Have you experienced hostility towards your body type?

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    Sep 07, 2012 4:20 PM GMT
    Have any of you guys noticed hostility towards you because of whatever body type you have, whether underweight or muscular?

    I have. At 120 lbs, whenever I bring up in conversation that I have trouble eating enough to maintain my nutrition levels, I get comments like "I hate people like you," "shut up, I don't wanna hear it," and such, followed by more hostility until you finally exit the situation and avoid those negative people in the future. This happens extremely often to me. It just tells me what kind of a closed-minded person they are. Whenever I go out to eat with people, they think I'm on a diet or something. So those kind of reactions kind of force me to only spend my time around other fitness-oriented people, because I'm kind of sensitive and frustrated by that kind of hostility towards something I struggle with when working hard trying to get more of a healthy weight and some lean muscle.
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    Sep 07, 2012 6:55 PM GMT
    I haven't faced any hostility as you mentioned. What I have realized that most people who ask questions about diet and exercise are more curious than serious. So I suggest keep your answers generic, short and to the point. If they are serious and want to learn from you, you'll know it.

    Weight isn't the only indicator that should be considered. Height should be looked at. And for the serious, body fat percentage should be considered. So at 5'4" and 120lbs you aren't skinny. icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 07, 2012 7:38 PM GMT
    Thanks, it's been VERY hard work. I have to face conflict with the BF whenever I want to work out or participate in athletic, active activities, and I have to stay focussed on eating constantly. If I stop working out, I lose it fast and look emaciated again. Typical ectomorph body type.
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    Sep 07, 2012 10:24 PM GMT
    Why is there conflict with the BF over athletic activities/working out??
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    Sep 07, 2012 10:32 PM GMT
    FlyGuyAFga saidHave any of you guys noticed hostility towards you because of whatever body type you have, whether underweight or muscular?

    I have. At 120 lbs, whenever I bring up in conversation that I have trouble eating enough to maintain my nutrition levels, I get comments like "I hate people like you," "shut up, I don't wanna hear it," and such, followed by more hostility until you finally exit the situation and avoid those negative people in the future. This happens extremely often to me. It just tells me what kind of a closed-minded person they are. Whenever I go out to eat with people, they think I'm on a diet or something. So those kind of reactions kind of force me to only spend my time around other fitness-oriented people, because I'm kind of sensitive and frustrated by that kind of hostility towards something I struggle with when working hard trying to get more of a healthy weight and some lean muscle.

    I really don't understand this post. You say that you have trouble eating enough to maintain your nutrition levels and then you say that people think you're on a diet when you go out. Do you not eat when you go out? If you don't, that might be the reason why you're having trouble getting enough calories.
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    Sep 08, 2012 1:34 AM GMT
    When I eat something healthy like fish, the more out of shape insecure people start saying snide comments like I eat like a bird, or they start pointing out healthy items on the menu sarcastically for me because they think I'm on a diet just because I look so small. The BF refuses to work out with me, and acts upset when I go to the gym in the evenings after work, or go rock climbing (my only sport) on the weekends.
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    Sep 08, 2012 1:41 AM GMT
    When people see my body, they say OMG you are such in great shape I bet you can eat anything you want I hate you. Well the truth is that I cannot eat anythingn I want. I am a mesomorph therefore I gain wait instantly. I must watch everything I eat.
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    Sep 08, 2012 1:53 AM GMT
    @Aggieboy, yeah I have heard people say that one, too. I think it's because they are very unhappy people and try to spread a little of their negativity feelings around.
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    Sep 08, 2012 1:55 AM GMT
    @Aggieboy, this post looks like it's gonna strike up some pretty good advice: "Foods to avoid while bulking" http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/2656294
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    Sep 08, 2012 1:56 AM GMT
    I did, all to well. Granted I use A4A (go ahead n take ur best shot) I labeled myself on being thletic, more times I have been told ”people like you are the reason why many of you are so self loathing, just accept that you're fat and stop lying to everyone. You'd be much happier.” or something to that degree. I literally have been cut down from all my hard wrk, though regardless of what guys say to me, I am still gonna try to get the perfect physique, on my terms.
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    Sep 08, 2012 2:15 AM GMT
    thebaddestdude saidI did, all to well. Granted I use A4A (go ahead n take ur best shot) I labeled myself on being thletic, more times I have been told ”people like you are the reason why many of you are so self loathing, just accept that you're fat and stop lying to everyone. You'd be much happier.” or something to that degree. I literally have been cut down from all my hard wrk, though regardless of what guys say to me, I am still gonna try to get the perfect physique, on my terms.


    That's awesome that you ignored all those negative reactions, turned it around into something positive, and kept on track. That's inspiring. Hopefully I can be self-disciplined enough to ignore all those discouraging obstacles, too.
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    Sep 08, 2012 2:32 AM GMT
    FlyGuyAFga saidHave any of you guys noticed hostility towards you because of whatever body type you have, whether underweight or muscular?

