The cute guy...

  • GREEKy

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    Sep 10, 2012 11:02 PM GMT
    Ok so... everyday I go to the store to get some stuff for dinner and there is this cute guy working the counter. I usually say something funny. We smile together. We might be flirting. But im not sure if he's really into me.... Hell, I dont even know if he's gay/bi. Today he did a stereotypical gay voice and hand flap/wrist flick to some girl that he obviously knew jokingly. I dont think i'll read much into that one, haha.

    Anyway, put yourself in my position. I usually never make the first move. What should I do? Any small talk ideas? Im slowly getting to know him each day...but i would like to talk without a line of people watching (awkward much?)

    Any advice appreciated icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 10, 2012 11:12 PM GMT
    GREEKy saidOk so... everyday I go to the store to get some stuff for dinner and there is this cute guy working the counter. I usually say something funny. We smile together. We might be flirting. But im not sure if he's really into me.... Hell, I dont even know if he's gay/bi. Today he did a stereotypical gay voice and hand flap/wrist flick to some girl that he obviously knew jokingly. I dont think i'll read much into that one, haha.

    Anyway, put yourself in my position. I usually never make the first move. What should I do? Any small talk ideas? Im slowly getting to know him each day...but i would like to talk without a line of people watching (awkward much?)

    Any advice appreciated icon_smile.gif


    Generally in my part of the world, Cute, fit straight guys are super friendly and chatty. Cute fit gay guys ( all 5 of them in a city of 2 million) lol are rude stuck up and not so chatty.

    A good rule if any of you ever come here icon_lol.gif
  • buymeasoda

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    Sep 10, 2012 11:55 PM GMT
    most guys who work in retail are chatty its there job. But best of luck!
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    Sep 11, 2012 12:07 AM GMT
    i think if a guy smiles and seems like he wants to keep up to convo, then he's interested. Or try and give a subtle compliment and see how he reacts
  • calibro

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    Sep 11, 2012 12:15 AM GMT
    craigslist missed connections... it's your only option
  • GREEKy

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    Sep 11, 2012 12:21 AM GMT
    DavidDB saidOh... even before we talked at the counter.... I did notice him glancing at me while I was shopping for a few other things. So... maybe he's interested. I was looking studly today. icon_cool.gif

    As for your situation... it's on a more frequent basis than mine... and it sounds like you banter a bit.

    Sounds potentially promising. Maybe guide the conversation to a more personal level???


    Oh yeah I forgot to mention... Im pretty sure when I was getting in line at the checkout counter about 40 feet away (he works near deli area), he was leaning against deli casing, looking in my direction ... for a good few minutes too. There was no one around him so maybe he was bored...but you know that feeling u get when eyes are on you?... yeah I felt that. I woulda maybe approached him if his coworker wasn't in the deli at the time too

    calibro saidcraigslist missed connections... it's your only option


    lol, that exists?...
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    Sep 11, 2012 12:22 AM GMT
    Wear a pride band or a rainbow band on your wrist and don't say anything. Subtle way to show yourself if he's not sure yet.
  • GREEKy

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    Sep 11, 2012 1:52 AM GMT
    Trollileo saidYou go to the store every day?


    well, I got pasta at home, but I put different things every day. so I get some fresh vegetables or some other stuff.. also, I check if stuff is on sale and freeze it... Im cheap like that ^^
  • ChilaxinJOCK0...

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    Sep 11, 2012 2:18 AM GMT
    leave him your number on something. see how he reacts
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    Sep 11, 2012 2:49 AM GMT
    Trollileo saidYou go to the store every day?

    When there's a cute guy working there? Yeah, duh! icon_razz.gif
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    Sep 11, 2012 2:50 AM GMT
    Lots of guys get nervous about the triple whammy of rejection plus coming out plus the gay/straight gamble -- but the truth is you want to ask him out on a date and be clear that that's what you're asking him to respond to.

    So just do that. Do it from a place in yourself that is happy, confident, proud, easy-going, and generous. Be creative about the date. Tell him you're into him. Compliment what you're attracted to. Offer a chance to get to know each other through an activity you'd enjoy doing with him.

    Be kind to yourself and try to live life without regrets.

