EVERYTHING IS GREAT!!! ..Until he realises Ur age

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    Sep 08, 2012 1:13 PM GMT
    Have you ever met a guy who is absolutely HOT & stunning. A beautiful & kind family man?. A real keeper?

    Meanwhile U both get along sooo well. Personalities click, and find each other very attractive.

    U didn't ask him his age because it's irrelevant as it already says on his profile.

    This wonderful guy ditches you on the grounds of an age gap simply because he didn't read your age.

    Everything you may have had in common is now redundant because of a number !

    Do people not read profiles anymore? .... what gives??


    ...anyone?
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    Sep 08, 2012 2:01 PM GMT
    So sorry to hear that mate icon_sad.gif
    You know there are guys older and also younger where age isn't a factor, it's just unfortunate that the guy didn't bother to check your age.
    Hopefully you guys are still friends, but if he completely cut off contact purely based on your age then I think alternatively you've actually dodged a bullet.
    If he did do that, then it doesn't sound like someone good to spend the rest of your life with.

    If he was younger, some younger guys are just really not looking to settle down, it just sucks that you were strung along.
    Wish you all the best mate.
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    Sep 08, 2012 2:16 PM GMT
    Sorry to hear that dude..That's such a blow to the ego..
    Everything is fine and dandy till he discovers your age..??

    ...Maybe he needs to be gone ..you don't need anymore crap like this..!
    I'm giving you a GIANT HUG..and telling you ..better sooner than later!.. icon_smile.gif


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    Sep 08, 2012 2:30 PM GMT
    What did he think your age was? 33 is kinda good for all occasions. If he thought you were younger then that's a compliment. If he thought you were older then good riddance.
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    Sep 08, 2012 2:45 PM GMT
    to be fair, he probably saw that you use "ur" a lot, and thought you had to be at most 22
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    Sep 08, 2012 2:46 PM GMT
    calibro saidto be fair, he probably saw that you use "ur" a lot, and thought you had to be at most 22

    LOL!!! And "U" as well. Write like a child, be thought a child. icon_razz.gif
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    Sep 08, 2012 2:54 PM GMT
    Art_Deco said
    calibro saidto be fair, he probably saw that you use "ur" a lot, and thought you had to be at most 22

    LOL!!! And "U" as well. Write like a child, be thought a child. icon_razz.gif


    Oh come on guys cut him some slack its the internet, you don't always have to be phonetically correct. I hardly use whole words in text messages because I hate sending a whole message broken into 3 different texts, could be just a force of habit.

    Y yu has 2 b so krewl?
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    Sep 08, 2012 2:55 PM GMT
    He didn't dump you because of your age. He dumped you because he is immature. Immaturity, unfortunately, can span all age groups.
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    Sep 08, 2012 3:02 PM GMT
    Art_Deco said
    calibro saidto be fair, he probably saw that you use "ur" a lot, and thought you had to be at most 22

    LOL!!! And "U" as well. Write like a child, be thought a child. icon_razz.gif


    I guess generation X are hybrids of the older school and the new school.
    Born in the late 70's to early 80's we moved with the times of major technological evolution.

    Don't automatically assume the younger guy ditched the older guy.
    Many older guys ditch younger ones too!

    I guess short hand slang typing stems from quicker txt messaging....and is a bad habbit... If this is the only fault to be found, then I am guilty, but I am human, albeit not ignorant.
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    Sep 08, 2012 3:03 PM GMT
    Myol saidHe didn't dump you because of your age. He dumped you because he is immature. Immaturity, unfortunately, can span all age groups.


    Thank you... This guy knows his $hit !!
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    Sep 08, 2012 3:21 PM GMT
    Myol saidHe didn't dump you because of your age. He dumped you because he is immature. Immaturity, unfortunately, can span all age groups.


    Seriously? I am immature because I don't want to date men 20 years old my senior or vice-versa? There are plenty of valid reasons not to get involved in such relationships.
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    Sep 08, 2012 3:38 PM GMT
    gaythlete saidHave you ever met a guy who is absolutely HOT & stunning. A beautiful & kind family man?. A real keeper?

