College is rough...

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    Sep 08, 2012 9:29 PM GMT
    So I am in my second week of college and it sucks. 3 days ago, my grandma whom I was very close with died, so I am flying back home in a few days. Also, my friend's roommate caught me jacking to some male porn and told some people I'm gay even when he knew my grandma just died. He also has been a jerk to me when he's been drunk and woke my roommate and I up at 2am banging on our door.

    Shit sucks, but if anything I will get some good out of this because I'm just trying to focus my energy on my school work (lots of reading and papers to write). However, I know there is a lot of stress on me....

    I'm not here to complain. How was your experience in college or if you are still in college, how is it going?
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    Sep 08, 2012 9:55 PM GMT
    Hang in there, man. The first couple of months can be rough, especially if you're homesick, and especially if there's a death in the family. I'm sorry about your grandmother.

    I'm a fifth-year grad student, so I suppose I've had quite a bit of college experience, haha. First of all, are you out to everyone? College is a great time to be more open about your sexuality. If people give you shit, find new people, haha. Don't let that drunk guy rattle your cage, and certainly don't hang around him if you can help it. I know he's your friend's roommate, but you don't have to hang out in your friend's room. Also, lock your door when jackin' it to porn. icon_wink.gif

    I went to a really small college for undergrad, and now I go to a massive university for grad school. When I was a freshman, I had to deal with homesickness for a few months, and I was really anxious about making friends. I was also not used to the lack of privacy; it felt like there was always someone nearby in my room, the bathroom, and the shower. Becoming independent and learning how to do all those simple things you're used to your parents doing is a long trip.

    Now I'm 1000 miles away from "home" and am the most independent person in my family, haha. I tend to feel chafed when I go home for too long over breaks. I've learned a lot about different types of people from my college experience, and how to deal with them when they're difficult. I've had some bad experiences, but they were all learning experiences, so in the long run they were worth it. The vast majority of my experiences were terrific.

    You'll be fine. It all just takes time. Just keep an open mind and try to meet as many people as possible.
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    Sep 08, 2012 10:05 PM GMT
    My first year was pretty rough. Got really bad grades in the beginning. But after I learned how to manage my time better and learned how to not overload myself with classes, things improved.

    I didn't have to deal with too many social issues like your friend's asshole roommate. I went to a local college and commuted from home. Living at home kinda sucked since I missed out on the total college experience. But at the same time it wasn't so bad because I had peace and quiet for studying.

    And next time you see your friend's roommate, give him a wink and ask if he wants to join you next time. He'll keep his mouth shut after that. Or maybe he'll take you up on your offer. icon_wink.gif
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    Sep 08, 2012 10:13 PM GMT
    xrichx said I went to a local college and commuted from home. Living at home kinda sucked since I missed out on the total college experience. But at the same time it wasn't so bad because I had peace and quiet for studying.


    Same for me. Went to my classes, went home. Zero social interaction. I only actually made friends my senior year and realized how much I missed on all the previous years.
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    Sep 08, 2012 10:35 PM GMT
    I can definitely agree with the gentlemen above.
    Not being a social-butterfly by nature, and proceeding in that whole new and kind of terrifying -at first- setting, the first few weeks of college were miserable for me. I felt constantly self-conscious about everything, trying not to look to much like this and like that, couldn't concentrate on classes at all, shaking in my boots like no tomorrow did anyone speak to me... I really thought that after all maybe higher level education wasn't for me and that I should become a plumber or something (nothing against plumbers - lovelove), but it slowly got better when I realized that EVERYONE was in the same position that I was and that there was no reason to freak out really.

    You'll get through it don't worry - just focus on your classes for now, thats the most important, and maybe join a casual club or something. And sry for your grandma, that sucks icon_confused.gif

    good luck man
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    Sep 08, 2012 10:43 PM GMT
    *correction, it was my roommate's friend who caught me and shit and he is one of those obnoxious drunks / jerk. At a party last night I noticed he was telling the group we both hangout in, but I just let it roll off me because so much shit has been happening lately that I can't keep up with.

    I've been just staying in my dorm lately..
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    Sep 09, 2012 4:19 AM GMT
    Try not to seclude yourself. It only feeds into the shitty feeling that you're experiencing right now. Plus, it just gives those assholes more to laugh about. Seriously, go out and meet new people. Focus on your studies. Once you get into a good routine, you'll start to enjoy college.
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    Sep 09, 2012 4:59 AM GMT
    omg, what is this? A generation of whiney sissies?

    get out there. have fun!