Anyone else bothered by this?

  • easterndude69

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    Sep 11, 2012 8:03 PM GMT
    Okay, so straight guys messing around with each other doesn't necessarily make them gay. However, some do it so overtly and so suggestively that you would think they're covering up something. Straight guys claim they're 'comfortable' and that they can mess around with other guys and this doesn't make them gay. Other girls may suspect they're gay, but they deny it, and some get really defensive whenever it's brought up. It seems that straight people use the claim of being straight to allow themselves to mess with other dudes, sometimes really overtly and yet they claim there's nothing homo about it. Sometimes, they even have sex with other dudes or jerk off together and still scream no homo when its questioned. I don't think being defensive about being called out for being gay can be associated with someone being comfortable with their sexuality. To me, most of those who claim to be comfortable with their sexuality really aren't. If anything, they come off as insecure to me, which is uncomfortable. Above all, they're dishonest with themselves.

    This may be taken as me looking for a reason to go after them and try to hook up with them or be their bf, but it's not. I know that hitting on them would be no use and get me nowhere, and that they prob won't come to terms with themselves until at least well after college is over, when I won't ever see them. But I feel offended and annoyed when 'straight' guys are like this. They claim to be straight but do gay things with each other using the claim that they're straight and the bitches they fuck as a cover up for justifying their actions. I know some guys really do just joke around, but I really start to question guys when they mess around too much. Even if they 'fuck bitches', if they havent been in a long-term relationship for a long time or claim that they'd never date just fuck, that raises even more flags to me. Anyone else bothered by this? To me, 'straight' guys who are like this are either insecure closet gays/bisexuals, or they are just douchebags.
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    Sep 11, 2012 8:07 PM GMT
    It's fine with me. Especially when I'm the one they are getting with icon_biggrin.gif
  • easterndude69

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    Sep 11, 2012 8:11 PM GMT
    To top it all off, they're not only being dishonest with themselves I feel, but they are also disrespecting other gay and bi men making it seem like there's something wrong with liking men. This is especially present in high school and college I've noticed. Sure, we think they're straight, but more than likely these are the guys who marry then divorce their wives in search of a gay man for a long-term relationship or fuck other dudes on the dl behind their wives' backs.
  • Import

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    Sep 11, 2012 8:12 PM GMT
    omg, but look at girls.
    It's so cool right now for girls to hook-up with other girls and kiss other girls, but they're def not lesbians. It's just fashionable. They're only lesbians if they use a strap-on dildo with eachother, but anything barring a strap-on they aren't labeled as lesbians.

    Craziness
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    Sep 11, 2012 8:13 PM GMT
    Import said They're only lesbians if they use a strap-on dildo with eachother, but anything barring a strap-on they aren't labeled as lesbians.


    Hahahaha, where did you get this "rule"?
  • HottJoe

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    Sep 11, 2012 8:17 PM GMT
    It's hard to imagine a gay guy doing that with a girl. You have to wonder what's really going through their heads.icon_confused.gif
  • easterndude69

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    Sep 11, 2012 8:18 PM GMT
    Import saidomg, but look at girls.
    It's so cool right now for girls to hook-up with other girls and kiss other girls, but they're def not lesbians. It's just fashionable. They're only lesbians if they use a strap-on dildo with eachother, but anything barring a strap-on they aren't labeled as lesbians.

    Craziness


    I noticed that too, but girls are wired somewhat differently from guys. I think there are studies that show that womens' sexuality is more fluid, which has also led guys I know to believe that more of them are bisexual whereas more men are straight. Still, I can imagine that being annoying for other lesbians to deal with. I'm not even sure if I know of too many lesbians tbh or rather I'm not sure if I can tell which ones are.icon_confused.gif
  • Import

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    Sep 11, 2012 8:18 PM GMT
    showme said
    Import said They're only lesbians if they use a strap-on dildo with eachother, but anything barring a strap-on they aren't labeled as lesbians.


    Hahahaha, where did you get this "rule"?

    I dunno, that's just how people see it I think...

    Girls can mess around with eachother and explore and suck on eachother's titties, etc... and they're not considered lesbians.

