Parents refuse to support my lifestyle.

  • CMIYC

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    Sep 03, 2012 2:07 AM GMT
    I just came out to my parents. I have always relied upon them for support and had thought that all would continue as always.

    As it turned out, they will not support me at all. They refuse to continue to support me because they do not agree with the lifestyle that I have chosen. They earn a lot of money. Between them close to 80 grand a year.Yet my parents refuse to give me any further financial help, on the premise that it wasn't fair that I rely on them for money because 'why should they', which means that I now will suffer and have no social life.

    I shouldn't be expected to go out and work because I am at the age where a young man should be able to travel and see the world and not have to worry about finances. Also, all my friends who are also my age are already in committed relationships while I will suffer with loneliness.

    My parents have recently sold their second home, but still refuse to give any financial support to me, insisting that it's my responsibility.
    I don't have a bad relationship with my parents - in fact we're very close. I just think that they're a a bit tight and selfish when it comes to money. Most parents invest in their children.
    I'm not sure who's in the wrong really; my parents who refuse to support me, or myself for thinking they should. What should I do guys?
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    Sep 03, 2012 2:11 AM GMT
    im sorry to hear.

    i can't imagine what it's like being disowned by your parents.

    to me i dont feel you should feel guilty for wanting them to support you, since you are still a baby. i hope you can make them see that you are still their son.
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    Sep 03, 2012 2:17 AM GMT
    I wish I know what to tell you. I suppose some parents are that way-- inherently selfish and miserly when it comes to matters of money. I can relate given that my father was that way. On top of which, I can't get a job, drive, and do things that most people on the planet do given the transition period of my naturalization here to the states. Soooo... basically I'm screwed in many departments including a social life, owning a car, making a living, et cetera.

    If it's a financial matter, I think you should hit up resources in your area and see if they can help you. They may be able to assist you. It's just a matter of you asking and being open to receive help. icon_smile.gif

    Good luck to you!
  • robevans912

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    Sep 03, 2012 2:20 AM GMT
    "I shouldn't be expected to go out and work because I am at the age where a young man should be able to travel and see the world and not have to worry about finances. "


    What the fuck is this?

    This whole thread screams troll. Reading it just made me really nauseous.





    Before I take away anything I just said above, how old are you OP?
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    Sep 03, 2012 2:27 AM GMT
    robevans912 said"I shouldn't be expected to go out and work because I am at the age where a young man should be able to travel and see the world and not have to worry about finances. "


    What the fuck is this?

    This whole thread screams troll. Reading it just made me really nauseous.





    Before I take away anything I just said above, how old are you OP?


    Obvious Troll is Obvious...but the real question is: Sock or passive aggressive toward another member?

    meh...don't care.
  • O5vx

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    Sep 03, 2012 2:31 AM GMT
    QUOTE AUTHOR GOES HEREI just came out to my parents. I have always relied upon them for support and had thought that all would continue as always.

    As it turned out, they will not support me at all. They refuse to continue to support me because they do not agree with the lifestyle that I have chosen. They earn a lot of money. Between them close to 80 grand a year.Yet my parents refuse to give me any further financial help, on the premise that it wasn't fair that I rely on them for money because 'why should they', which means that I now will suffer and have no social life.

    I shouldn't be expected to go out and work because I am at the age where a young man should be able to travel and see the world and not have to worry about finances. Also, all my friends who are also my age are already in committed relationships while I will suffer with loneliness.

    My parents have recently sold their second home, but still refuse to give any financial support to me, insisting that it's my responsibility.
    I don't have a bad relationship with my parents - in fact we're very close. I just think that they're a a bit tight and selfish when it comes to money. Most parents invest in their children.
    I'm not sure who's in the wrong really; my parents who refuse to support me, or myself for thinking they should. What should I do guys?


