One or Two of your most memorable hugs

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    Sep 11, 2012 4:29 AM GMT
    Met some friends I knew from HS at a party recently and they were making fun of my friend and I because we had " the epic hug" during the last day of school.

    Basically we became great friends during our last two years in HS. Two very different people, He was naive, goofy and all about volunteering EMS and I was ............a difficult person lol. Anywhos I picked on him but getting to know him he grew on me a lot and I became his older brother.

    So he wrote in my yearbook that he's glad to have known me and we will always be brothers so last day after getting lunch with the fellow graduates he gives hugs to everyone and then we look at each other. I didn't say anything but I gave him a nod and then he came up to me and hugged me and then after a small lag I hugged back and it was definitely over a minute. I never forgot that one. Neither did he so that led me to doing this......

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    ooooh man this was a funny moment.





    Genuine hugs can be pretty powerful. What's your most memorable hug? Hope to bring a little positivity to the threadicon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 11, 2012 4:45 AM GMT
    Picture it, Virginia State Gymnastics Championships, 1999. A young Level 8 boy from Paragon Gymnastics is competing in the vault final. He qualified in first place with a large lead. He is the favorite to win. However, tragically, a misstep on his first vault causes him to trip and sit down. Right then and there he knows things could be in jeopardy. He goes for a second vault, also a miss. He's absolutely crushed and walks back to his coach hanging his head down. He's so disappointed that he can't watch the rest of the competition.

    At the end of the competition, a strange boy approaches. It's the gold-medal winner. He grabs hold of the dejected boy and pulls him in for a hug while saying to him, "I know you would've won if you'd landed on your feet."
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    Sep 11, 2012 5:31 AM GMT
    I'm not a big hugger ... now if you'd have asked about most memorable fuck or kiss ... I might have been able to come up with something
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    Sep 11, 2012 11:30 AM GMT
    nicodegallo saidPicture it, Virginia State Gymnastics Championships, 1999. A young Level 8 boy from Paragon Gymnastics is competing in the vault final. He qualified in first place with a large lead. He is the favorite to win. However, tragically, a misstep on his first vault causes him to trip and sit down. Right then and there he knows things could be in jeopardy. He goes for a second vault, also a miss. He's absolutely crushed and walks back to his coach hanging his head down. He's so disappointed that he can't watch the rest of the competition.

    At the end of the competition, a strange boy approaches. It's the gold-medal winner. He grabs hold of the dejected boy and pulls him in for a hug while saying to him, "I know you would've won if you'd landed on your feet."


    ah damn that sucks but i'm sure that hug was good
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    Sep 11, 2012 8:45 PM GMT
    Came out to a straight friend in college (1980). He stood straight up and yelled "I can't believe it! I can't believe it!" while pulling his hair out. Then he walked over to me and gave me the longest, biggest bear hug I have ever received! Although this was over 30 years ago we are still in touch to this day.
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    chi_rock saidCame out to a straight friend in college (1980). He stood straight up and yelled "I can't believe it! I can't believe it!" while pulling his hair out. Then he walked over to me and gave me the longest, biggest bear hug I have ever received! Although this was over 30 years ago we are still in touch to this day.

    Awesome
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    I came out to my whole diving team after a traumatic incident with an ex. The only other guy on the team made an effort to lead a group hug and he came straight up to me and hugged me and said if you need anything i will always be there for you. It shook me to my core that he would do that for me. Meant a lot icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 11, 2012 8:59 PM GMT
    It was our longest hug at LAX. I didn't want to let go. But I had to get back home to care for mom. We would have the rest of our lives together. Turns out he died before we'd see each other again. I think of that hug often.
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    theantijock saidIt was our longest hug at LAX. I didn't want to let go. But I had to get back home to care for mom. We would have the rest of our lives together. Turns out he died before we'd see each other again. I think of that hug often.


    I read this and my heart sank....

    ...I lost my boyfriend in hospital due to a rare strain of Influenza A, yet he was a completely healthy surfer with nothing else wrong with him until then!?!?!

    ....sometimes something as simple as a hug can haunt you forever.
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    Diving101 saidI came out to my whole diving team after a traumatic incident with an ex. The only other guy on the team made an effort to lead a group hug and he came straight up to me and hugged me and said if you need anything i will always be there for you. It shook me to my core that he would do that for me. Meant a lot icon_biggrin.gif


    Yeah especially since he took the initiative icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 12, 2012 12:58 AM GMT
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    theantijock saidIt was our longest hug at LAX. I didn't want to let go. But I had to get back home to care for mom. We would have the rest of our lives together. Turns out he died before we'd see each other again. I think of that hug often.


