Dating outside of your comfort zone/types !!!

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    Sep 12, 2012 6:48 AM GMT
    I am not sure if this topic been brought up before or not but lately I spoke with a couple of friends and they mentioned that I changed my views so much in my dating taste and comfort zone as in age/status/others/misc.....etc. I guess I'm willing to give my non-types a chance for a while now ! How many of you guys have a certain type then eventually don't have a type anymore ? I don't know, I'm still trying this, it feels different and out of the box, I like it. Share your stories or experiences if you have some.

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    Sep 12, 2012 7:16 AM GMT
    Is there even a type for me? icon_confused.gif

    I don't know what my type is honestly. I suppose someone similar to me? A spiritualist with some old-fashioned beliefs? I'm somewhat in nature but I know how to break loose and have fun as well. Someone who is patient, understanding, supportive, and kind. I dated an atheist before but it was because he had all the right kind of things about him. I've always dated people outside of my culture.

    I don't care to date cynical types, meme-addicts, arrogant cock jockies, know-it-alls, and people who always feel a sense of entitlement from those around them-- which effectively eliminates more than half of my generation from my desired types. icon_neutral.gif
  • TheBizMan

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    Sep 12, 2012 9:31 AM GMT
    Is this about race?
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    Sep 12, 2012 10:12 AM GMT
    OP it's really a process of sorting through..

    1)..The type you are attracted to...
    2)..The type that's attracted to you..
    3)..The type you end up dating...
    4)..The person that is best for you..

    Another Example.. I am attracted to Jocks..but i know a nerd is the best thing for me!
  • O5vx

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    Sep 12, 2012 2:37 PM GMT
    There are many perspectives on the issue of who is suitable to you or not. In my personal case, I am very open, but there are somethings that is a must for it to develop into more than just a friend.
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    Sep 12, 2012 3:00 PM GMT
    I realized as I got older my type broadened and thats usually the case as one gets older. I believe everyone has a type. Most work with a narrow set of parameters whereas few work within broader parameters.
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    Sep 12, 2012 3:12 PM GMT
    I said after my last bf that I would try to expand my horizons and look into dating someone who I wouldn't think was really my type.

    But I ended up still attracting and pursuing guys who were just like him, though less crazy which is always a plus.

    Oh well. You like what you like.icon_neutral.gif
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    Sep 12, 2012 3:13 PM GMT
    TheBizMan saidIs this about race?


    How u doing my little biracial butterfly??!??icon_twisted.gif
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    Sep 12, 2012 3:32 PM GMT
    jmusmc85 said
    TheBizMan saidIs this about race?


    How u doing my little biracial butterfly??!??icon_twisted.gif

    Cause ya know I'm so quick to jump on these sorts of things.icon_lol.gif

    Jmusc spread your cheeks for me por favor icon_twisted.gif
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    Sep 12, 2012 3:40 PM GMT
    TheBizMan said
    jmusmc85 said
    TheBizMan saidIs this about race?


    How u doing my little biracial butterfly??!??icon_twisted.gif

    Cause ya know I'm so quick to jump on these sorts of things.icon_lol.gif

    Jmusc spread your cheeks for me por favor icon_twisted.gif


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    Sep 12, 2012 3:42 PM GMT
    TheBizMan said
    jmusmc85 said
    TheBizMan saidIs this about race?


    How u doing my little biracial butterfly??!??icon_twisted.gif

    Cause ya know I'm so quick to jump on these sorts of things.icon_lol.gif

    Jmusc spread your cheeks for me por favor icon_twisted.gif


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  • Medjai

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    Sep 12, 2012 3:44 PM GMT
    I'm dating a doctor. That's way beyond my level. We've happily been together for a year now. icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 12, 2012 3:58 PM GMT
    Recently I met a really nice guy. We went on a date the same day and talked a lot. It was great learning that we had so much in common and pretty similar thoughts about things. (This seems to never be the case.) He was a pretty good kisser too.
    Afterwards I thought about possibilities and realized that I don't want to continue since he really doesn't take care of his basic health as he should and could do. (I once broke up with a guy due to his tendency to abuse his health. Not one regret.) After a long trial with the other guy in the past, It now automatically removes someone from my comfort zone, even if there is so much stuff going in his favor.
  • spacemagic

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    Sep 12, 2012 4:08 PM GMT
    If, God forbid, my bf and I ever break up, I'll never date a gamer again.
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    Sep 12, 2012 4:17 PM GMT
    BARTENDERS!!!!