    My father is a microbiologist who works at an hospital somewhere in the gulf countries(he makes lot of money and I mean lot with his doctorate degree) Yet, he has contributed nothing to my educational success since I was in junior high. He does not buy books and does not pay for school fees, essentially I have had to depend on my mother's monthly salary which is not enough to get through high school. I entered college last year and I ask him for financial help, he told me money was tight. What is more important than my education? Unfortunately for me, I got on a government program that now pays for everything for me. The moral of the story is, try to be independent now so you will get use to it when you finish college and you wont want to ask them for money anymore.
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    Sep 03, 2012 2:44 AM GMT
    Hey troll

    seems like you missed the lesson inlife where you are responsible for your self. Go and earn your own money and dont be a whiney little bitch.

    Good luck prat!
  • waccamatt

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    Sep 03, 2012 2:49 AM GMT
    1) Yes, it is pretty obvious it's a troll post
    2) $80,000 a year combined between 2 incomes isn't "a lot" of money
    3) You're 19 - if you're not a troll, get a job and pull yourself up and take care of yourself - you don't need your parents any more.
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    Sep 03, 2012 2:52 AM GMT
    northoz saidHey troll

    seems like you missed the lesson inlife where you are responsible for your self. Go and earn your own money and dont be a whiney little bitch.

    Good luck prat!


    Why u no use "wanker" or "plonker" icon_sad.gif much funnier sounding
  • LJay

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    Sep 03, 2012 2:52 AM GMT
    "I shouldn't be expected to go out and work because I am at the age where a young man should be able to travel and see the world and not have to worry about finances. Also, all my friends who are also my age are already in committed relationships while I will suffer with loneliness."

    Sorry, OP, but you sound like a fake. Nevertheless, I'll give you the benefit of the doubt and offer a little forthright advice: The quote above tells me that you are not facing up to yourself. No one, including your parents, owes you travel, friends, or companionship. As an adult, you have to take care of those things yourself. It is time that you got a job and started worrying about food, clothing and shelter. Get to work.
  • BIG_N_TALL

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    Sep 03, 2012 3:11 AM GMT
    First off, I have to say you didn't choose this "lifestyle." Being gay is not a lifestyle. I don't know anyone who chose to be gay. It is who you are. Now, culture is something different, but same-sex attraction is not a choice.

    Secondly, I know how annoying it is to have this happen to you, but I had a 65 year old gay guy say something to me once that has always stuck with me..... 'You can't expect people you come out to to immediately embrace your sexuality. Did you embrace being gay immediately when you came to the self-realization you were gay?' I've always tried to keep that in mind, and try to give people some latitude, but I don't feel as though I need to justify myself or make people like me.
  • camfer

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    Sep 03, 2012 3:15 AM GMT
    I hear trolls are good at bridge maintenance. Maybe you can get a job working under a bridge.
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    Sep 03, 2012 3:18 AM GMT
    waccamatt said1) Yes, it is pretty obvious it's a troll post
    2) $80,000 a year combined between 2 incomes isn't "a lot" of money
    3) You're 19 - if you're not a troll, get a job and pull yourself up and take care of yourself - you don't need your parents any more.


    this!!
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    Sep 03, 2012 3:18 AM GMT
    Troll or no troll, you guys are horrible. No disappoint there.
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    Sep 03, 2012 3:19 AM GMT
    waccamatt said1) Yes, it is pretty obvious it's a troll post
    2) $80,000 a year combined between 2 incomes isn't "a lot" of money
    3) You're 19 - if you're not a troll, get a job and pull yourself up and take care of yourself - you don't need your parents any more.

    Agree. $80,000 for a 2-income family is actually rather poor. This whole story reeks of phony. Like gay is a "lifestyle". This was not written by a gay. The righties need to recruit better infiltrators of gay sites. This one was a FAIL.
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    Sep 03, 2012 3:21 AM GMT
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    northoz saidHey troll

    seems like you missed the lesson inlife where you are responsible for your self. Go and earn your own money and dont be a whiney little bitch.

    Good luck prat!