    I read this and my heart sank....

    ...I lost my boyfriend in hospital due to a rare strain of Influenza A, yet he was a completely healthy surfer with nothing else wrong with him until then!?!?!

    ....sometimes something as simple as a hug can haunt you forever.


    Sorry for you, man. Surprise deaths suck. Not for the dead of course. They get off easy. But you live the rest of your life missing them.

    So love all the time because you never know how much time. Laugh when you can. Life takes no prisoners.
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    Sep 12, 2012 3:16 AM GMT
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    theantijock saidIt was our longest hug at LAX. I didn't want to let go. But I had to get back home to care for mom. We would have the rest of our lives together. Turns out he died before we'd see each other again. I think of that hug often.


    I read this and my heart sank....

    ...I lost my boyfriend in hospital due to a rare strain of Influenza A, yet he was a completely healthy surfer with nothing else wrong with him until then!?!?!

    ....sometimes something as simple as a hug can haunt you forever.


    Sorry for you, man. Surprise deaths suck. Not for the dead of course. They get off easy. But you live the rest of your life missing them.

    So love all the time because you never know how much time. Laugh when you can. Life takes no prisoners.


    Yeah . Never know when your day can come. Sucks sometimes how little precious things can be taken for granted sometimes until it becomes a reality that it may never happen again.
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    Sep 12, 2012 3:37 AM GMT
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    theantijock said
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    theantijock saidIt was our longest hug at LAX. I didn't want to let go. But I had to get back home to care for mom. We would have the rest of our lives together. Turns out he died before we'd see each other again. I think of that hug often.


    I read this and my heart sank....

    ...I lost my boyfriend in hospital due to a rare strain of Influenza A, yet he was a completely healthy surfer with nothing else wrong with him until then!?!?!

    ....sometimes something as simple as a hug can haunt you forever.


    Sorry for you, man. Surprise deaths suck. Not for the dead of course. They get off easy. But you live the rest of your life missing them.

    So love all the time because you never know how much time. Laugh when you can. Life takes no prisoners.


    Yeah . Never know when your day can come. Sucks sometimes how little precious things can be taken for granted sometimes until it becomes a reality that it may never happen again.


    That can be true but it even happens when you don't take things for granted. Life is very non-discriminating. Hell, I don't think I ever take things for granted. The people in my life know how I feel about them because I tell them. I quit my job to spend more time with my mom and to then, I thought, be spending more time with my bud. Time meant more to me than money. I tried to prioritize and do what I thought more valuable, the more important things of life. Dumb, huh?

    But that's the thing about life. Whether you take it for granted or not, you still wind up getting screwed. lol. Ain't that a kick. So don't ever miss a hug. That way you increase your chances of holding on when life pulls the rug out from under you. Then either you won't fall completely. Or at least you'll drag the bitch down with ya. :::Hugs:::::
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    Sep 12, 2012 3:39 AM GMT
    Sorry if this ruins the good mood of the thread. Unfortunately I've never had any good hugs. When I see my extended family, there are hugs, but usually just one arm, or handshakes with the men. Never hugged any of my friends, again just a handshake or fist bump. And my mother hasn't hugged me since I was like 12. My father tries to hug me, but he's the one person I don't want to hug meicon_rolleyes.gif
    My most memorable hug would probably hugging my grandmother at thanksgiving. The only thing that made it so memorable is that she was wearing so much perfume, I stunk the rest of the night and the next morning. icon_lol.gificon_eek.gif. Even my bed stunk of perfume for a day or two.
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    ChestArmMusclelover saidSorry if this ruins the good mood of the thread. Unfortunately I've never had any good hugs. When I see my extended family, there are hugs, but usually just one arm, or handshakes with the men. Never hugged any of my friends, again just a handshake or fist bump. And my mother hasn't hugged me since I was like 12. My father tries to hug me, but he's the one person I don't want to hug meicon_rolleyes.gif
    My most memorable hug would probably hugging my grandmother at thanksgiving. The only thing that made it so memorable is that she was wearing so much perfume, I stunk the rest of the night and the next morning. icon_lol.gificon_eek.gif. Even my bed stunk of perfume for a day or two.


    My friends only started hugging later in life. We didn't hug as kids, but having known each other since we were kids, now we hug. At this age you hold onto whatever's left. I even kiss some of them. Probably pissing off the wives.

