When do you know you really love someone?

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    Sep 05, 2012 3:11 PM GMT
    Let's talk about love. How do you know you love someone? In-love-in-love though, not "I love you but I'm not in love with you" crap.
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    Sep 05, 2012 3:47 PM GMT
    If you have to ask you're not in love.
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    Sep 05, 2012 3:53 PM GMT
    being "in love" is a high that can come and go

    but loving someone is to want the best for them in life. to ensure and share in the richest experience of life you can have. that can take a wide variety of forms.
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    Sep 05, 2012 4:35 PM GMT
    There's a lot of stuff to it, but you know you love that guy when you can't stop thinking about him.
  • Drift

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    Sep 05, 2012 7:03 PM GMT
    And where are the other borderlines of lust, obsession, Infatuation, etc? Are all those also part of being 'in-love'? Or are they separate? Can you fall in and out of love over time while still loving them in that 'wanting the best for them' way? Just throwing more questions out there.
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    Sep 05, 2012 7:45 PM GMT
    Good question but really the only answer is 'you'll know it when it happens'. Love comes in many flavors that don't really complete us but when you find the true love that 'is the one', you feeling it deep within and you just know that's it.
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    Sep 05, 2012 7:51 PM GMT
    Egro_Nadley saidbeing "in love" is a high that can come and go

    but loving someone is to want the best for them in life. to ensure and share in the richest experience of life you can have. that can take a wide variety of forms.


    +1, I love you! 11.gif , okay OP now what love is this!? icon_razz.gif
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    Sep 05, 2012 8:07 PM GMT
    You just know...
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    Sep 05, 2012 8:07 PM GMT
    "Love is passion, obsession, someone you can't live without. I say, fall head over heels. Find someone you can love like crazy and who will love you the same way back. How do you find him? Well, you forget your head, and you listen to your heart. And I'm not hearing any heart. Cause the truth is, honey, there's no sense living your life without this. To make the journey and not fall deeply in love, well, you haven't lived a life at all. But you have to try, cause if you haven't tried, you haven't lived."

    From Meet Joe Black
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    Sep 05, 2012 8:10 PM GMT
    when you dont have to think about and analyze it.
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    Sep 05, 2012 8:13 PM GMT
    har19 said
    Egro_Nadley saidbeing "in love" is a high that can come and go

    [u]but loving someone is to want the best for them in life. to ensure and share in the richest experience of life you can have. that can take a wide variety of forms.[/u]


    +1, I love you! 11.gif , okay OP now what love is this!? icon_razz.gif


    Agreed* and you can love again; though differently, to the same capacity, with different people over time.

    There are guys I know on this site, who don't believe they'll ever get there again... for whatever reason; or that cause their loved was betrayed, all love is false. This isn't the case, and you can make it work, you just have to be willing to sort through life, dating and experience to get there. Its different for everyone, but it still Is.
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    Sep 05, 2012 8:15 PM GMT
    you know you love someone when you see all sides of the person, good bad and ugly, and you know none of that matters, and you're willing to put up with it.
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    Sep 05, 2012 8:15 PM GMT
    SkittleGangsta said"Love is passion, obsession, someone you can't live without. I say, fall head over heels. Find someone you can love like crazy and who will love you the same way back. How do you find him? Well, you forget your head, and you listen to your heart. And I'm not hearing any heart. Cause the truth is, honey, there's no sense living your life without this. To make the journey and not fall deeply in love, well, you haven't lived a life at all. But you have to try, cause if you haven't tried, you haven't lived."

    From Meet Joe Black




    I'm not delusional.

    I'm Hopeful.
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    Sep 05, 2012 8:16 PM GMT
    I got distracted from my daily routine thinking about him, and couldn't wait to see him again.

    I felt awful when he felt awful, but his smile and laugh made me fly.

    It hurt to be away from him.
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    Sep 05, 2012 8:41 PM GMT
    Cranky_No_More saidI don't believe in it, personally. Very unhealthy business, if you ask me.

    Its as unhealthy as learning to shoot a gun. It's only in how you choose to use it, or allow yourself to be used by it... hope that latter part doesn't sound too creepy? icon_neutral.gif
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    Sep 05, 2012 8:50 PM GMT
    ...when you are away from this person - like at work, or grocery shopping, etc. - and even after years of being together, you think good thoughts about them, and wonder what they are doing at that very moment; wondering if they would like the lunch you just had and/or the car that you just saw pass. It could all be nothing special really. ...but just the thought of them warms your heart, and makes you wish that they were right there with you. All the while knowing, that if anything were to ever happen to them, that your world would NOT be the same; and that you'll do whatever possible to make sure that your loved one is protected and happy in life - whether with or without you.
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    Sep 05, 2012 9:24 PM GMT
    When it comes, you just know it...
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    Sep 05, 2012 9:25 PM GMT
    When your willing to die for them.

    You look into their eyes one morning and you just know they will be with you for life.
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    Sep 05, 2012 9:26 PM GMT
    whateveryo saidWhen your willing to die for them.

    You look into their eyes one morning and you just know they will be with you for life.

    On the otherside of the coin is, being Willing to Live for/with/beside them.
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    Sep 05, 2012 10:19 PM GMT
    If u've lived with someone for over a year and still care about their well being, and haven't considered homicide, then u love them.
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    Sep 05, 2012 10:24 PM GMT
    FireDoor211 saidIf u've lived with someone for over a year and still care about their well being, and haven't considered homicide, then u love them.



    LOLOL!!!! This.
  • melloyello

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    Sep 06, 2012 7:29 AM GMT
    Think it was when my perennial crush (which continues to this day) whos the smart, funny, tall, built, perfect-haired, perfect-teethed owner of a personal training company who spends 8 hours day teaching bootcamps outside asked me why we never went out and honestly, in that moment, I realized I wouldn't trade the one I was with at the time for 100 smart, funny, etc personal trainers.

    I still wouldn't...but sometimes it doesn't work out like that.

    *sigh*
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    Sep 06, 2012 8:02 AM GMT
    I'd say when two guys have a thread together with a gazillion posts and countless hours of banter.

    (I think Clay and DIN love each other.... and I think they're each in pain right now.)

    When does online become real?

    Are the emotions any less than RL ? icon_cry.gif
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    Sep 06, 2012 8:11 AM GMT
    When you find yourself camping out in the bushes by "His" bedroom window..with expensive camera equipment you just stole from Best Buy..

    Thats love !! icon_eek.gif
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    Sep 06, 2012 9:40 AM GMT
    JumpMan_Josh saidIf you have to ask you're not in love.


    This. icon_smile.gif