    Why u no use "wanker" or "plonker" icon_sad.gif much funnier sounding


    I know prat seemed more appropriate in this instance icon_lol.gif
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    Sep 03, 2012 3:22 AM GMT
    shortstuffs saidTroll or no troll, you guys are horrible. No disappoint there.


    Seriously mate, get a grip icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Sep 03, 2012 3:32 AM GMT
    What does someone get trolling like this? What kind of satisfaction/pleasure? Are such people so starved for attention that they do this? I dont understand even posting such drivel.
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    Sep 03, 2012 3:35 AM GMT
    lol
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    Sep 03, 2012 3:37 AM GMT
    Caslon20000 saidWhat does someone get trolling like this? What kind of satisfaction/pleasure? Are such people so starved for attention that they do this? I dont understand even posting such drivel.


    There's a big issue here atm with a TV celeb and twitter regarding trolls.
    google Charlotte Dawson Twitter. Poor thing shes a great woman and usually so strong trolls have fucked her up.
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    Sep 03, 2012 3:45 AM GMT
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    Caslon20000 saidWhat does someone get trolling like this? What kind of satisfaction/pleasure? Are such people so starved for attention that they do this? I dont understand even posting such drivel.


    There's a big issue here atm with a TV celeb and twitter regarding trolls.
    google Charlotte Dawson Twitter. Poor thing shes a great woman and usually so strong trolls have fucked her up.

    I never heard of her. Why didnt she just turn off her phone or computer or whatever one uses to see tweets. She spent hours fending them off? Why? Turn the damn thing off...Voila! They are fended!

    What she needed was: Caslon's Guide to a More Harmonious Experience in the Interwebs Forums.
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    Sep 03, 2012 3:51 AM GMT
    i figured this is the reason why gay white men lash out at ethnic minorities and such. I figured it's because their parents treated them so coldly that they want to instil that same kinda pain onto others.

    i get it, it makes sense.

    explains why firebrand was such a douche bag.

    ----

    i dont think he is trolling at all.. western culture differs. it's a shame that religion and "moral authority" dictates when to and not to love your children..

    there shouldnt be an expiration date.
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    Caslon20000 said
    northoz said
    Caslon20000 saidWhat does someone get trolling like this? What kind of satisfaction/pleasure? Are such people so starved for attention that they do this? I dont understand even posting such drivel.


    There's a big issue here atm with a TV celeb and twitter regarding trolls.
    google Charlotte Dawson Twitter. Poor thing shes a great woman and usually so strong trolls have fucked her up.

    I never heard of her. Why didnt she just turn off her phone or computer or whatever one uses to see tweets. She spent hours fending them off? Why? Turn the damn thing off...Voila! They are fended!

    What she needed was: Caslon's Guide to a More Harmonious Experience in the Interwebs Forums.


    lol yes that would have been a good idea it just went pearshaped really quick. You probably havent heard of her she is a Nuzulunder here, i think she is still the host of Australias next top model
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    Sep 03, 2012 4:11 AM GMT
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    "As it turned out, they will not support me at all. They refuse to continue to support me because they do not agree with the lifestyle that I have chosen."

    ...what lifestyle? A sailor? A person who lives in an attic being a tragic artiste?

    A retired person living in a yacht on an open sea? icon_wink.gif

    Those are lifestyles, being gay is not. I think explaining that to them is a small but crucial link to them understanding.

    You might ask them if they think being straight is a lifestyle, lol! icon_wink.gif
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    Sep 03, 2012 4:13 AM GMT
    meninlove said Full said,
    "As it turned out, they will not support me at all. They refuse to continue to support me because they do not agree with the lifestyle that I have chosen."

    ...what lifestyle? A sailor? A person who lives in an attic being a tragic artiste?

    A retired person living in a yacht on an open sea? icon_wink.gif

    Those are lifestyles, being gay is not. I think explaining that to them is a small but crucial link to them understanding.

    You might ask them if they think being straight is a lifestyle, lol! icon_wink.gif


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