    I don't like to say 'never', but NEVER again will I date a bartender. Those are just the worst!!!
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    Sep 12, 2012 4:20 PM GMT
    Never date a parol officer...
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    Sep 12, 2012 4:40 PM GMT
    Do not date Models...unless you are one... icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Sep 12, 2012 4:48 PM GMT
    spacemagic saidIf, God forbid, my bf and I ever break up, I'll never date a gamer again.


    I hope your not talking about video games icon_eek.gif. Unless you truely hate them (who knows why?!?!) I don't see how it has any relevance to your relationship.

    If your talking about another "gamer" then I have no idea what your talking about icon_confused.gif
  • tuffguyndc

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    Sep 12, 2012 5:44 PM GMT
    Anocxu saidOP it's really a process of sorting through..

    1)..The type you are attracted to...
    2)..The type that's attracted to you..
    3)..The type you end up dating...
    4)..The person that is best for you..

    Another Example.. I am attracted to Jocks..but i know a nerd is the best thing for me!
    anocxu, i sort of agree. i always say i want someone who is atheltic. i will just settle for them being knowledgeable. ha ha ha
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    Sep 12, 2012 8:15 PM GMT
    ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^
    @Tuffguy..sometimes it's not about settling ..Sometimes it's about doing what you know is truly the best thing for you..
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    Sep 12, 2012 8:15 PM GMT
    I totally get where you are going with this but to me the point of dating is to date someone that you are comfortable with and who is your type. Now, I have definitely gone outside the box and given other guys chance but it doesn't work because they aren't my type!

    On the flip side of this, there are a ton of guys out there who need to broaden their horizons if they realistically hope to find love. (I will probably take heat for this) For instance I know a gay who is very fashionista and preppy and his "type" is muscular, masculine daddies - But he requires they dress in high fashion ($300 shoes and the like.) Not to say he will never find that but going outside his comfort zone wouldn't hurt, as he has been single for years!
  • spacemagic

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    Sep 12, 2012 8:24 PM GMT
    ChestArmMusclelover said
    spacemagic saidIf, God forbid, my bf and I ever break up, I'll never date a gamer again.


    I hope your not talking about video games icon_eek.gif. Unless you truely hate them (who knows why?!?!) I don't see how it has any relevance to your relationship.

    If your talking about another "gamer" then I have no idea what your talking about icon_confused.gif


    Maybe I should clarify.. my last two bf's have been avid online gamers, and spend a lot of their free time playing online games. I play video games too, but I also balance that out with being physically active.
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    Sep 12, 2012 8:27 PM GMT
    It depends on how your defining your types. A lot of people define their types by physical features - age, height, build, race. People seem to hold to these types too strictly, and often too unrealistically. These are the kinds of types that I personally think a lot of people should loosen.

    Personality types are a different issue. There are some personalities that I'm probably not going to get along with. There are some personalities that I think are nice, but are not the type I could spend the large amounts of time that I'd spend with someone I was dating or building a life with. Personality types are a lot less flexible, but even then, those types have changed as I've grown and matured.
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    Sep 12, 2012 8:41 PM GMT
    showme said
    TheBizMan said
    jmusmc85 said
    TheBizMan saidIs this about race?


    How u doing my little biracial butterfly??!??icon_twisted.gif

    Cause ya know I'm so quick to jump on these sorts of things.icon_lol.gif

    Jmusc spread your cheeks for me por favor icon_twisted.gif


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    Can we make this a multi racial 4way? icon_twisted.gif
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    Sep 12, 2012 8:45 PM GMT
    TheBizMan saidIs this about race?


    You know it is.