Common things guys say in a relationship that are traps

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    Sep 04, 2012 6:09 AM GMT
    You know these actually exist. When guys say something but they actually meant another. Some classic examples:

    "Seriously, I'm not mad at you." (with a real sour face).
    Translation: But I'm fucking furious with what you did / didn't do.

    "Honestly, I don't care about your sexual history"
    Translation: But I can't believe you slept with that many guys.

    "I am fine with you going out and hanging out with your friends".
    Translation: But if you go, don't come back.

    These are classic traps with subtexts. What are some of the other ones in relationship that you've encountered before?
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    Sep 04, 2012 6:52 AM GMT
    Never done any of those...

    My trap is if I tell you no and you do it anyway... I'll be pissed... Perhaps I'm just not doing it right
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    Sep 04, 2012 7:04 AM GMT
    CityRiver saidYou know these actually exist. When guys say something but they actually meant another. Some classic examples:

    "Seriously, I'm not mad at you." (with a real sour face).
    Translation: But I'm fucking furious with what you did / didn't do.

    "Honestly, I don't care about your sexual history"
    Translation: But I can't believe you slept with that many guys.

    "I am fine with you going out and hanging out with your friends".
    Translation: But if you go, don't come back.

    These are classic traps with subtexts. What are some of the other ones in relationship that you've encountered before?



    "Oh yeah, I'd totally like to get to know you better."
    Translation: "So when can we fuck?"

    "Oh...yeah. I'll call you."
    Translation: "Psssht...Next. Block."

    "Oh yeah, I'm always safe. I never bottomed without a condom but I will for you."
    Translation: "Mmm.. I hope his dick is as nice as the last guy who did me."

    My favorite! "It's not you, it's me."
    Translation: "It's so you. It's so totally you."

    "Yeah, you're cute."
    Translation: "Eh, you're okay, I guess..."
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    Sep 04, 2012 12:09 PM GMT
    ParadiseLost said
    CityRiver saidYou know these actually exist. When guys say something but they actually meant another. Some classic examples:

    "Seriously, I'm not mad at you." (with a real sour face).
    Translation: But I'm fucking furious with what you did / didn't do.

    "Honestly, I don't care about your sexual history"
    Translation: But I can't believe you slept with that many guys.

    "I am fine with you going out and hanging out with your friends".
    Translation: But if you go, don't come back.

    These are classic traps with subtexts. What are some of the other ones in relationship that you've encountered before?



    "Oh yeah, I'd totally like to get to know you better."
    Translation: "So when can we fuck?"

    "Oh...yeah. I'll call you."
    Translation: "Psssht...Next. Block."

    "Oh yeah, I'm always safe. I never bottomed without a condom but I will for you."
    Translation: "Mmm.. I hope his dick is as nice as the last guy who did me."

    My favorite! "It's not you, it's me."
    Translation: "It's so you. It's so totally you."

    "Yeah, you're cute."
    Translation: "Eh, you're okay, I guess..."


    LOL - you are funny. Thanks for the laugh
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    Sep 04, 2012 12:36 PM GMT
    Translation ..You chose the wrong guy!
  • calibro

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    Sep 04, 2012 12:53 PM GMT
    original: hey honey, look at the salads here, they look great

    translation: bitch, you're bottoming tonight so you better be clean.
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    Sep 04, 2012 1:19 PM GMT
    "Those extra 20 lbs look sexy on you."
    Translation: "We're having broccoli for dinner...for the next two months."
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    Sep 04, 2012 1:21 PM GMT
    Guys suck! icon_cry.gif
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    Sep 04, 2012 1:40 PM GMT
    JR_RJ saidGuys suck! icon_cry.gif
    Translation: Most of them are terrible at it.
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    Sep 04, 2012 1:47 PM GMT
    They say, "I love you just the way you are"
    Translation: "I have plans to remake you completely. And you better change."

  • HottJoe

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    Sep 04, 2012 1:48 PM GMT
    I did this for us.
    Translation: don't stand in my way.
  • neosyllogy

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    Sep 04, 2012 1:53 PM GMT
    Um not that such subtexts never exist, but I've said and heard those things many times withOUT any subtext. Don't go making everyone paranoid. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 04, 2012 1:53 PM GMT
    Only immature asshats in dysfunctional relationships say this shit.
  • neosyllogy

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    Sep 04, 2012 1:55 PM GMT
    paulflexes said"Those extra 20 lbs look sexy on you."
    Translation: "We're having broccoli for dinner...for the next two months."

    Hahaha.
    Yeah, dealing with body changes in someone you care about can be tricky... especially for some people.
    In general helping someone who's not doing what they want, but is self-conscious about where they are can be hard. You have to ride that line of showing that you're there for them while also pushing them out of their rut. (Assuming the dynamic of your relationship allows for that.)
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    Sep 04, 2012 1:55 PM GMT
    They say: "That shirt looks great on you, man"
    Translation: "At least you can wear halter tops...I have man shoulders icon_neutral.gif "
  • rnch

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    Sep 04, 2012 2:39 PM GMT
    "I love you but I'm not IN LOVE with you."
  • metta

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    Sep 04, 2012 3:59 PM GMT
    A little correction:

    Common things guys say in a PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE relationship that are traps
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    Sep 04, 2012 4:04 PM GMT
    metta8 saidA little correction:

    Common things guys say in a PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE relationship that are traps


    Eureka; subtext requires context. icon_wink.gif
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    Sep 04, 2012 4:21 PM GMT
    "I'm fine with whatever restaurant you pick."

    Translation: as long as you pick the one that I like. Don't you know how to read my mind by now?!
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    Sep 04, 2012 4:34 PM GMT
    CityRiver said"I'm fine with whatever restaurant you pick."

    Translation: as long as you pick the one that I like. Don't you know how to read my mind by now?!


    LOL! This reminds me from something I read in MAD magazine.

    Man and woman looking at cars. They tell each other whatever the other wants is fine fine fine. They decide to flip a coin.

    "Dammit," she says, when it comes up heads for the Chev Olds, "I wanted the Porsche"
    He says, disappointed, "Yeah, so did I."
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    Sep 04, 2012 4:52 PM GMT
    LIEV saidOnly immature asshats in dysfunctional relationships say this shit.

    +1

    One of the many perks in dating men rather than women is they usually say what they mean.
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    Sep 04, 2012 5:02 PM GMT
    Ckfeezy said
    LIEV saidOnly immature asshats in dysfunctional relationships say this shit.

    +1

    One of the many perks in dating men rather than women is they usually say what they mean.



    +1
    the key word in your comment is MEN. because lots of boys create artificial drama. gender alone is not determining it. it's personal choice not to mindfuck your partner.
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    Sep 04, 2012 5:40 PM GMT
    Ckfeezy said
    LIEV saidOnly immature asshats in dysfunctional relationships say this shit.

    +1

    One of the many perks in dating men rather than women is they usually say what they mean.


    Exactly.Passive-aggressive manipulation doesn't work on me. If you're being a bitch, I'll walk away. One of the many reasons I love men is because they are generally logical, up front and direct.

    Say what you mean, do what you say you will do.
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    Sep 04, 2012 5:40 PM GMT
    Not relationship-related, but still traps that too many people fall for...


    "Hey bro, could you get my soap please?"
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    "Ay chirrens! I gots some FREE CANDY!!"
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    ....smh....
  • mindblank

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    Sep 09, 2012 11:14 AM GMT
    I thought only women did that, say one thing and mean another. I have not encountered this.