ParadiseLost saidI disagree. I think it's true on many levels and also based off of my analysis of others. The theories behind the assertions seem to be valid enough on different points. Being "a man" is not a 2012 invention. The wheel has not been reinvented, just modified and changed over the years and centuries. The same misogynistic attitudes that are held about women are held against men-- depending on the generation, I suppose. I can't say the ideas are fully supported in Bieber's generation but I know they are increasingly more than true with Generation Y and before.
No, the part that's stupid is that 'masculine' men have a harder time coming out? Seriously?
And how about that claim that it's the 'masculine' homos who make the straight boys nervous?
Stupid through and through.
"The reason that homosexual men who don’t fall into the common “girly-man” stereotype do not come out is because of an intense fear of being excommunicated from their social group. Suddenly, once ‘out,’ they are no longer a man. They aren’t a girl, either, or the subcategory of womanhood where we like to put our gay men.
I think what the author -may- have been trying to say is people are who have always been masculine and have never been as anything else may fear that rejection because the group that they are surrounded by expect them to be 'masculine, strong, dominant' which is exactly antithetical to the traditionally held belief of what a gay man is supposed to be-- a bottom-loving drag queen who portrays himself in weak and effeminate sort of way. To these people, the ideologies are a raging contradiction. "How can you be gay AND masculine!? Impossible!"
In your defense, I'd say that this is not so much of an issue in certain Westernized societies but then again, the article was written nearly 3 years ago. There have been some obvious changes made advancing a more progress and tolerant approach of gay men and what their identities are like.
I don't know about the claim how "masculine homos that make straight men nervous."
"Modern society has evolved to such a hyper-socialized, hyper-labeling place. We find safety in the blacks and whites of life. The gray areas–the natural domain of the masculine gay men–scares us. And it’s just this oppressive influence, this gravitational pull to the edges–that does make it so difficult for a person to come out, especially if the person is popular. Imagine what kind of ridicule the high school quarterback would suffer if everyone knew that he was gay. What would he do if all of his friends ostracized him? It’s not like he can be expected to go hang out with the fairies in the drama club. And it’s not as if they’d want him anyway.
I think this fear is a bit dated and may not apply as much in 2012 America; however, what I gather from this excerpt seems to portray these intolerant and homophobic men fearful of the masculine variant. No longer can they point fingers and demonize the camp ass goblin as the only form of homosexuality. They see (in their eyes) a new contender to challenge contemporary views of what a homosexual is in the eyes of heterosexual; this man who is muscular, masculine, dominant and needs not rely on effeminate behavior to convey himself. This is/was terrifying to these homophobic men because it makes them wonder "Well, I've known Dude A all my life and he always acted like such a Jock. If he's gay... does that mean I am too?"
As I've said before once, We Fear what we Hate and we Hate what we Fear.
The article explains no one wants to be ostracized and it's in our nature to want to be wanted, to be included. We're social mammals and as such we want to be accepted. Homosexuals were (and still are in some ways) seen in a negative light by society but especially by homophobic men. It's as stigmatizing as HIV to these fellows.
The author contends "being a flaming queer" is easier probably because it's what heterosexuals normally assume homosexuals to act like-- vibrantly flamboyant men who hoot their junk in gay parades and become an eyesore, clothing wise. He concludes with: "And it is much easier to acquiesce to the inequality of the world that you live in than it is to chuck it all away.
Because it is. It's absolutely true. People DO find it easier to simply conform and accept the cards they are dealt by society.
Also, what's the deal with the donation thing?
It's not for the writer. It's for the company, Alt Daily.