What the term boyfriend means?

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    Sep 04, 2012 10:50 PM GMT
    I was discussing with a friend what the difference between dating is and when you become someone's boyfriend and we had very different responses.

    For me, dating is when you are first getting to know someone and deciding if you like them or not. You become someone's boyfriend once you gone on a couple of dates and realize that you want to be exclusive with them and agree that you both are interested in maybe becoming more later down the road.

    My friend says that two people dating is them still getting to know each other. Two people as boyfriends is two people saying that this is it, this is the one, I'm going to marry this person.

    What is your opinion?
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    Sep 04, 2012 10:54 PM GMT
    SMedd saidI was discussing with a friend what the difference between dating is and when you become someone's boyfriend and we had very different responses.

    For me, dating is when you are first getting to know someone and deciding if you like them or not. You become someone's boyfriend once you gone on a couple of dates and realize that you want to be exclusive with them and agree that you both are interested in maybe becoming more later down the road.

    My friend says that two people dating is them still getting to know each other. Two people as boyfriends is two people saying that this is it, this is the one, I'm going to marry this person.

    What is your opinion?


    I like the first response better. It's more reasonable and less irrational.
    A boyfriend is someone who you will be exclusive to. It may lead to something more, it may not though. If somsone is your boyfriend- it doesn't necessarily mean you will end up marrying them, it just means you are mutually exclusive to eachother.

    A bromance is what happens before you're boyfriends.
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    Sep 04, 2012 11:25 PM GMT
    SMedd saidI was discussing with a friend what the difference between dating is and when you become someone's boyfriend and we had very different responses.

    For me, dating is when you are first getting to know someone and deciding if you like them or not. You become someone's boyfriend once you gone on a couple of dates and realize that you want to be exclusive with them and agree that you both are interested in maybe becoming more later down the road.

    My friend says that two people dating is them still getting to know each other. Two people as boyfriends is two people saying that this is it, this is the one, I'm going to marry this person.

    What is your opinion?


    I have a similar view to you. I "date" around people to get to know them better but I don't actually start "seeing someone" until I make up my mind. During the time I date, I don't do anything sexual with my partner. We talk, we eat, we laugh, and have fun. If there's something more, I let it grow but I don't seek out others demanding anything to take place.

    Boyfriend is the stage where I am exclusive to my partner and no longer can/will see any others. I am his/her and his/her alone. icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 04, 2012 11:47 PM GMT
    SMedd saidWhat is your opinion?

    Just my opinion, based on what I've done myself:

    Dating: Going out with the same guy a number of times, for purposes that aren't defined by sexual relations alone, like dinners, movies, clubbing, etc. No long-term commitments have been made as you both explore the relationship, getting to know each other better.

    Boyfriend: You're now decided to focus on each other more exclusively in an LTR. Others see you as a regular couple together, and having sex is likely a routine part of your lives.

    Partners: You probably are living together now in a permanent relationship. You are sharing your income & property, have (or should have) drawn mutual wills and other legal protections, and you plan to marry when that option is available to you. Pronouns like "me" and "my" are shared equally with "us" and "our".
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    Sep 05, 2012 12:03 AM GMT
    I'm more inclined to agree with your version.
    As boyfriends you do become exclusive to each other to assess the viability of a relationship. The Relationship is when you know that you are "IT" for each other.
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    Sep 05, 2012 12:38 AM GMT
    I gave up on "boyfriend" when the term was used by teenage girls in my youth.

    Lord only knows what gays should use, but I doubt there will be uniformity. meh
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    Sep 05, 2012 12:54 AM GMT
    I find the terminology very confusing, because everybody is slightly different.

    What is the difference between all these things?
    "dating"
    "going on date"
    "in a relationship"
    "exclusive" or "dating exclusively"
    "boyfriend"

    For me dating = going on dates, this is what you do when you're getting to know somebody. When you decide that your are dating exclusively, you enter a relationship and become that person's boyfriend.

    For many people I've talked to, however, "dating exclusively" is some sort of intermediate step between "dating" and "relationship."
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    Sep 05, 2012 1:01 AM GMT
    I don't know. I guess you know when you're 'there' and it's mutual.

    The term 'friend' is also questionable.
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    Sep 05, 2012 1:09 AM GMT
    The term boyfriend is something I keep close, one that actually means that you are going to give the relationship your all.
    Exclusive, meanful, and a term that should be kept close until you actually know that this person is worth your time for more than just a couple months.
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    Sep 05, 2012 1:20 AM GMT
    boyfriend: i just farted in front of you, and you have to deal with it if you want buttsecks later
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    Sep 05, 2012 1:23 AM GMT
    SMedd saidI was discussing with a friend what the difference between dating is and when you become someone's boyfriend and we had very different responses.

    For me, dating is when you are first getting to know someone and deciding if you like them or not. You become someone's boyfriend once you gone on a couple of dates and realize that you want to be exclusive with them and agree that you both are interested in maybe becoming more later down the road.

    My friend says that two people dating is them still getting to know each other. Two people as boyfriends is two people saying that this is it, this is the one, I'm going to marry this person.

    What is your opinion?



    then why do people have several boyfriends?
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    Sep 05, 2012 1:23 AM GMT
    calibro saidboyfriend: i just farted in front of you, and you have to deal with it if you want buttsecks later


    Or farting in his face while he's attending to business back there. Oddly not as horribly embarrassing as you'd think!
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    Sep 05, 2012 1:30 AM GMT
    Ariodante said
    calibro saidboyfriend: i just farted in front of you, and you have to deal with it if you want buttsecks later


    Or farting in his face while he's attending to business back there. Oddly not as horribly embarrassing as you'd think!


    as long as it's not a wet fart
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    Sep 05, 2012 1:34 AM GMT
    Means you get to have sex without feeling guilty
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    Sep 05, 2012 1:44 AM GMT
    HAHA I was having this same conversation with a friend. My view is much like Art_Deco's. She thought it was odd that I thought that way.
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    Sep 05, 2012 2:01 AM GMT
    Art_Deco said
    SMedd saidWhat is your opinion?

