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    Aug 20, 2008 1:26 AM GMT
    bgcat57:

    Awww! You're so cute when you're judgemental!
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    Aug 20, 2008 1:30 AM GMT
    Not judgemental, just calculating.icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 20, 2008 1:33 AM GMT
    5 years isn't an age gap, it's a pause (or as george w. bush might say: pah-OO-zay). i'm drunk still. the biggest gap between me and a bf was 24 years. we were together 4 years and might still be if he weren't a republican. (sorry to all the republicans)
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    Aug 20, 2008 1:50 AM GMT
    Well, 5 years is a huge difference when you are 18. When you are 18 you are a kid, when you are 23, hopefully you have started to mature emotionally. icon_biggrin.gif

    I agree with DancerJack, jprichva and gregstevenstx. If there is chemistry and commonaiity, there is a relatiosnhip, whatever the age gap. What I see in some responses here, and in a couple of the other threads here is that some guys here start with the assumption that the age difference (the number) means more than the actual personality/sexua/emotional attractions.

    And, on the "stinking liar by 10 years" on the other thread, someone made an excellent point. Not one of those people, I am willing to wager, who were wailing "throw him out" would ever had said so had his age been 10 years younger than his actual age.icon_twisted.gif
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    Aug 20, 2008 5:08 AM GMT
    so half of you guys think it matters.. ahhh.. icon_sad.gif
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    Aug 20, 2008 5:33 AM GMT
    bgcat57 said
    GregStevensTX saidI find that my relationships have been most successful when the guy I'm dating is no younger than

    x1/2+13

    and no older than

    0.01*x2+15

    (where x is my own age); with the ideal age being the average between the two.

    But aside from that, age is just a number.

    icon_razz.gif


    So, that would be somewhere between 'much younger' and just past statutory rape.

    actually, if GregStevens is 18, those equations go to:
    17.25 (younger bound)
    and
    18.25 (older bound)
    at 21 the younger bound would be 17.5 but the older bound would be 19.4
    since he's 35:
    the older bound is 27.25 and the younger is 18.9

    He's gonna be fine on statutory rape, but he's definitely going for younger men.


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    Aug 20, 2008 7:59 AM GMT
    dcarm said
    bgcat57 said
    GregStevensTX saidI find that my relationships have been most successful when the guy I'm dating is no younger than

    x1/2+13

    and no older than

    0.01*x2+15

    (where x is my own age); with the ideal age being the average between the two.

    But aside from that, age is just a number.

    icon_razz.gif


    So, that would be somewhere between 'much younger' and just past statutory rape.

    actually, if GregStevens is 18, those equations go to:
    17.25 (younger bound)
    and
    18.25 (older bound)
    at 21 the younger bound would be 17.5 but the older bound would be 19.4
    since he's 35:
    the older bound is 27.25 and the younger is 18.9

    He's gonna be fine on statutory rape, but he's definitely going for younger men.





    OMG this is hilarious ...lol well I'm not in the lange though icon_sad.gif
  • Fobdragon

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    Aug 20, 2008 8:22 AM GMT
    I think that age is only one of the many factors that can make or brake a relationship. I've dated two younger people and they were both way more mature than their age said they where.
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    Aug 20, 2008 10:29 AM GMT
    I've never given age differences much though..My parents had eleven years between them so I grew up not thinking much of it. I would be willing to go over that in guys older than me but younger.. not so much