HOW WAS YOUR FIRST?

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    Aug 20, 2008 4:41 AM GMT
    You may call me lame or boring but I've never been with a guy. My life has been work, sports and fitness but I need to try something new. Nervousness could be one factor. Can you offer some advice basing from your exeperience?
  • dcarm

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    Aug 20, 2008 5:18 AM GMT
    lame, boring, neither of those cover it. Gorgeous Body seems to fit the bill much better.
    For some serious advice (with a particular focus on bottoming, since it's typically the worst first time activity):

    Choose carefully: make sure it's someone you feel you can trust. This particularly applies if you're bottoming. My first time the guy basically ploughed straight on in and ignored me asking him to just stop and let me get used to it. Choose someone you know will respect your wishes and will take it slow.

    Relaxation: know you can be comfortable with the guy. There are areas which we're not used to consciously controlling involved here, you need to be relaxed enough that you can relax these muscles.

    Lube: Too much is almost enough. repeat after me.

    Practice: Yep, I said practice. Go and get yourself some toys. Get one that you like the look of, and then get some of varying thicknesses from quite thin up to the size of the one you like the look of. Play with those toys (and again, heaps of lube). Go slow, ease them in, and let yourself get used to them. play back there with a finger or two and "stretch" before you insert anything.

    Speed: You saw what I said about practice? The same applies whether it's a guy or a toy. Start out slow, once it's all the way in and you're used to it, you can speed things up if you want. Again, stretch first.

    Hope that Helps!
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    Aug 20, 2008 6:15 AM GMT
    Akward because I wasn't ready yet.

    The second guy was nicer and still think of him with respect.
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    Aug 20, 2008 10:40 AM GMT
    The first time was good because we had actually dated and gotten to know each other a bit. I was 25 so a bit of a late bloomer, and the sex was good but not fantastic.

    He unfortunately passed away in 1997. It was a big shock to me when I found out. There is something about your "first" that is special.
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    Aug 20, 2008 5:25 PM GMT
    My first was great! It was a guy who I had seen at the beach all summer long. He would wear a light blue speedo and had a nice tight muscle body w/ blond hair and blue eyes.

    I waved at him one Saturday at the beach and he came up and talked w/ me. I told him I thought he was very hot and that I would really like to hook up & told him I was a virgin. He turned me done at first, but as we talked he invited me back to his place.

    He taught me the ropes on giving a good BJ (no teeth) and other things. Afterwards we just cuddled and talked more.

    I felt great after that 1st time and was on a high for weeks thinking about what he had done to me and for me.
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    Aug 20, 2008 6:53 PM GMT
    I was lucky: my first time was good. I was 18 and he was 30. He gave me my first bj (a transcendent experience) and I gave him my first bj (his dick was smallish, so it was a good starter kit). We kissed and cuddled afterwards and he told me I was beautiful (which I needed to hear). I hope your first is as nice.
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    Aug 21, 2008 2:52 AM GMT
    Thanks for all the words of wisdom. Especially dcarm. I now have better understanding of things. Now all I have to do is start lookingicon_smile.gif
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    Aug 21, 2008 11:35 PM GMT
    Well, It was in high school and we had a sleep over. I told him we did not have to, but he wanted it.
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    Aug 23, 2008 3:23 AM GMT
    my first was unspeakably horrible. Took him forever to come. He wanted a blow and go so I was left hard, dripping, and unfulfilled.

    My second though was sublime. He pushed buttons I didn't even knew I had. Call me #2.
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    Aug 23, 2008 6:34 AM GMT
    My first time was great, I was in my late 20s and had been thinking about it for a looooong time. Had a small dildo which I'd played with occasionally and knew how to get clean. Anyway, the guy was just my type, big, well built, dark Italian looking, and had the biggest piece of meat I have ever seen, scared me at first sight but I was so ready. Took it all no probs, made sure I started off sitting on top of him so I would be in control and could get used to it, but needless to say we move onto quite a few other positions, it was awesome! As it turned out he was married with child, he kept ringing me for weeks after wanting to catch up again but I never did, I felt guilty that he was cheating on his wife (obviously he didn't). Ah I was so nieve back then.
  • GQjock

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    Aug 23, 2008 11:22 AM GMT
    My first time was not really of my own making
    a guy seduced me when I was in college

    but if you're curious .. hell
    go for it
    nothing to be nervous about
    make it as much fun and sexy as you can
    don't jump into the sack with the first guy you can tho
    It might be disappointing... find a guy who right away Makes you think about sex icon_cool.gif
  • dcarm

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    Aug 24, 2008 10:46 AM GMT
    fildelight saidThanks for all the words of wisdom. Especially dcarm. I now have better understanding of things. Now all I have to do is start lookingicon_smile.gif


    You're welcome, any question you have, I'm willing to answer in embarassingly honest detail as required. (that goes for all of you, I do embarassingly honest detail quite well :lolicon_smile.gif

    jrsmelb had some good advice too about the sitting on top. That can be a good thing or a bad thing. I've found that I tend to tighten up a bit in that position, so it's not a good starter for me, but lots of other people have it work really well for them.
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    Aug 29, 2008 6:13 AM GMT
    fildelight saidYou may call me lame or boring but I've never been with a guy. My life has been work, sports and fitness but I need to try something new. Nervousness could be one factor. Can you offer some advice basing from your exeperience?


    My first ( I was 16 or 17): I met a guy from the chat room (I know it was dangerous). It was lousy because I didn't really like the guy.
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    Aug 29, 2008 3:26 PM GMT
    It was awsome.......for both of usicon_twisted.gif