Do I have high standards? Or am I being unrealistic?

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    Sep 08, 2012 9:53 PM GMT
    Dear Diary,


    So as I have yapped about plenty of times in these here forums, I am recently single and ready to mingle. Now, when it comes to hooking up, as long as he's hot and has a big wang I'm all for it. But when it comes to dating, I have a pre-determined set of criteria of what/how I want my future husband to be.

    Some of these are given (honest/kind/loving) but others I'm not sure if I am being realistic. Like for the moment at least he has to be in his 30's, maybe even early 40's. Guys in their 20's don't do it for me anymore. Also, I have a thing for European men right now. I had a fling with a handsome Dutch man this summer and he really turned me on to European guys. We were at different ages and stages of our lives yet had a rapport than was amazing. We still keep in touch though we live in very different places of the world. If not European, I have always loved men in uniform. As a veteran myself I can relate to them and also I have always held the deepest of respect to all the services.
    My future bf also has to be a strict top. Like not even vers. Sexually, I have a much better time with total tops that I can almost always tell if a guy is really into topping or not. So sometimes I automatically dismiss guys who are vers.

    Am I being unreasonable? I mean, I know what I want, but am I just pushing guys away who may or may not be 'the one'??????

    Or should I hold out till I find my dream man? Is that so wrong?????


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    Sep 08, 2012 10:01 PM GMT
    What happened to your new Puerto Rican BF?
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    Sep 08, 2012 10:03 PM GMT
    TropicalMark saidWhat happened to your new Puerto Rican BF?


    Uhh....wrong guy. That's Import...
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    Sep 08, 2012 10:06 PM GMT
    No I wouldn't call those high standards... Actually I'd be hesitant to call them standards in the first place.

    They sound like sexual desires which isn't really a relationship but more two guys fucking.

    Standards are more, he needs to have a job, be a good person, have a few brain cells to use for other things besides basic system functions like breathing. That he can actually hold a conversation and doesn't act like an arsehole.

    Not, have a big cock, be a top and be over a certain age... That more like, what makes blood rush where.
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    Sep 08, 2012 10:10 PM GMT
    lilTanker saidNo I wouldn't call those high standards... Actually I'd be hesitant to call them standards in the first place.

    They sound like sexual desires which isn't really a relationship but more two guys fucking.

    Standards are more, he needs to have a job, be a good person, have a few brain cells to use for other things besides basic system functions like breathing. That he can actually hold a conversation and doesn't act like an arsehole.

    Not, have a big cock, be a top and be over a certain age... That more like, what makes blood rush where.



    Well, thats what I include in the "givens" part if you read it. I also don't want him to be a child molester or axe murderer, should I have made that clear too??















    BTW, you are kinda cute, will you be in Miami anytime soon????
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    Sep 08, 2012 10:16 PM GMT
    I'm not exactly old enough for you just yet hahaha and no.

    And there aint no dream man, judging men that I am commonly meeting, they are going to be flawed, MASSIVELY flawed. But then so is everyone so I suppose it's more about finding the guy with flaws you can handle and how he handles yours.
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    Sep 08, 2012 10:19 PM GMT
    lilTanker saidI'm not exactly old enough for you just yet hahaha and no.

    And there aint no dream man, judging men that I am commonly meeting, they are going to be flawed, MASSIVELY flawed. But then so is everyone so I suppose it's more about finding the guy with flaws you can handle and how he handles yours.


    I'll give you a year.....


    And yeah, I know I will never find a dream man that meats all my standards, but I can damn well try. I guess I have it in my head that I would rather wait till I find as close as I can get than settle for someone I can't see myself with.


    Let's see how this works out for me...hmmm....
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    Sep 08, 2012 11:04 PM GMT
    I don't think your "standards" are too high per say, but it sounds like you are... looking too much? Dating (and even hooking-up) isn't about checking items on a list, and you let your past experiences shape your future too much imo, you'll miss on something eventually.
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    Sep 08, 2012 11:14 PM GMT
    Does anyone know how I can get in touch with this guy???

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    Sep 08, 2012 11:25 PM GMT
    jmusmc85 saidDoes anyone know how I can get in touch with this guy???

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    Sep 08, 2012 11:40 PM GMT
    jmusmc85 said
    lilTanker saidI'm not exactly old enough for you just yet hahaha and no.

    And there aint no dream man, judging men that I am commonly meeting, they are going to be flawed, MASSIVELY flawed. But then so is everyone so I suppose it's more about finding the guy with flaws you can handle and how he handles yours.


    I'll give you a year.....

    Actually you'll only need to give me like 3 weeks hahahaha

    Crap, i'm getting old!
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    Sep 08, 2012 11:45 PM GMT
    lilTanker said
    jmusmc85 said
    lilTanker saidI'm not exactly old enough for you just yet hahaha and no.

    And there aint no dream man, judging men that I am commonly meeting, they are going to be flawed, MASSIVELY flawed. But then so is everyone so I suppose it's more about finding the guy with flaws you can handle and how he handles yours.


    I'll give you a year.....

    Actually you'll only need to give me like 3 weeks hahahaha

    Crap, i'm getting old!
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    Sep 09, 2012 12:10 AM GMT
    TropicalMark said
    lilTanker said
    jmusmc85 said
    lilTanker saidI'm not exactly old enough for you just yet hahaha and no.

    And there aint no dream man, judging men that I am commonly meeting, they are going to be flawed, MASSIVELY flawed. But then so is everyone so I suppose it's more about finding the guy with flaws you can handle and how he handles yours.


    I'll give you a year.....

    Actually you'll only need to give me like 3 weeks hahahaha

    Crap, i'm getting old!
    aw GEEZ!icon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif

    What? I said getting... icon_razz.gif