People Think My Friend and I Are A Couple. WTF?

  • CalmSpirit

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    Sep 04, 2012 2:37 AM GMT
    Why do some guys immediately think you are dating your best friend when you are hanging out?

    I've recently come across a few guys who have said they thought me and one of my closest friends were a couple. I'm always taken aback by this because I dont think we do anything that says we are a couple.
  • Alexhernandez

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    Sep 04, 2012 2:58 AM GMT
    dont lisseon to them they r dunm as hell
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    Sep 04, 2012 3:06 AM GMT
    Alexhernandez saiddont lisseon to them they r dunm as hell

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    Never mind. I just can't. It would be too easy.
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    Sep 04, 2012 3:08 AM GMT
    CalmSpirit saidWhy do some guys immediately think you are dating your best friend when you are hanging out?

    I've recently come across a few guys who have said they thought me and one of my closest friends were a couple. I'm always taken aback by this because I dont think we do anything that says we are a couple.

    Every guy I have dated have asked me if I have messed around with my friend Zach all the time and of course two of them tried to cheat on me for my friend zach as well. I guess it has to do with a lot of gay guys tend to fuck their gay friends but not all gay guys do that I know I wouldnt touch my friend even if he was the last guy on earth lol.
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    Sep 04, 2012 3:38 AM GMT
    So far
    My best friend Brett and I always get confused as a couple
    My other best friend Emma and I always get confused for a couple
    and lastly my sister and I when we go places always get confused for a couple.

    People are, in day to day life, quite narrow in their thinking and just assume most of their days away.
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    Sep 04, 2012 3:39 AM GMT
    No offense, but this is a very, very minor issue. If you are truly disturbed by this, you shouldn't be, at all. It isn't uncommon for men/women to date/fall in love with their friends so that's why they are asking. It's a testament to your chemistry. Many "friends" even get married. There have been countless movies and tv show storylines built around this. Don't sweat the small stuff.
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    Sep 04, 2012 3:44 AM GMT
    Have you watched FRIENDS? lol

    It happens to me sometimes except it's a girl, so yeah but she has a boyfriend so then they think it's something worse. Just tell them what's up and if they don't believe it, move on.
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    Sep 04, 2012 3:56 AM GMT
    It's happened to me on occasion, people think I'm dating my friend, especially if I go dancing with them. *Shrugs*
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    Sep 04, 2012 4:07 AM GMT
    I ran into this with my gay mentor when I first came out, and he would be my escort to gay bars & clubs. Everyone, and I mean everyone, complimented us for making such a "good-looking couple".

    Which both amused and embarrassed us, since neither of us was the other's type, and he still nominally had a partner, though they were soon to break up (and not because of me - we never had sex).

    So perhaps the OP and his friend make a "good-looking couple" together, and that prompts the erroneous conclusions. And as several guys here have already commented, a minor issue unless you make it a major one.
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    Sep 04, 2012 4:28 AM GMT
    Myol saidNo offense, but this is a very, very minor issue. If you are truly disturbed by this, you shouldn't be, at all. It isn't uncommon for men/women to date/fall in love with their friends so that's why they are asking. It's a testament to your chemistry. Many "friends" even get married. There have been countless movies and tv show storylines built around this. Don't sweat the small stuff.


    *tips hat at Myol* I think so, too.

    ..and CalmSpirit, perhaps you exude a warm and intimate demeanor in the presence of those you care about, romantically or not, and others are picking up on it. This is really then a very great compliment, I think.
  • JosephC

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    Sep 04, 2012 4:42 AM GMT
    Uuugh I hate that! Only it happens with my brother and I. Maybe I'm imagining things but you know when you feel "the eyes;" people always look at us funny, it weirds me out.
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    Sep 04, 2012 4:53 AM GMT
    i always assume if i see two cute guys at the club talking and giggling that theyre together.
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    Sep 04, 2012 5:12 AM GMT
    oh boo hoo hahaha

    Please until they start thinking your sister is your girlfriend you aint got no problems!
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    Sep 04, 2012 5:12 AM GMT
    People also confuse my sister and I as a couple because we get along so well lol
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    Sep 04, 2012 5:17 AM GMT
    we both find it funny thankfully. We don't look alike and have different fathers but people just don't see the resemblance we have.
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    Sep 04, 2012 8:12 AM GMT
    lilTanker saidwe both find it funny thankfully. We don't look alike and have different fathers but people just don't see the resemblance we have.


    whats worse is that my sister and I look like brother and sister eww
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    Sep 04, 2012 8:26 AM GMT
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    Sep 04, 2012 9:29 AM GMT
    northoz saidSo far
    My best friend Brett and I always get confused as a couple
    My other best friend Emma and I always get confused for a couple
    and lastly my sister and I when we go places always get confused for a couple.

    People are, in day to day life, quite narrow in their thinking and just assume most of their days away.


    Ha well said
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    Sep 04, 2012 9:37 AM GMT
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    Alexhernandez saiddont lisseon to them they r dunm as hell

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    Never mind. I just can't. It would be too easy.


    LOL

    Was thinking the same thing...
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    Sep 04, 2012 9:40 AM GMT
    Don't take offense to it. It may just be people see the two of you together a lot. Are you two very touching in public? If so, it may keep potential boyfriends away thinking the same thing.
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    Sep 04, 2012 9:56 AM GMT
    CalmSpirit saidWhy do some guys immediately think you are dating your best friend when you are hanging out?

    I've recently come across a few guys who have said they thought me and one of my closest friends were a couple. I'm always taken aback by this because I dont think we do anything that says we are a couple.


    Honestly...I think this bothers because deep down you have feelings for this guy. I think you actually like it, and are looking for validation from people saying "Maybe you should try dating him." I'm not hating. I've been there before.
  • LuckyGuyKC

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    Sep 04, 2012 11:17 AM GMT
    Here is why people think you are a couple: You probably act like you like each other .... have fun, smile a lot, and show respect.

    BTW maybe we should be best friends before we couple .... it lasts longer.
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    Sep 04, 2012 11:56 AM GMT
    People always think that my friend and I are a couple (girls always). They even go as far as to assume that their kids are mine too! And one of them is a black mix baby!
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    Sep 04, 2012 12:26 PM GMT
    When I was single and in "hunt mode" I would generally avoid couples. Maybe they weren't romantically involved or exclusive, but I didn't want the trouble and potential waste of my time finding out. Nor did I want to be mistaken for being unavailable myself.

    So when I went somewhere with a gay friend we'd quickly split up for much of the time, to each improve our odds with guys who wouldn't approach couples, just like I wouldn't. Maybe some of the guys here need to do that, too, if being mistaken for a pair is hurting their chances.

    On the other hand, at times when I was with a real BF it could be amusing to watch aggressive guys try to break us up, not at all intimidated by our being an actual couple. They were after him, never me, and might employ the "wingman" technique to get me out of the picture by using another guy to engage me. They never succeeded, though we'd let them think it was working for a while. And then laugh about them afterwards in the car going home together.
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    Sep 04, 2012 12:42 PM GMT
    My friends and I run into this all the time..never bothered us!..
    ..Once in a while we use it to our advantage ...!
    ...Once in a while we play it off just to mess with nosy folks!