I love myself a lot... but that does NOT mean I think I am "wonderful", "beautiful", "exceptional", "capable of anything". In fact, it takes A LOT of self love to be able to see oneself with all the flaws included and STILL love oneself after that.
Self love is NOT narcissism. Narcissists DO NOT love themselves. Let's stop this misconception once and for all!
OP, your intention is good, but the title is misleading. Self love is NOT about having an inflated view of yourself. When you love yourself, you are capable of seeing yourself as you truly are. You don't seek compensations such as "oh, I'm short, so I must be smart". You don't fabricate qualities you don't have. You just accept and LOVE who you are for being who you are, regardless of how inferior / superior you are to anyone in any criteria imaginable.