    Meanwhile U both get along sooo well. Personalities click, and find each other very attractive.

    U didn't ask him his age because it's irrelevant as it already says on his profile.

    This wonderful guy ditches you on the grounds of an age gap simply because he didn't read your age.

    Everything you may have had in common is now redundant because of a number !

    Do people not read profiles anymore? .... what gives??


    ...anyone?


    Who cares? Why are you wanting to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you? Age was just a reason he gave you, but, reality is, he didn't want to be with you. Many folks don't give you the truth.

    Yep, it's b.s., but, it's like "discreet", or "not out", or any other lines of less than honest. It's b.s.

    Move on.

    He may have dumped you because of his maturity, values, or something else that he's not telling you. Reality is that he didn't want to be with you. The reason is secondary. Life is like that, like it, or not.

    Get a face picture. Quit taking from folks. It's very unattractive. It's a gay site. Anyone on here is gay, bi, or looking for gay / bi guys. Low confidence is very unattractive, as well. At 33, it's time to "man up" embrace who you are (whatever that is), and get on with life.
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    Sep 08, 2012 3:41 PM GMT
    chuckystud said
    gaythlete saidHave you ever met a guy who is absolutely HOT & stunning. A beautiful & kind family man?. A real keeper?

    Meanwhile U both get along sooo well. Personalities click, and find each other very attractive.

    U didn't ask him his age because it's irrelevant as it already says on his profile.

    This wonderful guy ditches you on the grounds of an age gap simply because he didn't read your age.

    Everything you may have had in common is now redundant because of a number !

    Do people not read profiles anymore? .... what gives??


    ...anyone?


    Who cares? Why are you wanting to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you? Age was just a reason he gave you, but, reality is, he didn't want to be with you. Many folks don't give you the truth.

    Yep, it's b.s., but, it's like "discreet", or "not out", or any other lines of less than honest. It's b.s.

    Move on.

    He may have dumped you because of his maturity, values, or something else that he's not telling you. Reality is that he didn't want to be with you. The reason is secondary. Life is like that, like it, or not.


    You're right.
    I'm humble enough to agree.
    Moving on.
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    Sep 08, 2012 3:42 PM GMT
    gaythlete said
    Art_Deco said
    calibro saidto be fair, he probably saw that you use "ur" a lot, and thought you had to be at most 22

    LOL!!! And "U" as well. Write like a child, be thought a child. icon_razz.gif


    I guess generation X are hybrids of the older school and the new school.
    Born in the late 70's to early 80's we moved with the times of major technological evolution.

    Don't automatically assume the younger guy ditched the older guy.
    Many older guys ditch younger ones too!

    I guess short hand slang typing stems from quicker txt messaging....and is a bad habbit... If this is the only fault to be found, then I am guilty, but I am human, albeit not ignorant.


    As a very old man, I’ve gotten into a 'few' of these bad habits solely because of texting. I never thought I'd be at 3,000 to 4,000+ texts per month and heading up.
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    Sep 08, 2012 3:44 PM GMT
    I might add that being dumped sucks, especially if you have an emotional attachment (at about any level) with the dumper. Understand, excuses are what's called detachment.

    Many folks are less than honest, and think they avoid conflict by making up an excuse, or, they can't bring themselves to a particular action without developing that detachment and the feelings around it.

    Human beings, especially younger ones, aren't always sensitive and honest, or know how to communicate effectively, and, unfortunately, many young people have completely lost in person social skills from living in the tech bubble.
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    Many gay guys have all sorts of crazy defense mechanisms, too long to list here.

    Bottom line: If the guy doesn't want to be with you, he doesn't want to be with you, even if you view his reason given as invalid.