    Good luck.
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    Sep 11, 2012 2:54 AM GMT
    The wristband is a good idea. Here's another subtle way to approach it. You live in the Bronx so I assume there's a free gay newspaper you can pick up at grocery and convenience stores. This is common in most large cities. Pick up one of these newspapers on your way in and make sure it's visible when you're talking to him. He'll definitely get the message but it's very non-threatening in case he's straight or not secure about his sexual identity.
  • CTHS

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    Sep 11, 2012 3:06 AM GMT
    I say go for it... what do you have to loose?
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    Sep 11, 2012 3:28 AM GMT
    DavidDB said
    ChilaxinJOCK09 saidleave him your number on something. see how he reacts


    Or ^this^ one. (?)


    i vote for this one too
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    Sep 11, 2012 3:32 AM GMT
    We're in the same page, there's this guy in a quiznos I love to eat in and the manager's pretty nice and whenever I go he recognizes me and we have a little "how are you-long time no see" thing.

    But I've always believe that if the guy looks for eye contact several times he might be more than gentle (even if it's his job), I tested today I sat on a corner where I could be visible and when I looked at him he had been previously looking at me or I caught his eye. So, if he would be straight: why would he try to reach you with his sight? Huh!!

    Anyways, It's just a thought ;) try not to study a line, just be yourself ;)
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    Sep 11, 2012 3:41 AM GMT
    If he's gay and lives in the same city, you'll see him eventually - either in the gay clubs, on Grindr, OKCupid, or some gay function. You could always just mention you're gay to see if he picks up.
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    Sep 11, 2012 4:01 AM GMT
    DavidDB saidThis is kinda' elaborate... but I've used it once before.

    OH SO HOT guy at Tractor Supply !

    I didn't know whether or not he was gay... so...

    I sent him flowers from "a secret admirer" and the note with it said that I often come into the store, like him, but didn't know if he was "with" anyone.

    Nice flower arrangement ... with the addition of 1 red rose and 1 white rose.

    I sent instructions saying to leave the flowers in the vase at the counter in the middle of the store.

    IF that if he was unattached, he was to keep the RED rose in the arrangement and take out the white one.

    IF he was attached, he was to keep the WHITE rose in the arrangement.

    The note said that I would come into the store sometime within the following 4 - days. If I saw that he was unattached... he would get his next gift and CLUE.

    It was supposed to lead to a series of surprises that each consecutive answer would let me know whether or not he was gay... and arrange for us to eventually meet.

    I went into the store a couple of days later... there was a WHITE rose, meaning that he was attached.

    It SERVED it's purpose. Even though I didn't get to the later stages of the "plan". He was with someone.....I learned that... so, case closed.

    Yeah... it's a somewhat (lol) complicated way, I found out without having to asking the guy out... and don't feel awkward going into the store or dealing with him SINCE he doesn't even know that it was I who sent the flowers (and chocolates with a bear wearing a sweater) icon_lol.gif



    icon_surprised.gif so romantic!
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    Sep 11, 2012 4:10 AM GMT
    i did it once. cute guy working in the video store. i know, old skool right? in this day of streaming. anyways, i would go a few times a week. it was the perfect situation, browse at titles, linger, wait for moments when he's free, chat a bit about movies, laugh, etc. sometimes he'd come out from behind the counter to return things to shelves. we'd chat privately away from other coworkers. eventually we came out to each other... even though we didn't need to. it just came up in conversation, i was talking about an ex and how "he" etc...

    anyways, we were talking about different art films and directors we like. and there was a new one out by one of my favorite directors, and would he like to go see it with me? he said yes, gave me his number, and we went on a movie/drinks/dinner date. it was really nice. we kissed a bit at the end of the evening, but there were no lightning bolts. so we're friends now.

  • GREEKy

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    Sep 11, 2012 4:30 AM GMT
    huhwhat saidIf he's gay and lives in the same city, you'll see him eventually - either in the gay clubs, on Grindr, OKCupid, or some gay function. You could always just mention you're gay to see if he picks up.


    eh.. you know there are 5 boroughs to NYC right? haha. I doubt I'd run into him that way.
  • JosephC

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    Sep 11, 2012 4:45 AM GMT
    In one of your little chats ask him what time he usually gets off. Have something planned (if he's off morning/night) arround that time and ask him if he'd like to come join. You could say you and your friends but if you want to be bold then just indicate it'll only be with you. You'll find out if he likes you or not and go from there. ;) Good luck!
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    Sep 11, 2012 5:10 AM GMT
    DavidDB said
    Leluke86 said
    DavidDB saidThis is kinda' elaborate... but I've used it once before.