    But my family, immediate and extended are definitely huggers. Can't think of any who don't. I've even had a few str8 male cousins unconsciously come in for a kiss before they catch themselves. Actually that just happened with a neighbor the other day when I went to touch his shoulder, glad he survived an incident which put him in the hospital. The next day he made a point to shake nohomohands on greeting me.

    But I've seen others who don't hug, some of whom have a problem with touch. I've actually in mind a specific person, the brother of a friend of mine who actually jumps a little in his skin whenever anyone touches him. So I'm just wondering by reading your post, is the no hugging with you them or you?
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    Sep 12, 2012 4:26 AM GMT
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    tmac said
    theantijock said
    gaythlete said
    theantijock saidIt was our longest hug at LAX. I didn't want to let go. But I had to get back home to care for mom. We would have the rest of our lives together. Turns out he died before we'd see each other again. I think of that hug often.


    I read this and my heart sank....

    ...I lost my boyfriend in hospital due to a rare strain of Influenza A, yet he was a completely healthy surfer with nothing else wrong with him until then!?!?!

    ....sometimes something as simple as a hug can haunt you forever.


    Sorry for you, man. Surprise deaths suck. Not for the dead of course. They get off easy. But you live the rest of your life missing them.

    So love all the time because you never know how much time. Laugh when you can. Life takes no prisoners.


    Yeah . Never know when your day can come. Sucks sometimes how little precious things can be taken for granted sometimes until it becomes a reality that it may never happen again.
    The worst part is that the last time I hugged my grandfather I didn't understand why he was crying. It seems his grip on mortal reality was so much stronger than mine. I just wish I remembered what we were saying. I remember the scent of nicotine gum on him.

    I only remember this one, because he died almost three years after this.

    The other hugs most memorable before reading the thread are all ones I'd rather not talk about. All happened this year, though.


    As convenient as it might have been to be born omniscient...sorry, can't stop laughing long enough to complete that sentence and I don't even know where it was going.

    Be happy to be on the road of growing self awareness. Keep in mind when looking back that--presuming you didn't do harm, which by this you did not--you don't judge too harshly your past by your present perceptions because that is the road to regret. Should a person born blind regret past experiences before science later in life gave him the sight to see?

    It sounds like your grandfather had all the understanding for you. What a lovely memory.
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    Sep 12, 2012 12:55 PM GMT
    Trollileo said
    tmac said
    theantijock said
    gaythlete said
    theantijock saidIt was our longest hug at LAX. I didn't want to let go. But I had to get back home to care for mom. We would have the rest of our lives together. Turns out he died before we'd see each other again. I think of that hug often.


    I read this and my heart sank....

    ...I lost my boyfriend in hospital due to a rare strain of Influenza A, yet he was a completely healthy surfer with nothing else wrong with him until then!?!?!

    ....sometimes something as simple as a hug can haunt you forever.


    Sorry for you, man. Surprise deaths suck. Not for the dead of course. They get off easy. But you live the rest of your life missing them.

    So love all the time because you never know how much time. Laugh when you can. Life takes no prisoners.


    Yeah . Never know when your day can come. Sucks sometimes how little precious things can be taken for granted sometimes until it becomes a reality that it may never happen again.
    The worst part is that the last time I hugged my grandfather I didn't understand why he was crying. It seems his grip on mortal reality was so much stronger than mine. I just wish I remembered what we were saying. I remember the scent of nicotine gum on him.

    I only remember this one, because he died almost three years after this.

    The other hugs most memorable before reading the thread are all ones I'd rather not talk about. All happened this year, though.


    Interesting. Honestly I am hoping you eventually share those other memorable moments.
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    Sep 12, 2012 2:58 PM GMT
    I pretty much sign all of my emails or posts with the word *hugs* - there's something about the simple act of an embrace that gives warmth and solidarity to your fellow man.

    I once gave a young homeless guy a $20 note I found blowing down the street 10 minutes before, he literally cried and hugged me for about 3-4 minutes. He told me his name was Jack and he'd been kicked out of home.

    I started stopping by where he hung out and giving him whatever change I had in my pocket, or sometimes soup and a bread roll if I had time to pick up extra.

    About 6 months later on he stopped hanging out there, and I was admittedly worried about him for a while, but accepted that he had probably been moved on or decided to go elsewhere.

    One day on the train to work, Jack came up to me with a huge smile on his face and said "Hi - do you remember me?" , looking like he was on his way to work, and not living on the street anymore - he'd started doing some training with an outreach program and found himself work and a place to live.

    He returned the hug again and I felt like maybe I had made a difference..
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    sc69 saidI pretty much sign all of my emails or posts with the word *hugs* - there's something about the simple act of an embrace that gives warmth and solidarity to your fellow man.

