Crossroads and multiple opportunities coming up all at the same time

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    Sep 08, 2012 3:01 AM GMT
    Just wondering how many others have this happen throughout your life.

    The beginning of this week I was down feeling jaded and had lost my direction.

    Today its a different story.
    May have a new job in Shanghai - Im now off there Wed night
    May have met the man of my dreams - best date ever with what started as a fuck buddy a few weeks back, last night.

    This isn't the first time in my life that everything seems to turn around all at once and that I have to decide between 2 completely different paths in a short period of time.

    Which one I will decide to stick with is still to be decided. If I follow my past decision history I'd go for the job, this time I'm not so sure.

    I want to know how many others out there have this happen and what did you choose and what reasoning did you use? And what do you think is behind everything changing for you all at once?






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    Sep 08, 2012 4:42 AM GMT
    Oz that's the story of my life..

    Personally Oz.. I wouldn't compromise my career for a guy i just met!
    If you have the option to re-locate ..awesome..if you don't.. The smarter thing to do would be to try a LDR..!

    ....Your career is your support system.. until you are stable in a relationship..you cannot choose any man over your lifeline!

    ..Safe Trip
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    Sep 08, 2012 6:46 AM GMT
    Anocxu saidOz that's the story of my life..

    Personally Oz.. I wouldn't compromise my career for a guy i just met!
    If you have the option to re-locate ..awesome..if you don't.. The smarter thing to do would be to try a LDR..!

    ....Your career is your support system.. until you are stable in a relationship..you cannot choose any man over your lifeline!

    ..Safe Trip


    Oh dont worry I wont be compromising, but thats what I always have done in the past chased the job as opposed to a relationship. And Im getting older and starting to think maybe time to settle down.

    I just cant figure out why it all happens at once, or cart before the horse so to speak. If it happened just once where I moved, met a guy and yadda yadda rather than job offer in new city, then meet a man in my current city.
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    Sep 08, 2012 7:38 AM GMT
    Screw the career.

    It's a job, it's not your life. If it makes you happy do it. If you want to be some place with it, go there. If that means you leave for another country awesome.

    If you don't want to go there with the job then don't. If you wanna stay here and see what happens with a guy make that decision.

    You have two options both with risks. The job might not work, the guy might not work. But either way make the decision on which to go with and don't regret it.

    I left a guy I was seeing in Sydney to move to Brisbane.

    I hated that I left him behind every freakin day since I left BUT I've loved the experience of having done this and proven something to my self. Moving to brisbane wasn't just a desire it have become a necessity to prove something to my self that I haven't shared with anyone.

    The guy, he'll survive and move on, that's how life is, pain gets easier, the mind forgets and everything gets better. By the time I'm back in Sydney he wont even bother and I don't mind that one single bit and I don't regret it (I hate what I left behind but I don't regret it and wouldn't change it)

    Do which ever one you want to do. You have a job as long as it's stable, if you want to go further with it and go live in another country do it, there are tons of fish in the sea. If you want to stay here and find out if this fish is the one you want then do that.

    Just in a year if things don't turn out either way don't slip into regret.