    Mature adults have an ability to change directions and deal with the rejection effectively. Here's how you should view it, and, it's very rational: thank your deity that he did it now, rather, than later, because you were clearely not meant for each other. Be grateful you didn't get dumped after years together. That's the upside.
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    Sep 08, 2012 3:46 PM GMT
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    10 years younger than you? While I consider myself to be more mature than average for my age, I have met up with guys who are 10 years older than me, and the idea of a relationship with them makes me nervous, because I don't know if I am mature enough for such a relationship. If I were in the opposite position I would question whether they will be mature enough.[/quote]

    Actually, my concern is more that individuals look for vastly different things in their twenties and thirties, and I believe it can be very detrimental to one's development and happiness to make sacrifices in that regard.
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    Sep 08, 2012 3:52 PM GMT
    Myol saidHe didn't dump you because of your age. He dumped you because he is immature. Immaturity, unfortunately, can span all age groups.


    But fuckin annoying when it is found in guys 40+
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    Sep 08, 2012 3:53 PM GMT
    Rita -> True, to some degree. Many young gay men like the feeling of security they get with older guys and actively seek out older gay men as mentors, protectors, guidance, and less drama from their own peers. Older gay men, often are happy to take up that role, as well. Some older gay men, and even younger, might as well hang up a sign that says "exploit me." Those guys are typically the flamer sort who are desperate for attention. Closet cases are so tied up in their own baggage it's a huge turnoff, and real work to accommodate them.

    Reality is that the human brain doesn't mature until about age thirty. The parts of the brain responsible for compassion, sensitivity, sound judgement, and risk adversion, develop last. E.g., an 18 year old drives a car at 110MPH just to see what it's like. A 30 year old is more risk adverse. The wonderful part of being old is that you have lived.

    Young men, especially, young gay men, are often conflicted about goals, or don't have a sense of direction. That's not always true, of course, but, is often true. Young men often lack the emotional and social skills to interact in an appropriate way around relationships. It's called growing up.

    Best end a relationship, rather than suffer through a bad one. That's sound insensitive on the outside, but, really isn't. It's about being rational and making sound choices, and bringing sound judgment to bear on a particular situation. Many older guys have told me they were never more miserable that in trying to make a bad relationship work.

    There's nearly 8 BILLION folks in The World. There's a few you won't hit it off with, or..that aren't good for you, even if you lust for them, or love some particular attribute about them.
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    Sep 08, 2012 3:57 PM GMT

    Actually, my concern is more that individuals look for vastly different things in their twenties and thirties, and I believe it can be very detrimental to one's development and happiness to make sacrifices in that regard.[/quote]

    Based on what study? References?
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    Sep 08, 2012 4:00 PM GMT
    gaythlete said
    Actually, my concern is more that individuals look for vastly different things in their twenties and thirties, and I believe it can be very detrimental to one's development and happiness to make sacrifices in that regard.


    Based on what study? References?[/quote]

    The young mind craves experiences. That's how the brain rewires in adolescence and early adult hood. Detachment is easier when you're young. Most young folks aren't worried about retirement, health, or building an empire..(some, yes). Many young folks are about the experience of driving fast, partying, sexual positions, etc. Like it, or not, that's reality, and normal human development.
  • unicoman1

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    Sep 08, 2012 4:05 PM GMT
    Ugly people are bitter, There is nothing 1 can do about age, there is however something that can be said for ignorance. Awful scenario, and as I get older painfully true and realistic.
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    Sep 08, 2012 4:09 PM GMT
    I just experienced not too long ago.
    I work in retail and had a customer flirt with me in a big way. Never got his name or number so I posted a comment in Craigslist. And he actually responded.

    We met for coffee, conversation flowed nicely and there seemed to be a mutual attraction. I asked him about his age, he turned out to be 53, which I had no problem with. When he found out I was 43, could see he was disappointed. He thought I was at least 10 years younger. He told me he doesn't date anyone over the age of 35.

    I laughed.

    Some guys are just too stupid for their own good.
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    Sep 08, 2012 4:13 PM GMT
    Well how come chuckystud above is 19 years older than I, and I find him hot and intelligent and I'm sure we'd have lots in common also?

    He's 19 years older than me and I don't have a problem being younger.

    I guess it must be a maturity thing then...
  • stratavos

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    Sep 08, 2012 6:28 PM GMT
    I'm going to say "yes" and that often I'm "too young for them"
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    Sep 08, 2012 6:29 PM GMT
    B happy at 33, they still see U. At 60, U B invisible.