    I feel like only a true lesbian would use a strap-on with another chick, ya know? I dont imagine these girls that are "exploring" and playing around are using strap-ons with eachother.
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    Sep 11, 2012 8:36 PM GMT

    "Anyone else bothered by this?"

    Not really, unless it involves hurting someone. They're bi and are on that journey. Eventually they'll come to terms with it.
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    Sep 11, 2012 9:14 PM GMT
    Not really. It's only a pain after they realize you're not straight like them and get cautious about everything. I think that's the main tick off point.
  • FuriousGeorge

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    Sep 11, 2012 10:34 PM GMT
    Depends on what kind of mood they catch me in. If my friends pull that shit, I'll just roll my eyes and think they're childish. If I'm in a bad mood, I'll retort, "Cause it would be SO HORRIBLE to be gay, right?"
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    Sep 11, 2012 10:46 PM GMT
    It doesn't bother me. Although I can definitely understand why some may find it offensive. I have a few guy friends who play around all the time so i'm used to it.
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    Sep 12, 2012 1:02 AM GMT
    Life is about growing and changing. Often in my experience I have found the most homophobic "bi guys" eventually become gay over time. As they get older and begin to realise no one cares what you do, if no one is getting hurt.
    Or they understand life is short and you only get one chance, so fuck who you want, love who you want and give up on games.

    seriously doesnt bother me and until I read this post I rarely think about it.
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    Sep 12, 2012 1:06 AM GMT
    Less focus on them, more focus on you. Everyone has the right to do whatever fucked up closeted thing they choose to do without getting judged.
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    Sep 12, 2012 1:45 AM GMT
    There are many things in the world that bother me, but this is not one of them.
  • FireDoor211

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    Sep 12, 2012 1:47 AM GMT
    It's also not gay if two straight guys fuck
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    Sep 12, 2012 1:54 AM GMT
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    Sep 12, 2012 2:04 AM GMT
    FireDoor211 saidIt's also not gay if two straight guys fuck


    Totally not gay, brah. Just two straight dudes helping each other out by providing the friction inside their sphincter for their bud's engorged penis to achieve ejaculation. Totally no homo brah.
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    Sep 12, 2012 2:12 AM GMT
    It doesn't directly affect me, therefore I don't even worry about it. There are more important issues that I feel I should spend my time worrying about.
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    Sep 12, 2012 2:13 AM GMT
    Ariodante said
    FireDoor211 saidIt's also not gay if two straight guys fuck


    Totally not gay, brah. Just two straight dudes helping each other out by providing the friction inside their sphincter for their bud's engorged penis to achieve ejaculation. Totally no homo brah.


    As long as balls don't touch...no homo.
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  • LJay

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    Sep 12, 2012 2:17 AM GMT
    Ariodante said
    FireDoor211 saidIt's also not gay if two straight guys fuck


    Totally not gay, brah. Just two straight dudes helping each other out by providing the friction inside their sphincter for their bud's engorged penis to achieve ejaculation. Totally no homo brah.


    Ario, you are so COMPLETELY and absolutely correct.

    OP, this is about doing not judging. If two guys want to drink a beer or two, fuck like rabbits and then split to go to the girfriend's house, that is their business. Your opinion of it matters little, if at all.
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    Sep 12, 2012 2:18 AM GMT
    You want to these guys to experiement with you.
  • HottJoe

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    Sep 12, 2012 2:24 AM GMT
    Myol saidYou want to these guys to experiement with you.


    That's perceptive!
  • Import

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    Sep 12, 2012 2:49 AM GMT
    GAMRican said
    Ariodante said
    FireDoor211 saidIt's also not gay if two straight guys fuck


    Totally not gay, brah. Just two straight dudes helping each other out by providing the friction inside their sphincter for their bud's engorged penis to achieve ejaculation. Totally no homo brah.


    As long as balls don't touch...no homo.
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    such a talented group of boys!
  • starboard5

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    Sep 12, 2012 3:04 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidThis really really bothers me.

    In fact, I'm losing sleep with this very crucial concern on a nightly basis.



    LOL +100