    I once gave a young homeless guy a $20 note I found blowing down the street 10 minutes before, he literally cried and hugged me for about 3-4 minutes. He told me his name was Jack and he'd been kicked out of home.

    I started stopping by where he hung out and giving him whatever change I had in my pocket, or sometimes soup and a bread roll if I had time to pick up extra.

    About 6 months later on he stopped hanging out there, and I was admittedly worried about him for a while, but accepted that he had probably been moved on or decided to go elsewhere.

    One day on the train to work, Jack came up to me with a huge smile on his face and said "Hi - do you remember me?" , looking like he was on his way to work, and not living on the street anymore - he'd started doing some training with an outreach program and found himself work and a place to live.

    He returned the hug again and I felt like maybe I had made a difference..


    After being kicked out and losing everything you once had from people you know, it's a shock to be granted kindness by someone you don't know. There's no maybe about it. YOU MADE A DIFFERENCE! icon_biggrin.gif

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    ChestArmMusclelover saidSorry if this ruins the good mood of the thread. Unfortunately I've never had any good hugs. When I see my extended family, there are hugs, but usually just one arm, or handshakes with the men. Never hugged any of my friends, again just a handshake or fist bump. And my mother hasn't hugged me since I was like 12. My father tries to hug me, but he's the one person I don't want to hug meicon_rolleyes.gif
    My most memorable hug would probably hugging my grandmother at thanksgiving. The only thing that made it so memorable is that she was wearing so much perfume, I stunk the rest of the night and the next morning. icon_lol.gificon_eek.gif. Even my bed stunk of perfume for a day or two.


    My friends only started hugging later in life. We didn't hug as kids, but having known each other since we were kids, now we hug. At this age you hold onto whatever's left. I even kiss some of them. Probably pissing off the wives.

    But my family, immediate and extended are definitely huggers. Can't think of any who don't. I've even had a few str8 male cousins unconsciously come in for a kiss before they catch themselves. Actually that just happened with a neighbor the other day when I went to touch his shoulder, glad he survived an incident which put him in the hospital. The next day he made a point to shake nohomohands on greeting me.

    But I've seen others who don't hug, some of whom have a problem with touch. I've actually in mind a specific person, the brother of a friend of mine who actually jumps a little in his skin whenever anyone touches him. So I'm just wondering by reading your post, is the no hugging with you them or you?


    Well, the friends I do have, we're not very close. The no hugging thing makes sense to me. To greet we shake hands or fist bump. To say goodbye we just wave. Being raised as an introvert I used to have a problem with any kinds of physical contact, but I never let it show, and now I'm okay with it. The only reason I don't like hugging my dad, is because he treats me like a baby.(serious relationship problems on both our parts ... don't ask)

    I'm not the type to initiate a hug though. I don't want to make anyone uncomfortable, so I usually let them set the ground rules.
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    ChestArmMusclelover saidSorry if this ruins the good mood of the thread. Unfortunately I've never had any good hugs. When I see my extended family, there are hugs, but usually just one arm, or handshakes with the men. Never hugged any of my friends, again just a handshake or fist bump. And my mother hasn't hugged me since I was like 12. My father tries to hug me, but he's the one person I don't want to hug meicon_rolleyes.gif
    My most memorable hug would probably hugging my grandmother at thanksgiving. The only thing that made it so memorable is that she was wearing so much perfume, I stunk the rest of the night and the next morning. icon_lol.gificon_eek.gif. Even my bed stunk of perfume for a day or two.


    My friends only started hugging later in life. We didn't hug as kids, but having known each other since we were kids, now we hug. At this age you hold onto whatever's left. I even kiss some of them. Probably pissing off the wives.

    But my family, immediate and extended are definitely huggers. Can't think of any who don't. I've even had a few str8 male cousins unconsciously come in for a kiss before they catch themselves. Actually that just happened with a neighbor the other day when I went to touch his shoulder, glad he survived an incident which put him in the hospital. The next day he made a point to shake nohomohands on greeting me.

    But I've seen others who don't hug, some of whom have a problem with touch. I've actually in mind a specific person, the brother of a friend of mine who actually jumps a little in his skin whenever anyone touches him. So I'm just wondering by reading your post, is the no hugging with you them or you?


    Well, the friends I do have, we're not very close. The no hugging thing makes sense to me. To greet we shake hands or fist bump. To say goodbye we just wave. Being raised as an introvert I used to have a problem with any kinds of physical contact, but I never let it show, and now I'm okay with it. The only reason I don't like hugging my dad, is because he treats me like a baby.(serious relationship problems on both our parts ... don't ask)

    I'm not the type to initiate a hug though. I don't want to make anyone uncomfortable, so I usually let them set the ground rules.


