Fucking Texting

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    Sep 12, 2012 1:44 AM GMT
    This is like a mind game wrapped in a puzzle wrapped conceived by a mystery to me. It's only a problem when you actually like someone too it seems...

    It's like there are rules, but there aren't or shouldn't be.You have to be natural, but not TOO much or he'll lose interest, but then you have to not be TOO forthcoming, because then he might get annoyed, so then you try to achieve that happy medium and all the while hoping with every new message you send you are able to balance the equilibrium of your sanity.

    Then, before you know it, you find that there are a good ten green bubbles (or blue if you iMessage) containing your messages on the right side of the screen, and just one white bubble containing a message from him a good scroll up on your screen...

    this generally happens in two situations mainly: if one of you two have an obscene amount of free time even with work, and one of you don't OR he is just not that into you in which case icon_sad.gif

    Helpicon_sad.gif I'm crushinghard...

    I mean I look at my other friends whom I message and I don't get all over obsessed about what I say or try to decode anything they say, and they message me sometimes once a week.....fuck...
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    Sep 12, 2012 3:27 AM GMT
    I never understood the strange expectations a person has when it comes to 'textiquette'-- especially if you're interested or dating a person. I mean, I suppose as long as you don't blow up their phone with text messages every minute but aside from that, I don't really know much else.

    When in doubt, ask? icon_smile.gif

    I washed my hands clean of being the proverbial rat in their maze of bullshit. Maybe I have tunnel vision and can only see in one direction but I don't get other people's silly expectations. A person needs to tell me straight up what they want or don't want. They don't want me to text? I won't. If they like it when I text, I will but if I do, they shouldn't hold it against me.

    To put it simply...

    If a person can't strike up a conversation and maintain a fairly equal balance of communication, they're not worth it.

    If they unsatisfied with how I do things, they should tell me or go fuck themselves.

    If they want to play hard to get, I'm not chasing.

    I don't play nor participate in mind games.

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    Sep 12, 2012 8:36 AM GMT
    I like the rules you go by. Time to get real perhaps. If I focused this much attention on learning my french I'd be fluent in days. As such that's exactly what I'm going to do because I need to get back to reality.

    People these days, or most guys I should say, tend to find being forward as an undesirable trait but I honestly can't give a shit for these mind games anymore. It's taxing and drawing attention from other activities. If anything I need to just be forward and if he is unavailable it's just the way the cookie crumbles.

    Thanks for your help paradise
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    Sep 12, 2012 10:21 AM GMT
    OP you are putting too much pressure on yourself..!
    ..I think you are trying to sum these digital interactions into a system and it's driving you nuts.!

    ..So maybe ..just maybe you are more of a 1 on 1 guy..??
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    Sep 12, 2012 10:30 AM GMT
    everyguy saidI like the rules you go by. Time to get real perhaps. If I focused this much attention on learning my french I'd be fluent in days. As such that's exactly what I'm going to do because I need to get back to reality.

    People these days, or most guys I should say, tend to find being forward as an undesirable trait but I honestly can't give a shit for these mind games anymore. It's taxing and drawing attention from other activities. If anything I need to just be forward and if he is unavailable it's just the way the cookie crumbles.

    Thanks for your help paradise


    Of course. icon_smile.gif Glad I could help. Just remember, finding a relationship should be about finding:

    Growth, Acceptance, Stability, Love, and Happiness. If you are genuinely unhappy or feel the other person is not putting off nearly as much as you are, you don't need to bother with him. Find someone who will walk the walk, talk the talk, and dance the dance. icon_smile.gif

    Chasing after others may have been fun in high school but we're all grown ups now. If being "direct" or "honest" is a turn off, they need to look else where. Without honesty, there can be no trust. Without trust, there can be nothing else worth suffering. icon_smile.gif