So I just put down my cat...

  • stratavos

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    Sep 07, 2012 5:20 AM GMT
    She was 14 years old, had cat aids for the last two years. She really had problems in the last 3 days (not eating, barely drinking water, and progressively being unable to walk). She also had a big lump a tad lower down her spine past the right shoulder blade. I "took care of her" this afternoon (thursday) and as requested by mom and dad, left her body in the freezer for the burial after the get back from the cottage. I miss her so much and am not really sure how to overcome these feelings (I'm crying right now as I type this).

    If any of you have gone through this, please let me know how you got through the following weeks icon_sad.gif
  • MikemikeMike

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    Sep 07, 2012 11:02 AM GMT
    sorry to hear, sounds like she was suffering too long. I don't understand the freezer thing, but you can do as you see fit.
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    Sep 07, 2012 11:09 AM GMT
    I'm so sorry to hear about your cat! 14 years! She was lucky to have such a loving and kind master.*Hugs!
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    Sep 07, 2012 12:19 PM GMT
    I lasted 45min. Called and adopted two more while while bawling my eyes out to Sylvana at the greyhound center.

    OP your furry companion didn't have anything to leave behind, except you. If you check the last will and testament, your warm open heart and home has been willed to another furry friend. Go fill that huge empty space in your soul. It's what your companion would have wanted. Don't wait!
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    Sep 07, 2012 1:42 PM GMT
    So sorry bud - my heart goes out to you. I had to put down both my lil boys. One in 2005 (he was 19) and the other last year (he was 16). Each time on my way home, I had to pull off the road because I was bawling so hard. They are like choldren - unconditional in their love and trust. I pray they rest in peace.
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    Sep 07, 2012 1:45 PM GMT
    Damn.. That sucks.. I've never had a cat but I did take care of a few wild puppies living out in the street while I was in Romania, the next day I realized one of them got hit by a truck and it was an instant-kill.. I never cried so much in my life.

    You need to go to someone, you can't handle this all by yourself.
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    Sep 07, 2012 2:13 PM GMT
    I am so, so sorry. I have lost three kitties in my adult lifetime - each was horrible. One died of a heart condition in my arms on the way to the vet. One we had to euthanize because he was old and had multiple ailments, and his quality of life had finally evaporated. One (last year, I think I posted about it) had an aggressive tumor that surgery couldn't remove, we had to euthanize him when there was nothing more we could do and it was clear he was in pain. I cried for days each time. All three (well, the ashes of the first two) are now buried under new gingko trees at our farm. I still talk to them when I pass those trees.

    I'm generally not a sentimental person and don't really believe in an afterlife, but the poem The Rainbow Bridge has always given me some comfort. I hope it helps you.

    The Rainbow Bridge
    inspired by a Norse legend

    By the edge of a woods, at the foot of a hill,
    Is a lush, green meadow where time stands still.
    Where the friends of man and woman do run,
    When their time on earth is over and done.

    For here, between this world and the next,
    Is a place where each beloved creature finds rest.
    On this golden land, they wait and they play,
    Till the Rainbow Bridge they cross over one day.

    No more do they suffer, in pain or in sadness,
    For here they are whole, their lives filled with gladness.
    Their limbs are restored, their health renewed,
    Their bodies have healed, with strength imbued.

    They romp through the grass, without even a care,
    Until one day they start, and sniff at the air.
    All ears prick forward, eyes dart front and back,
    Then all of a sudden, one breaks from the pack.

    For just at that instant, their eyes have met;
    Together again, both person and pet.
    So they run to each other, these friends from long past,
    The time of their parting is over at last.

    The sadness they felt while they were apart,
    Has turned into joy once more in each heart.
    They embrace with a love that will last forever,
    And then, side-by-side, they cross over… together.
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    Sep 07, 2012 2:17 PM GMT
    My cat was the same age. I buried him in the back woods in a hand made burial box near a stream bed. I see him and think fondly of him every time I work in the shade garden.

    Healing does take time. But it will happen.
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    Sep 07, 2012 2:20 PM GMT
    So sorry to hear about this. One of my dogs I had to put down a few years ago was going blind and losing his hearing. We ended up having to put him down because he got bit, but we actually found out he was also having heart palpitations on top of everything else and so it was best that he be put down. He still could have lived as long as 6 more years, but they wouldn't have been easy years for him. You did what was best, it can be hard to accept that because it's not easy to let go, but it was the right choice. Best of luck!!
  • FitGwynedd

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    Sep 07, 2012 2:31 PM GMT
    Very sorry to hear about your loss.
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    Sep 07, 2012 2:50 PM GMT
    I'm so sorry for your loss. Stay strong.
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    Sep 07, 2012 2:51 PM GMT
    Sorry to hear of your loss. I had to put down my cat back in February. icon_cry.gif It does get easier and having other pets to care for has helped.
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    Sep 07, 2012 3:24 PM GMT
    Big hug. I'm sorry, never easy. They are family.
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    Sep 07, 2012 3:25 PM GMT
    Losing a member of your family is never easy, regardless of the number of legs they have, fur, feathers or scales.

    The loss of several dogs over the years has led me to believe that a change in the routines you had is a very important thing to begin with for the next few weeks.

    Keep your schedule mixed up, so the 'triggers' that prompt you to think of her aren't as present in the front of your mind.