    Good for you to recognize all that.

    I'm not into all the karma stuff or wishing life into being crap but it's pretty obvious that we are at least in some small way responsible for our own lives.

    Now go give your daddy a hug. You will always be his baby.
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    Sep 12, 2012 6:34 PM GMT
    oh i did that free hugs thing! pssht, i dont remember dem bitches names though, they were sweet though
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    Sep 12, 2012 10:12 PM GMT
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    ChestArmMusclelover saidSorry if this ruins the good mood of the thread. Unfortunately I've never had any good hugs. When I see my extended family, there are hugs, but usually just one arm, or handshakes with the men. Never hugged any of my friends, again just a handshake or fist bump. And my mother hasn't hugged me since I was like 12. My father tries to hug me, but he's the one person I don't want to hug meicon_rolleyes.gif
    My most memorable hug would probably hugging my grandmother at thanksgiving. The only thing that made it so memorable is that she was wearing so much perfume, I stunk the rest of the night and the next morning. icon_lol.gificon_eek.gif. Even my bed stunk of perfume for a day or two.


    My friends only started hugging later in life. We didn't hug as kids, but having known each other since we were kids, now we hug. At this age you hold onto whatever's left. I even kiss some of them. Probably pissing off the wives.

    But my family, immediate and extended are definitely huggers. Can't think of any who don't. I've even had a few str8 male cousins unconsciously come in for a kiss before they catch themselves. Actually that just happened with a neighbor the other day when I went to touch his shoulder, glad he survived an incident which put him in the hospital. The next day he made a point to shake nohomohands on greeting me.

    But I've seen others who don't hug, some of whom have a problem with touch. I've actually in mind a specific person, the brother of a friend of mine who actually jumps a little in his skin whenever anyone touches him. So I'm just wondering by reading your post, is the no hugging with you them or you?


    Well, the friends I do have, we're not very close. The no hugging thing makes sense to me. To greet we shake hands or fist bump. To say goodbye we just wave. Being raised as an introvert I used to have a problem with any kinds of physical contact, but I never let it show, and now I'm okay with it. The only reason I don't like hugging my dad, is because he treats me like a baby.(serious relationship problems on both our parts ... don't ask)

    I'm not the type to initiate a hug though. I don't want to make anyone uncomfortable, so I usually let them set the ground rules.


    Good for you to recognize all that.

    I'm not into all the karma stuff or wishing life into being crap but it's pretty obvious that we are at least in some small way responsible for our own lives.

    Now go give your daddy a hug. You will always be his baby.


    icon_eek.gifLike I said before, my dad is the only person I wouldn't hug. I know where he's always coming from, (Seeing me as a baby) but we have so many unresolved issues and such a bad relationship that I can't bring myself to do it, even when he tries to initiate it. Maybe someday when I've forgiven him and moved on. (I hate family problems, but trust me there are some things even time can't fully heal)
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    Sep 12, 2012 10:38 PM GMT
    This is pretty personal and I probably shouldn't be talking about it online, but a few years ago I was a very unhappy, depressed person. My friends started worrying about me, but never said anything until one day when I was alone with my best friend in my room and he asked me if I was thinking about killing myself. It was a pretty bad day for me, and very obvious to the people around me, but I never expected him to ask me something like that. I told him the truth that I thought about it constantly. He got up, sat on my bed with me, and threw his arms around me without saying anything. I could feel tears starting to soak in on my shirt until he was uncontrollably crying. He asked why I would ever do something like that, but I didn't have an answer. I could barely understand what he was saying he was crying so violently until he started begging me not to go through with it. I can still hear his voice saying to me to not kill myself over and over again as he cried and held his arms around me. I had tried to remain emotionless, but I couldn't hold it in any more and we sat there crying and holding each other for what seemed like an hour. We had a falling out shortly after unfortunately, and we haven't talked for about 5 years, which is one of the greatest regrets of my life. I was stupid and the problems I had at the time caused me to drive him off.
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    Sep 12, 2012 10:41 PM GMT
    When I was in about 3rd grade and leaving for a day trip at an amusement park, my mother hugged me. First time I can remember her doing that, it meant a lot.

    The other time was when I came out to my son, at 6'5" and me at 6'1" we both stood and with a tear rolling down his cheek he told me he loved me and gave me a hug. It was exactly what I needed from him.