    OH SO HOT guy at Tractor Supply !

    I didn't know whether or not he was gay... so...

    I sent him flowers from "a secret admirer" and the note with it said that I often come into the store, like him, but didn't know if he was "with" anyone.

    Nice flower arrangement ... with the addition of 1 red rose and 1 white rose.

    I sent instructions saying to leave the flowers in the vase at the counter in the middle of the store.

    IF that if he was unattached, he was to keep the RED rose in the arrangement and take out the white one.

    IF he was attached, he was to keep the WHITE rose in the arrangement.

    The note said that I would come into the store sometime within the following 4 - days. If I saw that he was unattached... he would get his next gift and CLUE.

    It was supposed to lead to a series of surprises that each consecutive answer would let me know whether or not he was gay... and arrange for us to eventually meet.

    I went into the store a couple of days later... there was a WHITE rose, meaning that he was attached.

    It SERVED it's purpose. Even though I didn't get to the later stages of the "plan". He was with someone.....I learned that... so, case closed.

    Yeah... it's a somewhat (lol) complicated way, I found out without having to asking the guy out... and don't feel awkward going into the store or dealing with him SINCE he doesn't even know that it was I who sent the flowers (and chocolates with a bear wearing a sweater) icon_lol.gif



    icon_surprised.gif so romantic!


    Gee... thanks. icon_redface.gificon_redface.gificon_redface.gif

    I forgot to mention I sent it on Valentine's Day. icon_redface.gif

    The many times I've talked to him.. wow... he's just soooooooooo nice. (and eye-rollingly sexy)


    wow even better
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    Sep 11, 2012 5:50 AM GMT
    You should ask him about his private life, outside of work. Like if he has a girlfriend etc... Always the best way to ask if he's gay without actually asking if he's gay.
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    Sep 11, 2012 6:55 AM GMT
    Leluke86 said
    DavidDB said
    Leluke86 said
    DavidDB saidThis is kinda' elaborate... but I've used it once before.

    OH SO HOT guy at Tractor Supply !

    I didn't know whether or not he was gay... so...

    I sent him flowers from "a secret admirer" and the note with it said that I often come into the store, like him, but didn't know if he was "with" anyone.

    Nice flower arrangement ... with the addition of 1 red rose and 1 white rose.

    I sent instructions saying to leave the flowers in the vase at the counter in the middle of the store.

    IF that if he was unattached, he was to keep the RED rose in the arrangement and take out the white one.

    IF he was attached, he was to keep the WHITE rose in the arrangement.

    The note said that I would come into the store sometime within the following 4 - days. If I saw that he was unattached... he would get his next gift and CLUE.

    It was supposed to lead to a series of surprises that each consecutive answer would let me know whether or not he was gay... and arrange for us to eventually meet.

    I went into the store a couple of days later... there was a WHITE rose, meaning that he was attached.

    It SERVED it's purpose. Even though I didn't get to the later stages of the "plan". He was with someone.....I learned that... so, case closed.

    Yeah... it's a somewhat (lol) complicated way, I found out without having to asking the guy out... and don't feel awkward going into the store or dealing with him SINCE he doesn't even know that it was I who sent the flowers (and chocolates with a bear wearing a sweater) icon_lol.gif



    icon_surprised.gif so romantic!


    Gee... thanks. icon_redface.gificon_redface.gificon_redface.gif

    I forgot to mention I sent it on Valentine's Day. icon_redface.gif

    The many times I've talked to him.. wow... he's just soooooooooo nice. (and eye-rollingly sexy)


    wow even better


    #swoon
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    Sep 11, 2012 6:59 AM GMT
    ChilaxinJOCK09 saidleave him your number on something. see how he reacts


    Something.
    Yes, write your number on your dick and drop trou. If he writes down your number, he's interested.
    If he tries to find out if the ink is flavored, he's really interested.
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    Sep 11, 2012 7:14 AM GMT
    hmmm all dash and no substance in some of these posts. beginning to not be so enamoured.icon_rolleyes.gif