u ever get nervous around the guy u like?

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    Sep 06, 2012 4:32 PM GMT
    i feel stupid asking this and NOT tryin to sound like a 16 year old girl, but i get nervous around this guy I like. Heart starts racing, sweaty palms, its not cool at all.

    I play it cool. We talk. but damn im not good at this. How do i make it stop? icon_sad.gif
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    Sep 06, 2012 5:34 PM GMT
    I get nervous around straight guys that I'm attracted to for some reason.
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    Sep 06, 2012 8:32 PM GMT
    There's a guy I see out and about when I'm in SF that is way hot, but I think the nervousness I feel is because I know his partner could kick my ass in a skinny minute.
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    Sep 06, 2012 8:36 PM GMT
    I like to think of it as losing the ability to do normal things, like speak, think clearly, or focus on what I was doing before he came around. It goes away, after more time together.
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    Sep 06, 2012 8:48 PM GMT
    klassik saidI play it cool. We talk. but damn im not good at this. How do i make it stop? icon_sad.gif

    First, what you're describing is normal. And realizing that may be the simplest way to not be too worried about it.

    You're not being a 16-year-old girl. Your heart is SUPPOSED to race when you see a guy you like. That's how you know you like him. A friendly DUH! there.

    But I know, you don't wanna show it. That takes practice & control. There's no substitute for just doing it often enough that you get the habit.

    If you're a car fanatic like me, how do you go into a showroom and not drool all over the car you want, so that the salesman doesn't pick up on it, ruining your price bargaining ability? You practice being unemotional, detached & cool, and let him think he's selling you the car against your wishes, offering you every incentive he can. Self-control is the only secret I can offer.

    BTW, I was just up in Boca this morning playing golf. How DO you stand those Republican Boca Bitches? They're another instance where I have to use zen-like meditation techniques to not show my true emotions in their presence, to appear civil & agreeable. If I can do that, then YOU can chill yourself in the presence of hotties. icon_wink.gif
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    Sep 06, 2012 9:50 PM GMT
    JR_RJ saidI like to think of it as losing the ability to do normal things, like speak, think clearly, or focus on what I was doing before he came around. It goes away, after more time together.


    ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^
    This.. You'll feel more comfortable around him the more time you spend with him.. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 06, 2012 10:23 PM GMT
    no i get pisseed lol
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    Sep 06, 2012 10:52 PM GMT
    All the effin' time! My normally outgoing self turns rather quiet and shy...which makes most people think that I've got some chip on my shoulder and they end up calling me an uptight bitch.
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    Sep 06, 2012 11:01 PM GMT
    fuzzywuzzy saidAll the effin' time! My normally outgoing self turns rather quiet and shy...which makes most people think that I've got some chip on my shoulder and they end up calling me an uptight bitch.


    haha that's what im worried about man. Him reading it the wrong way. im normally chill and outgoing and confident but when I start talking to this one guy....i freeze up. dammmn. He's sexy too, I want him to like me, but he aint gonna like me if im all bla bla bla around him icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Sep 06, 2012 11:02 PM GMT
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    klassik saidI play it cool. We talk. but damn im not good at this. How do i make it stop? icon_sad.gif

    First, what you're describing is normal. And realizing that may be the simplest way to not be too worried about it.

    You're not being a 16-year-old girl. Your heart is SUPPOSED to race when you see a guy you like. That's how you know you like him. A friendly DUH! there.

    But I know, you don't wanna show it. That takes practice & control. There's no substitute for just doing it often enough that you get the habit.

    If you're a car fanatic like me, how do you go into a showroom and not drool all over the car you want, so that the salesman doesn't pick up on it, ruining your price bargaining ability? You practice being unemotional, detached & cool, and let him think he's selling you the car against your wishes, offering you every incentive he can. Self-control is the only secret I can offer.

    BTW, I was just up in Boca this morning playing golf. How DO you stand those Republican Boca Bitches? They're another instance where I have to use zen-like meditation techniques to not show my true emotions in their presence, to appear civil & agreeable. If I can do that, then YOU can chill yourself in the presence of hotties. icon_wink.gif


    haha I hear u, art. I mostly stick to the east side of boca by the universities and there's more tolerable people there i guess haha never really ran into many republicans...then again im not out on the golf course either icon_razz.gif
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    Sep 07, 2012 12:39 AM GMT
    klassik saidi feel stupid asking this and NOT tryin to sound like a 16 year old girl, but i get nervous around this guy I like. Heart starts racing, sweaty palms, its not cool at all.

