What to say if you're not interested

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    Sep 04, 2012 6:14 AM GMT
    If you're not interested in someone, would you rather be straight-forward and say it or just let it fizzle?
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    Sep 04, 2012 7:11 AM GMT
    justtheme saidIf you're not interested in someone, would you rather be straight-forward and say it or just let it fizzle?


    Nah, I'm pretty straight forward. icon_smile.gif I wish people were that honest with me though. icon_neutral.gif
  • FuriousGeorge

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    Sep 04, 2012 7:37 AM GMT
    Depends. I'm all about being straightforward, but sometimes if I think they'll take the hint when I don't reach out to them, I'll just let it play out that way. That's easier for some people. If I get contacted by them, then I'll be more up front.
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    Sep 04, 2012 12:04 PM GMT
    FuriousGeorge saidDepends. I'm all about being straightforward, but sometimes if I think they'll take the hint when I don't reach out to them, I'll just let it play out that way. That's easier for some people. If I get contacted by them, then I'll be more up front.


    in other words you are an half ass coward
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    Sep 04, 2012 12:05 PM GMT
    Always straight up. The guy is left in absolutely no confusion where we stand.
  • FireDoor211

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    Sep 04, 2012 12:22 PM GMT
    I like to say, "go get a hobby" or "go get a job"
  • rnch

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    Sep 04, 2012 12:30 PM GMT
    [quote][cite]Blondizgd said...in other words you are an half ass coward[/quote]



    Tough Talk from someone who is afraid to post a face pic anywhere on this site....




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    Sep 04, 2012 12:33 PM GMT
    Fizzle = Leading on ..
    Fizzle = Games..
    Fizzle = Dishonesty..

    You can let someone know you are not interested without being mean, or disrespectful...
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    Sep 04, 2012 12:35 PM GMT
    "I'm not interested."
  • calibro

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    Sep 04, 2012 2:10 PM GMT
    i take the lumpy space princess route
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    Sep 04, 2012 2:18 PM GMT
    I'm not interested in you . one of the nicest ways I can say it and be clear
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    Sep 04, 2012 2:22 PM GMT
    Thanks, but I don't think we are going to be a good match.

    Straighforward and honest, but kind as well.
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    Sep 04, 2012 2:56 PM GMT
    just say i'm a republican, and they never talk to you again. on the other hand, i find that telling them i have AIDS works the best.
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    Sep 04, 2012 3:07 PM GMT
    justtheme saidIf you're not interested in someone, would you rather be straight-forward and say it or just let it fizzle?


    Hmmm...what to say?
    Well, that would depend on the reason for not being interested. icon_wink.gif
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    Sep 04, 2012 3:21 PM GMT
    I'm very straight-forward!
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    Sep 04, 2012 3:32 PM GMT
    Most guys are adept enough to take a hint. If they persist then I say "sorry we arent a match"
  • FuriousGeorge

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    Sep 04, 2012 4:40 PM GMT
    Blondizgd said
    FuriousGeorge saidDepends. I'm all about being straightforward, but sometimes if I think they'll take the hint when I don't reach out to them, I'll just let it play out that way. That's easier for some people. If I get contacted by them, then I'll be more up front.


    in other words you are an half ass coward


    Gee, melodramatic much? It's not like I duck people. Sometimes you meet a person and just don't bother to follow up. I'd love to see the personalized rejection cards you mail to each person you meet. I'm sure the embossing is remarkable.
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    Sep 04, 2012 4:42 PM GMT
    You're a gay man, so naturally if you're not interested in someone there's only one thing you can do. Go out with them, compliment them, pretend you're having a really good time, and at the end of the date say "I had such an amazing time tonight! Let's definitely do this again!" and then when he calls or messages you ignore all the messages and disappear off the face of the earth.
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    Sep 04, 2012 4:47 PM GMT
    And then if you run into them again be all "Hey!!! How are you???? How have you been???" all enthusiastic and when they bring up why you didn't respond to their messages (IF they bring it up, because odds are he'll also pretend he never sent you any messages just to avoid conflict himself) be all "Huh??? Really??? I never got any of those messages! But my phone's been acting REALLy crazy lately LOLZ so that's probably what happened icon_smile.gif" and he'll be all "oh sure no prob! even though no one could possibly buy that piece of shit story about a phone malfunctioning and never receiving any of the messages but he'll smile and pretend everything is ok even he thinks you're a douche but would still totally go out with you again if you asked even though you consistently treated him like shit.


    ...not that...any of this is from experience or anything....just purely hypothetical.
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    Sep 04, 2012 4:56 PM GMT
    best to be direct, honest, straight-forward, but kind. (the last part is the hardest part, if the person is too persistent).

    saying nothing leaves the door open to repeated advances, and imho is cowardly. the other guy could be confused, in that you didn't say "no" so its like an invitation to re-approach.
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    Sep 04, 2012 5:05 PM GMT
    I am not interested
  • IAmTheOneWhoK...

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    Sep 04, 2012 5:13 PM GMT
    You turned me straight.
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    Sep 04, 2012 5:16 PM GMT
    Ariodante saidYou're a gay man, so naturally if you're not interested in someone there's only one thing you can do. Go out with them, compliment them, pretend you're having a really good time, and at the end of the date say "I had such an amazing time tonight! Let's definitely do this again!" and then when he calls or messages you ignore all the messages and disappear off the face of the earth.


    lol, but all of that is immitating straight people.
  • FuriousGeorge

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    Sep 04, 2012 5:20 PM GMT
    Ariodante saidAnd then if you run into them again be all "Hey!!! How are you???? How have you been???" all enthusiastic and when they bring up why you didn't respond to their messages (IF they bring it up, because odds are he'll also pretend he never sent you any messages just to avoid conflict himself) be all "Huh??? Really??? I never got any of those messages! But my phone's been acting REALLy crazy lately LOLZ so that's probably what happened icon_smile.gif" and he'll be all "oh sure no prob! even though no one could possibly buy that piece of shit story about a phone malfunctioning and never receiving any of the messages but he'll smile and pretend everything is ok even he thinks you're a douche but would still totally go out with you again if you asked even though you consistently treated him like shit.


    ...not that...any of this is from experience or anything....just purely hypothetical.


    HAHAHAHA, can't say it's ever gone that far with me, but point taken.
  • SoDakGuy

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    Sep 04, 2012 5:41 PM GMT
    "I can only offer friendship and nothing else." No apologies. Direct and to the point.