    I have. At 120 lbs, whenever I bring up in conversation that I have trouble eating enough to maintain my nutrition levels, I get comments like "I hate people like you," "shut up, I don't wanna hear it," and such, followed by more hostility until you finally exit the situation and avoid those negative people in the future. This happens extremely often to me. It just tells me what kind of a closed-minded person they are. Whenever I go out to eat with people, they think I'm on a diet or something. So those kind of reactions kind of force me to only spend my time around other fitness-oriented people, because I'm kind of sensitive and frustrated by that kind of hostility towards something I struggle with when working hard trying to get more of a healthy weight and some lean muscle.


    Sure. Icky, resentful, whiny, gay guys. Oh well.

    What you're hearing may not be hostility. Sounds to me, more like folks saying they could eat like you.

    Get over it. You'll be just fine.
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    Sep 08, 2012 2:34 AM GMT
    The real challenge is when people try to sabotage your progress with temptations. Then their motive is trebly obvious - not concern for your well-being, but jealousy.
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    Sep 08, 2012 2:35 AM GMT
    Yep
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    Sep 08, 2012 2:44 AM GMT
    eagermuscle saidThe real challenge is when people try to sabotage your progress with temptations. Then their motive is trebly obvious - not concern for your well-being, but jealousy.

    Yeah, my BF tries to sabotage my workouts by complaining that I spend too much time doing it. He complains when I go to the gym in the evenings, and if I go and do anything active. It feels like I have to have a fight just to go workout. That doesn't help much in the motivation department. He also hates it when I ask him if I ask him if I'm showing any results and says asking is unattractive. It's a no win situation.
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    Sep 08, 2012 3:34 AM GMT
    When partners aren't on the same page motives can be more complex. Sometimes one has to compromise for the sake of a relationship. You may be able to schedule gym time so it doesn't cut into your time with him but sometimes you just might have to give in and have that piece of pizza or slice of cake. It's up to you to determine whether compromise, and he, is worth it. We can't really weigh in on that.
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    Sep 08, 2012 3:45 AM GMT
    Aggieboy saidWhen people see my body, they say OMG you are such in great shape I bet you can eat anything you want I hate you. Well the truth is that I cannot eat anythingn I want. I am a mesomorph therefore I gain wait instantly. I must watch everything I eat.


    Thats an endomorph. Mesos tend to gain muscle before body fat. Better caloric partitioning ratio.
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    Sep 08, 2012 6:03 AM GMT
    Yeah.. strangely i have encountered some old friends who see the bigger muscular me and they kind of make odd remarks that make them look insecure or "haterish" for lack of anything better. "Are you roidy now?" or "Geesh, do ever not go to the gym?" "You are a gym queen..sssshheshhhuss.". Stupid shit like that..which i take with a grain of salt.. but it changes how i think of them. I'm not talking about their way of life or what they do to their bodies... not all concerned.. never would i call an over weight friend "fat ass"..well not their face at least.. ya know the good old fashioned way... behind the back in private.icon_razz.gif So what, i decided i wanted meat and bulk on my body, i'm happy. Live and let live.
  • Jonno11

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    Sep 08, 2012 6:25 AM GMT
    Yeah Ive been made fun of all my life for being small. I can't help it if my metabolism is that high. I try and eat between 5000 and 8000 calories a day, but still. I take weight gain shakes and mix them with chocolate milk, i load up on carbs, i eat 7 times a day when Im working, and I try and do smaller reps with heavier weights and limit cardio. Its just odd when in one breath people are making fun of u, calling u twig boy and whatever else, and then they rag on you cuz your eating everything in sight to try and get bigger, and that pisses em off too. Fucking hypocrites! At least I get to have my cake and eat it too, LOL.
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    Sep 08, 2012 6:36 AM GMT
    OP enjoy the bod you have been given and congrats on improving yourself!!icon_cool.gif
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    Sep 08, 2012 6:46 AM GMT
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    Sep 08, 2012 7:26 AM GMT
    Yes the family say I'm to skinny while most gay guys say I need to lose weight icon_neutral.gif
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    Sep 08, 2012 4:10 PM GMT
    FlyGuyAFga saidThanks, it's been VERY hard work. I have to face conflict with the BF whenever I want to work out or participate in athletic, active activities, and I have to stay focussed on eating constantly. If I stop working out, I lose it fast and look emaciated again. Typical ectomorph body type.

    It looks like your hard work is paying off.

    Yes when the bf isn't on the same page as you it can cause conflict.. "you are always working out we never spend time together... lets go to a restaurant why do you have to always eat that diet?.. it's Friday lets go out, do you really have to go to the gym?... so while you are the gym what am i supposed to do?.. you look fine you don't need to workout... I'm fine with the way you look, shouldn't that be all that matters to you?.. you spend more time in the gym than with me...we never see our friends much as you are never around.. etc etc..". This, IMO, is why most gym guys prefer other gym guys. As it is very likely there is a deeper understanding what the other person is going through which results in support rather than conflict or becoming a distraction.

    I'm the same as you, if i stop working out I get skinny. I don't get fat. icon_smile.gif
  • unicoman1

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    Sep 08, 2012 4:19 PM GMT
    Hell yea, thats why I work out.. .The more HOSTILE the better!
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    Sep 08, 2012 4:23 PM GMT
    Yes.