    Just my opinion, based on what I've done myself:

    Dating: Going out with the same guy a number of times, for purposes that aren't defined by sexual relations alone, like dinners, movies, clubbing, etc. No long-term commitments have been made as you both explore the relationship, getting to know each other better.

    Boyfriend: You're now decided to focus on each other more exclusively in an LTR. Others see you as a regular couple together, and having sex is likely a routine part of your lives.

    Partners: You probably are living together now in a permanent relationship. You are sharing your income & property, have (or should have) drawn mutual wills and other legal protections, and you plan to marry when that option is available to you. Pronouns like "me" and "my" are shared equally with "us" and "our".


    I really liked this response!

    Also in my own words a boyfriend can be defined as someone who you want to devote spending time with. He makes you happy, feel loved, special, and just brings a smile to your face. When you two are together there is nothing better, you could be sitting next to the President for that matter and although you are excited to meet the man himself, in the back of your mind you're thinking I can't wait to tell (fill in BF name) ALL ABOUT THIS!! He is your go to guy that you're constantly thinking about as you go about your day. When you hear your phone buzz you get excited thinking it's a text/call from him; and if it isn't him you get somewhat disappointed and wont bother responding to your friends text.lol No matter how challenging things may get you are willing to go the extra mile for this guy because you know what you have with him is worth it.

    I'm newly single. Can you tell...:/
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    Sep 05, 2012 2:02 AM GMT
    dating is let me get up on this pole just to try it, boyfriend is- imma make a career outta this pole
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    Sep 05, 2012 2:03 AM GMT
    Basically what you just said is correct. There's a difference between dating and being in a relationship. You can date many people, but you can only be (or rather, should be) exclusive to one.
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    Sep 05, 2012 2:13 AM GMT
    JackBlair69 saidIt means a man who sticks his penis in another man's mouth, and vice versa. "Boyfriends."


    I'm pretty sure there are plenty of people who do that even without being "boyfriends" or "going steady" (e.g. trolls, trollops, sluts, pornostars, et cetera). icon_neutral.gif
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    Sep 05, 2012 2:16 AM GMT
    A boyfriend is something i'll prob never have lol

    but srsly, if I ever did get in a relationship, I would want it to be only exclusive between us. I feel that if we really care about each other, we will be able to be monogamous and faithful. I dono...mayb I'm just being unrealistic icon_sad.gif
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    Sep 05, 2012 2:24 AM GMT
    a boyfriend is indeed someone who you're more exclusive to and use sharing words with (us/our/we).

    Also... you do still go on dates with each other, and it's the step under fiancee.
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    Sep 05, 2012 2:30 AM GMT
    calibro saidboyfriend: i just farted in front of you, and you have to deal with it if you want buttsecks later


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    Sep 05, 2012 2:42 AM GMT
    Anocxu said
    calibro saidboyfriend: i just farted in front of you, and you have to deal with it if you want buttsecks later


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    Sep 05, 2012 2:52 AM GMT
    Being a good boyfriend, and having a good boyfriend usually means going beyond the basic definition of the word... you play more roles* for one another. I want to do that again... someday, someone will make me lucky again. Its ALWAYS WORTH IT.
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    Sep 05, 2012 3:34 AM GMT
    I agree that "Dating" is the "getting to know you stage." ...you see a cute person at a mall/restaurant/bar/party, etc. and decide to exchange numbers; and then later decide to text, or call this person in order to set up a time/date to hang out with JUST that other person...this could possibly include sex, depending on what feels right for those two individuals (and what's in their comfort zone).

    If all goes well on this and several other dates; numerous follow-up texts, and/or phone calls; and these two cannot stop thinking about one another (and, hopefully, in more ways than one)...then they can talk about seeing each other more exclusively... this is what I would consider becoming "boyfriends."
    Sometimes, boyfriends can and will also decide to move in with each other (and will NOT call/consider themselves "partners"), and at this stage, they might start uttering the "three word phrase" that many of us long to hear. Love will be new for them in their relationship, and when this love grows -- significantly -- they may decide to get a partnership with that current boyfriend.

    IMO, boyfriends cannot progress to the "partner" stage unless they have a signed "domestic partnership" for, at the very least, their city; their state; or even further, a marriage that is allowed by their state or province, etc. (or at least would consider doing so). A partnership also involves a lot more common-law interests... shared properties, bank accounts, vehicles, credit cards, expenses, debts, etc.. A lot of partnerships also involve a longer length of time knowing and caring for one another; and more than likely, they'll have a rich, memory-filled history (good and bad) that further links them to one another. COMMITMENT is a key, here. One looks out less for themselves in a partnership, and looks at things with more of a "What's good for the two of us as a couple" type of mentality. They would, in a partnership, consider moving out of state with the other - if a job were to move one out of their current city, or if there was an educational opportunity that would be great for the other's career, and ultimately, both of their lives in the long run. Talk of children, living trusts, care of an older loved-one (like an elderly parent who may need special care) might be discussed, and provisions made for these new circumstances/decisions. More often than not, things that might end a relationship for two boyfriends, might scar a partnership, but due to their history, and love, will not end the said partnership... a lot more can be said here, but I am getting tired of writing. LOL