Your Boyfriend's mother and facebook.

  • helios01

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    Sep 07, 2012 1:57 AM GMT
    Okay well I have been dating my guy for 4. something months. We both are closeted in our primary families, but his mom knows about us. We made it official on facebook(that is how she found out we were dating) and everything was fine..... until a few weeks ago she friend requested me on facebook. I haven't met her in person yet and well idk what to do. I wanted to ask if any of you have been in this situation. any advice? thanks in advance guys.

    P.S. I talked to my bf about it but he just thinks its cute i'm panicking

    P.P.S. Sorry if this has been posted
  • FuriousGeorge

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    Sep 07, 2012 2:40 AM GMT
    Friend her, but then put her on a special list that doesn't show her any of your statuses or pics. Facebook lets you distinguish between friends now and what they can see. She probably won't notice the difference.
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    Sep 07, 2012 3:54 AM GMT
    I often just do not respond. Don't deny it, just don't accept it. If the subject ever comes up, just say that you're very private about your facebook and generally don't accept requests without knowing the person well.

    Some of them I never accept. I don't need all my family members and some friends to know who I socialize with, what I post or what I respond to. I also have 2 FB accounts. One for my friends and one for family, again, it's a privacy thing. You could start a new FB with family only.
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    Sep 07, 2012 8:39 AM GMT
    I would friend her. If this relationship goes the distance, you certainly want her as a friend (both on and off fb).
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    Sep 07, 2012 12:55 PM GMT
    It's nice when the family of the BF or partner accepts you. I've always been treated very well by the families of all the BFs I've had, and my late & present partners.

    No horror stories to tell, though a few times I was tense at the first meeting in person, after the BF had told me to expect the worst. And each time it went perfectly, and stayed that way throughout the relationship.

    In fact, one elderly mother viewed me as her son's protector, and was reluctant to see us part. She used to have me over to dinner all the time, the four of us including the father would also go out to dinner together, she even let me sleep in her son's bedroom with him at their home, when his own place was temporarily unavailable. (The father, BTW, was becoming senile and was clueless, thought I was just his son's guy pal, but also friendly to me)

    So I'm willing to believe that this FB friending is a good sign, and not to panic. And if it doesn't go well just unfriend her.
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    Sep 07, 2012 1:03 PM GMT
    My bf's Mom facebooked me, and she posts to me more than to him. I'd agree with your boyfriend, nothing to over-react about.
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    Sep 07, 2012 1:36 PM GMT
    FuriousGeorge saidFriend her, but then put her on a special list that doesn't show her any of your statuses or pics. Facebook lets you distinguish between friends now and what they can see. She probably won't notice the difference.

    This.
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    Sep 07, 2012 2:16 PM GMT
    yourname2000 said
    Trollileo said
    yourname2000 said...I haven't met my BF's mom nor he mine. (We're at 9mo.)
    You could have birthed a child in that time frame.

    Thankfully I'm on the pill.


    LOL! Trollileo beat me to it.

    Congrats Mr Yourname and Mr Intensity!

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