This is my personal experience with Gay Republicans. It is not intended to tell someone who they are, merely the common threads I see when I interact with groups such as the Log Cabin Republicans.
I rarely encounter G.R.s who are self hating. In fact it's quite the opposite, they are very enamored with themselves. In this country if you are wealthy you have advantages. By definition, the top 1% is anybody with an AGI of $343,927 or more, with the average 1% AGI being 960K.
When one has this kind of income, you dont have to worry about having your rights protected. Lawyers, Journalists, Politicians, Judges, Captains of Industry; all of these are in your iPhone when you have that kind of income. The last time I had a dispute with a contractor, my attorney friend sent a threatening letter on my behalf, for free 'cause we're buddies, and the contrator caved. Had I taken him to small claims court, there would be a 1 in 4 chance the judge would have been a member of my country club and my attorney friend probably would have prepared my case for me for free. I would most certainly have gotten my case on television if I'd wished because the local TV anchorman for the 6 o clock news is my neighbor. One phone call and their consumer protection reporters would have been interviewing me that night. It's not what you know but who you know and if you're "rich" then you know other "rich" people.
So if G.R.s dont have to worry about their rights, what about things like marriage? Most G.R.s that I've met dont want to get married. When you have a certain amount of money, you worry about other people trying to get their hands on it. For the G.R.s there is no worry of alimony, palimony, or division of assets. Your relationship is virtually non existent in the eyes of the law so there is no legal claim. Your "rent boy" cant come after your money. If he cheats on you, he's out on his pretty little ass and you dont have to provide spousal support. There is never a need for a pre-nup because there is no marriage. If you're partnered with someone who currently makes the same income as you, never fear if you start making far more money years into your relationship. He cant touch it because ? ? ? you guessed it... your marriage doesnt exist.
So while this is going to make me wildly unpopular with an entire block of people, my personal experience and observation is that most republicans, gay or straight, care about money first and people second. If you are a republican and you believe this is a totally false statement in relation to yourself, great. I salute you. Keep up the good work and keep promoting people first from within your own party.