    *hugs*
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    Sep 07, 2012 3:25 PM GMT
    MikemikeMike saidsorry to hear, sounds like she was suffering too long. I don't understand the freezer thing, but you can do as you see fit.
    Its the same damn thing they did to your grandmother..... DUHicon_rolleyes.gif
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    Sep 07, 2012 4:02 PM GMT
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    MikemikeMike saidsorry to hear, sounds like she was suffering too long. I don't understand the freezer thing, but you can do as you see fit.
    Its the same damn thing they did to your grandmother..... DUHicon_rolleyes.gif


    We stored our last kitty's body in the spare fridge for a few days until we could bury him. I don't know why anyone wouldn't understand this.
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    Sep 07, 2012 4:40 PM GMT
    stratavos saidShe was 14 years old, had cat aids for the last two years. She really had problems in the last 3 days (not eating, barely drinking water, and progressively being unable to walk). She also had a big lump a tad lower down her spine past the right shoulder blade. I "took care of her" this afternoon (thursday) and as requested by mom and dad, left her body in the freezer for the burial after the get back from the cottage. I miss her so much and am not really sure how to overcome these feelings (I'm crying right now as I type this).

    If any of you have gone through this, please let me know how you got through the following weeks icon_sad.gif


    In May, I had to put down Daisy, a rescue dog, due to lymphoma, and in June I had to put down Kitty Man, a rescue cat, because of complications from diabetes and a weak heart. Both lived out many, many years, safe and loved.

    They're missed. There are times when I expect to see Daisy rearing her front legs anxiously awaiting a treat, or Kitty Man mellowing out in the sun on the front porch bench. Everyday there still seems to be little reminders of each one.

    Until your companion is laid to rest, the loss will likely weigh heavily. I wish there were some quick remedy to ease this. What I can share from experience is that the heart has an amazing capacity to love, to hurt, and to heal. The absence of your cat will resonate for a while, she was with you since you were young. And you'll find as time passes, and as you move forward, your feelings will not be so overwhelming.



  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Sep 07, 2012 4:44 PM GMT
    stratavos said
    If any of you have gone through this, please let me know how you got through the following weeks icon_sad.gif


    I'm so sorry for your loss. Been through this many times (though with dogs) and every time I went out and got another puppy within a week. You can never replace the old pet, though the memories will always remain, but having a new one to love and be loved by helps you move on from the sadness of the loss.
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    Sep 07, 2012 4:57 PM GMT
    I lost both if my cars last year. It tools weeks for me to stop instinctively look for them in there favorite places.

    I wrote down all the things I could remember about them do I will never forget them ...and if the memories fade, I will be able to read and remember them completely.
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    Sep 07, 2012 5:00 PM GMT
    stratavos said
    If any of you have gone through this, please let me know how you got through the following weeks icon_sad.gif


    I lost 4 cats in the past few years. I have one left. One I was very very bonded to. His passing was harder than anything else that has occurred since that most people would consider more life altering.

    How?

    I forced myself into a strict routine of cardio. not b/c of fitness, but b/c i was seriously grieving. i cried all the time.it sucked. i swear i thought i was losing my mind. i can still close my eyes and see him.

    it might not work for everyone, but that is the answer to the question you asked. i changed my work schedule and watched BONES on tv every day on the elliptical every day. i was basically a zombie.
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    Sep 07, 2012 5:06 PM GMT
    Caslon20000 saidI lost both if my cars last year. It tools weeks for me to stop instinctively look for them in there favorite places.


    Was their favorite place in your garage or a local parking facility? icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Sep 07, 2012 5:08 PM GMT
    yourname2000 saidI've been there, and my heart goes out to you. My last kitty-lover's kidneys failed and he had to be put down several years ago.

    I don't have any suggestions except to cry it out....again and again and again, as needed. Treasure the memories and honour her in whatever small ways you can find --I still use his name as my "secret question" on most websites that request such a thing.

    When the time is right ---and I would suggest actually not waiting too long for this--save another cat (or cats) from the SPCA. I couldn't live without my lil' buddy, so I think it was only 4 or 5 weeks later that I started looking for a new furry friend. And since C was at times lonely when I wasn't home, I was determined to find a pair this time. Within a week or so, I found two beautiful maine coon kitties, a brother and sister pair. When I looked in his eyes (he was huge trapped in this relatively tiny cage, looking at me with this soulful look), I knew we'd be great together. His sister had a wide-eyed alertness that was so cute and attentive. And I took them home and started to fall in love all over again.

    No new pet will "replace" the lil' girl you lost today. But I bet you'll love pouring your love into another ready vessel. Today Bonnie and Clyde are the apples of my eye...she follows me around like a lost puppy....and he's the king of head-butting to get my attention. He's dopey and she's hyper, and we cuddle up together just like I did with C.

    I still think of C often. He had the cutest habit of calling me to bed late at night....these loud 'screams', calling me off the computer, lol. "Shaddap!" I'd yell in jest, and he'd wimper some disagreement...and then an hour later, it would all repeat, until I finally came to bed with him. Those memories never go away. But your heart is big enough to love again....if it wasn't, I doubt you'd be feeling the way you are right now.

    Big hugs, dude.


    I loved reading this.

    - a cat lover as well
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    Sep 07, 2012 5:11 PM GMT
    Fourteen years is a good, long life for a pet. I'm glad you had so many years of love and enjoyment. I've had a lot of cats & dogs and have rarely been able to have so many years. I'm sorry for your loss. My thought is that we will be reunited with our pets one day.

    Another thing that helps me when I lose a beloved pet, is to get another one soon - and give that empty space in my house (& heart) to another loving, deserving pet - - - - - one who needs a warm place to call 'home'.
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    Sep 07, 2012 5:19 PM GMT
    It's hard to lose a pet. But with time, I've found the sadness over the loss fades and the happy memories of good times remain. Hang in there!
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    Sep 07, 2012 5:39 PM GMT
    OP..I feel for you i was a cat owner myself..i know how those cute , obnoxious, loving critters can steal your heart..!!

    Mourne the loss of your friend..and remember.. There is another animal in need that would Love "This" Love.. icon_wink.gif
    HUGZ..