What do you do to lose that jaded feeling

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    Sep 03, 2012 4:23 AM GMT
    I am always reminded of how sweet and supportive some guys are even in the face of trolls, think men in love, they always have something positive to say.

    I often become jaded by online gay sites and besides this one I hardly even bother with any other sites anymore. I have had a shit year, particularly this past few months. I know Im becoming more and more jaded. what i normally do to shake this feeling is workout or go for a long walk or hike, but lately this doesnt seem to be working.

    So for all you single gay men that have been out for a while now, what is it you do to loose the jade?
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    Sep 03, 2012 4:36 AM GMT
    We shouldn't be posting; you're wanting singles' replies. icon_redface.gif


    But consider, you're asking a question an unjaded person asks. *big grins*

    OK, now just Doug. There's jaded and there's jaded, I think. One is temporary, and Bill and I both had bouts while single, and in his case, the last couple of years in a truly terrible relationship before we met.

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    Sep 03, 2012 4:47 AM GMT
    northoz saidI am always reminded of how sweet and supportive some guys are even in the face of trolls, think men in love, they always have something positive to say.

    I often become jaded by online gay sites and besides this one I hardly even bother with any other sites anymore. I have had a shit year, particularly this past few months. I know Im becoming more and more jaded. what i normally do to shake this feeling is workout or go for a long walk or hike, but lately this doesnt seem to be working.

    So for all you single gay men that have been out for a while now, what is it you do to loose the jade?


    I am not sure. I usually talk to others and help them out of their rut. If you would like, I'd be more than happy to talk to you, one on one. icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 03, 2012 4:55 AM GMT
    meninlove said We shouldn't be posting; you're wanting singles' replies. icon_redface.gif


    But consider, you're asking a question an unjaded person asks. *big grins*

    OK, now just Doug. There's jaded and there's jaded, I think. One is temporary, and Bill and I both had bouts while single, and in his case, the last couple of years in a truly terrible relationship before we met.

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    You both are always welcome icon_smile.gif

    I know its temporary and it will pass, but sometimes, like now, it can be a real annoyance when the things I love to do to get out of a rut don't work.
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    Sep 03, 2012 4:59 AM GMT
    I do volunteer work. I quickly realize just how blessed I am and how simple happiness can be.
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    Sep 03, 2012 5:16 AM GMT
    PROJECTS!
    Start a business, fix a car, adopt a kitty, find a dog, make a fishing pole, knit a sweater, shoot some birds, adopt a friend, fix a computer, dig a hole, talk to old people, clean a side walk, plant a garden, get a second job, make-over one of your friends, make videos for youtube, try to fly, build an airplane, make a tree house, build a boat, find some treasure, do some graffiti, the possibilities are endless!!!!!!! ahahaha1!
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    Sep 03, 2012 5:21 AM GMT
    Go into the dark, Carol Anne.
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    Sep 03, 2012 5:27 AM GMT
    unfounded7 saidGo into the dark, Carol Anne.


    Ok but I am only just beginning to see the lighticon_twisted.gif

    But if you say so sir,
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    Sep 03, 2012 5:22 PM GMT
    gelandewagen saidPROJECTS!
    Start a business, fix a car, adopt a kitty, find a dog, make a fishing pole, knit a sweater, shoot some birds, adopt a friend, fix a computer, dig a hole, talk to old people, clean a side walk, plant a garden, get a second job, make-over one of your friends, make videos for youtube, try to fly, build an airplane, make a tree house, build a boat, find some treasure, do some graffiti, the possibilities are endless!!!!!!! ahahaha1!

    This.
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    Sep 03, 2012 5:24 PM GMT
    meninlove are amazing. They make up for ................the unmentionables.
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    Sep 03, 2012 5:24 PM GMT
    northoz saidSo for all you single gay men that have been out for a while now, what is it you do to loose the jade?
    Throw a hissy fit, post a rant thread, and break something...preferably a pencil.
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    Sep 03, 2012 5:27 PM GMT
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    northoz saidSo for all you single gay men that have been out for a while now, what is it you do to loose the jade?
    Throw a hissy fit, post a rant thread, and break something...preferably a pencil.


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    Sep 03, 2012 6:44 PM GMT
    Oh, this one's simple.

    Just find new and wonderful ways to be negative!
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    Sep 03, 2012 6:48 PM GMT
    theantijock saidOh, this one's simple.

    Just find new and wonderful ways to be negative!


    I could suggest some better ways.......icon_wink.gif
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    Sep 03, 2012 6:57 PM GMT
    I think as you get older and go through more and more you start to become unable to just shake things off like you once did.

    I don't think it's being jaded though maybe more wise about what certain things can happen in certain situations. Being jaded kinda makes you see the bad side to everything, being wise lets you see the potential pit falls of certain situations.

    Either way, buck up, life aint over and you still have a lot of things left to experience and enjoy!
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    Sep 03, 2012 7:15 PM GMT
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    theantijock saidOh, this one's simple.

    Just find new and wonderful ways to be negative!


    I could suggest some better ways.......icon_wink.gif


    Always go with your strengths dear.
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    Sep 03, 2012 7:44 PM GMT
    Turn off the computer and go outside for some fresh air.
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    Sep 03, 2012 8:01 PM GMT
    HottJoe saidTurn off the computer and go outside for some fresh air.


    Yep. Exercise really helps too...
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    Sep 03, 2012 11:35 PM GMT
    Thanks guys I hear you. Its been a crappy few months, for those of you that dont know I had a good mate die while running one morning. he was super fit and healthy. I guess on some level it made me question my entire life. then I was bed ridden for almost 3 weeks with the flu. It all got on top of me and although I coped, I just felt like i'd lost that zest for life.

    Funny thing is, and I've found this before, once I posted the original topic almost instantly things started to change.


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    Sep 03, 2012 11:40 PM GMT
    HottJoe saidTurn off the computer and go outside for some fresh air.
    There's no such thing as "fresh air" when it's been in the triple-digits for the past two months straight.
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    Sep 03, 2012 11:45 PM GMT
    northoz saidI am always reminded of how sweet and supportive some guys are even in the face of trolls, think men in love, they always have something positive to say.

    I often become jaded by online gay sites and besides this one I hardly even bother with any other sites anymore. I have had a shit year, particularly this past few months. I know Im becoming more and more jaded. what i normally do to shake this feeling is workout or go for a long walk or hike, but lately this doesnt seem to be working.

    So for all you single gay men that have been out for a while now, what is it you do to loose the jade?

    Well the truth is it tends to never truly go away untill you either find someone or some thing that brings joy into your life, but it wont always stay constant either. I have felt the same way for some time but its seems to be on and off. Sometimes either taking time for your self and dong something to get your mind off of being jaded helps and sometimes its takes a special person to help make it go away. Sometimes all you need is a good friend to talk to to help you. icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 26, 2012 5:01 PM GMT
    I think to get out of feeling jaded, you must put the focus on yourself. Take time to heal and for your mental attitude to get back to a healthy, open state. I'm definetely jaded right now, so I'm taking some 'me' time, getting off the merry-go-round of using dating apps and casual hookups. I'm going to meditate, work, explore NYC, enjoy my hobbies and make new friends.