How and when to come out...

  • agrayp

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    Sep 04, 2012 4:35 PM GMT
    So, I need some advice and/or coming out stories would be nice as well-just whatever you think could help me..

    I recently came out to my two roommates (whom are both straight) and they didn't have a problem with me, being bi. And then a couple weeks after That I came out to one of my closest friends. I found it super hard to tell them although I consider them to be my best friends and they have no problem with it at all!

    The problem is coming out to my family.. They're southern baptist so I dont know how they will handle me be being gay or even bi. I want to tell them within time but I don't know when or how I should because I'm super close to them and I don't want to seem like a burden or lose them or our relationship to vanish. I mean, I'm still the same person and still a Christian-I just can't help that I'm attracted to and like guys as well...

    So, Any advice?
  • TheBizMan

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    Sep 04, 2012 7:08 PM GMT
    Plenty of topics about this
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    Sep 04, 2012 7:22 PM GMT
    I hit a point in my life where things couldn't get any worse. That was the time when I came out to my conservative parents.
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    Sep 04, 2012 11:38 PM GMT
    Don't tell them near a Holiday.
    Not knowing the dynamics of your family it's hard to give advice. You can get an idea of their reaction by knowing how they feel about gay issues. If they are very negative, then odds are they will be to you. Then again, they could surprise you and accept it. You can pray for the best, but be prepared for the worst.
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    Sep 05, 2012 1:22 AM GMT
    bring ur bf back to ur parent's home for dinner.
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    Sep 05, 2012 1:42 AM GMT
    agrayp saidSo, I need some advice and/or coming out stories would be nice as well-just whatever you think could help me..

    I recently came out to my two roommates (whom are both straight) and they didn't have a problem with me, being bi. And then a couple weeks after That I came out to one of my closest friends. I found it super hard to tell them although I consider them to be my best friends and they have no problem with it at all!

    The problem is coming out to my family.. They're southern baptist so I dont know how they will handle me be being gay or even bi. I want to tell them within time but I don't know when or how I should because I'm super close to them and I don't want to seem like a burden or lose them or our relationship to vanish. I mean, I'm still the same person and still a Christian-I just can't help that I'm attracted to and like guys as well...

    So, Any advice?


    Hmn.. As a poster said before, there may be other topics like this around, with other individuals wanting to come out. I think it may help you. If you still want advice though, feel free to ask. icon_smile.gif

    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/2471038/

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    I hope those links help. icon_biggrin.gif
  • CMIYC

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    Sep 05, 2012 1:44 AM GMT
    Are you gay or bi ?
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    Sep 05, 2012 1:44 AM GMT
    Never come out.
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    Sep 05, 2012 1:47 AM GMT
    Come out when hiding who YOU really are becomes a burden and strain to YOU and threatens YOU emotional/psychological wellbeing.

    YOU are ultimately responsible for YOUR own wellbeing.

    EVERYONE AND THEIR CIRCUMSTANCES ARE DIFFERENT; THERE IS NO ONE-SIZE-FITS-ALL ANSWER TO YOUR QUESTION.
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    Sep 05, 2012 1:53 AM GMT
    agrayp saidI'm still the same person and still a Christian-I just can't help that I'm attracted to and like guys as well...

    So, Any advice?


    Once you come out to your family you will never be the same person to them, and that's not necessrily a bad thing. Once I came out to my family they all concurred that I was the happiest they had seen me in a very long time. I became who I was truly meant to be and it showed to everyone around me. I've become a healthier, happier, person since coming out.

    And it won't be long before the call of the cock will eclipse the call of the Baptist Church.