    I play it cool. We talk. but damn im not good at this. How do i make it stop? icon_sad.gif


    All the time. :S
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    Sep 07, 2012 12:42 AM GMT
    Adrenaline rush sometimes.
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    Sep 07, 2012 1:00 AM GMT
    klassik saidhaha I hear u, art. I mostly stick to the east side of boca by the universities and there's more tolerable people there i guess haha never really ran into many republicans...then again im not out on the golf course either icon_razz.gif

    I drove past the FAU campus on the way home at noon. I don't run into the hateful, anti-gay Republicans on the golf course, though I know they're there, because you really only spend time with your own golfing party. My golfing partner today has an adult gay son.

    Where I do encounter retarded Republicans is at Boca social functions, like theatrical productions, musical soirees, private dinner parties and such. I've even been confronted and insulted by Republicans in people's homes because I'm gay.

    You soon realize when dealing with Republicans that having money very rarely bestows refinement upon them. They are merely noisy crass malcontents who think income imparts intelligence, and cash conveys class. They don't. icon_razz.gif
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    Sep 07, 2012 1:06 AM GMT
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    JR_RJ saidI like to think of it as losing the ability to do normal things, like speak, think clearly, or focus on what I was doing before he came around. It goes away, after more time together.


    ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^
    This.. You'll feel more comfortable around him the more time you spend with him.. icon_biggrin.gif

    Of course... but that is a learned skill. I've had to learn to keep a level head if he decides he really dislikes, likes or would rather befriend me. It can be a bumpy ride after things get officially squared away between two people. icon_wink.gif
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    Sep 07, 2012 1:25 AM GMT
    Cranky_No_More saidNot me. I don't get nervous because nothing's going to happen.

    Odd snippet of advice hinted there... icon_neutral.gif
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    Sep 07, 2012 3:03 PM GMT
    Cranky_No_More saidNot me. I don't get nervous because nothing's going to happen.


    well i want something to happen. icon_smile.gif baaaaad
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    Sep 07, 2012 3:06 PM GMT
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    klassik saidhaha I hear u, art. I mostly stick to the east side of boca by the universities and there's more tolerable people there i guess haha never really ran into many republicans...then again im not out on the golf course either icon_razz.gif

    I drove past the FAU campus on the way home at noon. I don't run into the hateful, anti-gay Republicans on the golf course, though I know they're there, because you really only spend time with your own golfing party. My golfing partner today has an adult gay son.

    Where I do encounter retarded Republicans is at Boca social functions, like theatrical productions, musical soirees, private dinner parties and such. I've even been confronted and insulted by Republicans in people's homes because I'm gay.

    You soon realize when dealing with Republicans that having money very rarely bestows refinement upon them. They are merely noisy crass malcontents who think income imparts intelligence, and cash conveys class. They don't. icon_razz.gif


    FAU!!!! hahah yup yup
    see u wont catch me at a "boca social function" like that. I usually chill with my friends, my frat brothers, go to some clubs in lauderdale or delray or somethin. I never go to soirees lol. if i go to the theatre its always the theatre on campus lmao, not many repubs there.

    im not gonna be living in boca forever tho. I imagine when i find a new place to live im gonna move south to broward or somethin.
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    Sep 07, 2012 3:15 PM GMT
    he came over last night.. spent the night at my place..... icon_smile.gificon_smile.gificon_smile.gificon_smile.gif
    we had dinn, I paid lol.
    we wanted to watch some movies back at my place after dinn but i didnt have a dvd player, so he actually made me drive him to Target and he bought me a dvd player. .....dammmn, thats when I knew I'm crushhhin hard lol

    so we get back to my place and he's hooking up the dvd player and we just start makin out like fuckin crazy for a good 30 to 40 minutes. that was a long time comin too, cause I had met up with him twice before and we just talked and laughed and chilled and didnt kiss or anything, and I was WANTING to so bad, but didnt make a move. I couldn't read him. He's hard to read,