The Gay Man's Guide to Dating After 50

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    Sep 11, 2012 3:46 PM GMT
    Who would have thought that AARP would be so progressive in their thinking. I didn't realize they even considered information for gay men and women. Guess maybe it is time I joined! LOL Good advice, interesting read.

    The gay community's — OK, let's get real, mostly the gay male community's — ageism.

    Think more about keeping a sparkle in your eyes and less on fighting the fine lines around them.

    http://www.aarp.org/relationships/love-sex/info-04-2011/gay-mans-guide-to-dating-after-50.html
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    Sep 11, 2012 5:22 PM GMT
    AARP is really gay friendly.

    A good friend of mine works there. He is in charge of their NASCAR sponsorship and literally spends most of his time traveling around to races and hanging out with the drivers. Nice job. icon_biggrin.gif

    Don't tell him I didn't renew this year, though. I never used the discounts/benefits. Ssssh.
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    Sep 11, 2012 5:32 PM GMT
    30-year-old hottie turning heads at the gym? Isn't that already way over the hill in the gay dating world? icon_rolleyes.gif

    Joking aside, I can't help but find this short article endearing.
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    Sep 11, 2012 5:48 PM GMT
    It was bound to happen .. in the past, men just stayed in the closet until they died ... The more that people come out, the safer they are feeling to finally come out
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    Sep 11, 2012 6:15 PM GMT
    The last 3 sentences, says it all:
    "Don't settle for anything less than chemistry, shared values/lifestyle/goals, trust, and a growing and abiding friendship. Especially at this stage of life, why would you want a relationship that doesn't bring you happiness? I can think of something far worse than being single, gay and older. Being coupled, gay and unhappy."

    Every once in a while a thought creeps into my head saying, "I wish I had a partner." But it is immediately forced out by the thought above. I think to myself, I don't think I ever want to give up the freedom I have and the joy of life I experience, that I know I would never be able to experience with a partner.
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    Sep 11, 2012 6:34 PM GMT
    I forgot what I was going to say.
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    Sep 11, 2012 6:45 PM GMT
    For me, chemistry is becoming less important as I age. Why give up alchemy just because you can't turn lead to gold?

    I think that true particularly as we are gay and not mandatorily subjected to the norms of str8 people. We don't require just one person to satisfy every single need. We can have an open relationship and say fuck you to anyone who dares judge it.

    Not only that, but I think this particularly relevant as we age because by then we know ourselves too well. We've already spent decades experimenting with our bodies and searching our souls to be able to fool ourselves long with fantasy.

    The last thing we need as the dating pool diminishes is more excuses to be intolerant of difference.
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    Sep 11, 2012 6:54 PM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidEvery once in a while a thought creeps into my head saying, "I wish I had a partner." But it is immediately forced out by the thought above. I think to myself, I don't think I ever want to give up the freedom I have and the joy of life I experience, that I know I would never be able to experience with a partner.

    I would like the snuggling a night.
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    Sep 11, 2012 7:55 PM GMT
    You are brave posting something about 50 year olds with all the 20 something guys making fun of anyone over 40. They've got to grow up. I had a conservative client that wouldn't subscribe to AARP because of their liberal stance and gay friendly policies. It is great that AARP is not an ignorant group.
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    Sep 11, 2012 8:12 PM GMT
    "...when someone touches you, they'll really feel you, and not a bundle of self-critical tension."

    quote full of win.
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    Sep 11, 2012 8:17 PM GMT
    I've been with some guys around and over the age of 50. I say keep doing what you're doing!
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    Sep 12, 2012 12:20 AM GMT
    showme saidAARP is really gay friendly.

    A good friend of mine works there. He is in charge of their NASCAR sponsorship and literally spends most of his time traveling around to races and hanging out with the drivers. Nice job. icon_biggrin.gif

    Don't tell him I didn't renew this year, though. I never used the discounts/benefits. Ssssh.
    Wow.. maybe I'll actually look into it since I normally throw the AARP houndings away..........(they started when I was 48.. damn they are persistent!)
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    Sep 12, 2012 12:38 AM GMT
    braddomo saidYou are brave posting something about 50 year olds with all the 20 something guys making fun of anyone over 40. They've got to grow up. I had a conservative client that wouldn't subscribe to AARP because of their liberal stance and gay friendly policies. It is great that AARP is not an ignorant group.
    Yes, I think you'll see much more of acceptance for the over 50 guys because there are more and more added each year. With the general acceptance of homosexuality and with the big decline in loses from the Aids epidemic, more and more gay guys over 50 need to be recognized for their existence and contributions to society. Hopefully the younger guys will recognize the value of having an older generation as mentors and leaders for them.

    I too have avoided the AARP mailings I receive often, I'm second thinking that now...hey, 15% at the 4pm setting for dinner might not be THAT bad, I'm thinking adding a whole new meal to my dining. Breakfast, lunch, AARP pre-happy hour snack and dinner. icon_lol.gif
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    Sep 12, 2012 12:41 AM GMT
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    braddomo saidYou are brave posting something about 50 year olds with all the 20 something guys making fun of anyone over 40. They've got to grow up. I had a conservative client that wouldn't subscribe to AARP because of their liberal stance and gay friendly policies. It is great that AARP is not an ignorant group.
    Yes, I think you'll see much more of acceptance for the over 50 guys because there are more and more added each year. With the general acceptance of homosexuality and with the big decline in loses from the Aids epidemic, more and more gay guys over 50 need to be recognized for their existence and contributions to society. Hopefully the younger guys will recognize the value of having an older generation as mentors and leaders for them.

    I too have avoided the AARP mailings I receive often, I'm second thinking that now...hey, 15% at the 4pm setting for dinner might not be THAT bad, I'm thinking adding a whole new meal to my dining. Breakfast, lunch, AARP pre-happy hour snack and dinner. icon_lol.gif
    I always was jealous of that AARP discount! Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm. a 'rethink' maybe?