Running into old boyfriends

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    Sep 02, 2012 11:51 AM GMT
    Ran into a guy I dated briefly nearly fourteen years ago while hanging out with some friends last night. It must have been about six years since I last saw him but we kind of fell back into just an easy going conversation you can have with some people even if it has been ages since you last saw them.

    It got me to thinking, what do YOU do when you run into old boyfriends? Do you welcome it as a chance to catch up with an old buddy OR run in the other direction!?!
  • FuriousGeorge

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    Sep 02, 2012 6:27 PM GMT
    As long as we parted on friendly terms, I'm all for reconnecting with exes. Just because our romantic relationship didn't work out, that doesn't mean we can't have a friendly one. In my opinion, that's what the gay community needs a lot more of right now. We tend to get involved with guys, break up, and then head in opposite directions, and it makes us all loners with very few gay friends.

    Of course, it takes two to tango. I've made several overtures to my ex, and there's always been an excuse not to meet up, and I haven't heard anything back from him. Sigh, nothing much you can do about that.
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    Sep 02, 2012 6:28 PM GMT
    This has happened to me in the past two days at my new job first one started texting me again the second ran out to his car at the sight of me.
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    Sep 02, 2012 6:29 PM GMT
    Walk away, I'll be civil and say hi, but I won't make the effort to go talk to them. Even if time has passed, it still hurt.
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    Sep 02, 2012 6:38 PM GMT
    One of my exes hid from me. I saw him. It was hilarious. He broke up with me though.

    I'm friendly to them. I try not to hold onto the past for several reasons, but when they are acting strangely I will call them out on it.
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    Sep 02, 2012 6:38 PM GMT
    I guess part of it depends how the relationship ended - weather it was mutual, acrimonious, etc.
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    Sep 02, 2012 6:39 PM GMT
    i ran over a guy i dated....i mean into
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    Sep 02, 2012 6:55 PM GMT
    Justim saidi ran over a guy i dated....i mean into


    Hmmm - was that a Freudian slip? icon_lol.gif
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    Sep 02, 2012 7:43 PM GMT
    sashaman saidRan into a guy I dated briefly nearly fourteen years ago while hanging out with some friends last night. It must have been about six years since I last saw him but we kind of fell back into just an easy going conversation you can have with some people even if it has been ages since you last saw them.

    It got me to thinking, what do YOU do when you run into old boyfriends? Do you welcome it as a chance to catch up with an old buddy OR run in the other direction!?!


    I'm only okay with one of my exes. If I met the other two, I'd turn and walk the other direction.
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    Sep 02, 2012 7:57 PM GMT
    me running into old boyfriends is kind of impossible since it sort of requires you to have HAD boyfriends in the past. icon_confused.gif
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    Sep 02, 2012 8:05 PM GMT
    My first ex.. Awesome..no stress..no tension..!

    my second ex...Awkward..he tries to hold me hostage when we cross paths.... i always get away!

    ..My 3rd and last..we ran into each other for the first time in 3 years last
    month...Awkward... i found out later that it was intentional..he hunted me down.. i was civil..but i really didn't wan't to see him!..ewww!

    ....ok i feel dirty...shower...ewww!
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    Sep 02, 2012 8:31 PM GMT
    Anocxu saidMy first ex.. Awesome..no stress..no tension..!

    my second ex...Awkward..he tries to hold me hostage when we cross paths.... i always get away!

    ..My 3rd and last..we ran into each other for the first time in 3 years last
    month...Awkward... i found out later that it was intentional..he hunted me down.. i was civil..but i really didn't wan't to see him!..ewww!

    ....ok i feel dirty...shower...ewww!


    *Pours Lysol on him.* icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 02, 2012 8:35 PM GMT
    What is this "old boyfriend" you speak of icon_question.gif
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    Sep 02, 2012 8:48 PM GMT
    FlawedAmigo saidThis has happened to me in the past two days at my new job first one started texting me again the second ran out to his car at the sight of me.


    Dude..?? What did YOU do??? icon_eek.gif
  • josephmovie

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    Sep 02, 2012 8:49 PM GMT
    I'm at the age where I'm starting to read about them in obituaries. Depressing.
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    Sep 02, 2012 8:53 PM GMT
    Anocxu said
    FlawedAmigo saidThis has happened to me in the past two days at my new job first one started texting me again the second ran out to his car at the sight of me.


    Dude..?? What did YOU do??? icon_eek.gif

    he a schizophrenic parole officer who I basically got pissed at when i found out that he was cheating on me with his ex used my family and I for a place to stay since he lost his house and now he thinks I'm the bad person when I basically went off at him for it for his lies.
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    Sep 02, 2012 9:17 PM GMT
    It doesn't hurt to be friendly with an ex if things ended amicably and if time has passed long enough beyond the awkward period! I wouldn't attempt to become friends... Just remain friendly!
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    Sep 02, 2012 9:21 PM GMT
    I am still good friends with my ex and his current bf. They live 2 houses down from me. I dog sit for them often.
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    Sep 02, 2012 9:21 PM GMT
    FlawedAmigo said
    Anocxu said
    FlawedAmigo saidThis has happened to me in the past two days at my new job first one started texting me again the second ran out to his car at the sight of me.


    Dude..?? What did YOU do??? icon_eek.gif

    he a schizophrenic parole officer who I basically got pissed at when i found out that he was cheating on me with his ex used my family and I for a place to stay since he lost his house and now he thinks I'm the bad person when I basically went off at him for it for his lies.


    Shit happens? lol
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    Sep 02, 2012 9:27 PM GMT
    FlawedAmigo said
    Anocxu said
    FlawedAmigo saidThis has happened to me in the past two days at my new job first one started texting me again the second ran out to his car at the sight of me.


    Dude..?? What did YOU do??? icon_eek.gif

    he a schizophrenic parole officer who I basically got pissed at when i found out that he was cheating on me with his ex used my family and I for a place to stay since he lost his house and now he thinks I'm the bad person when I basically went off at him for it for his lies.


    Good for you !!... Shall we go "Ex Slaying" one fine day..it will be fun..i promise..
    Good ol' tire slashing !
    Sugar in the gas tank..
    Brake line cutting...
    Epsom Salt in the coffee...
    Pins in the condoms????
    You know where to find me... icon_eek.gif

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    Sep 02, 2012 9:35 PM GMT
    RoadsterRacer87 saidme running into old boyfriends is kind of impossible since it sort of requires you to have HAD boyfriends in the past. icon_confused.gif


    +1 icon_neutral.gif
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    Sep 02, 2012 10:08 PM GMT
    So far I've been lucky...never even once ran into an ex anywhere.

    If that ever happens, I'll deal with it gracefully.
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    Sep 02, 2012 10:09 PM GMT
    Justim saidi ran over a guy i dated...
    While you were dating him? icon_lol.gif
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    Sep 02, 2012 10:10 PM GMT
    this paul character is all over these forums
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    Sep 02, 2012 10:15 PM GMT
    I'm getting old enough to appreciate younger guys....icon_wink.gif