How do you deal with being rejected?

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    Sep 12, 2012 2:55 PM GMT
    I would like to know how u guys deal with being rejected? and im not talking about the pussies who wait people to beg them for relationships and don't put themselves in the situation that involves the risk of being rejected by the guy they like .

    personally i cant deal with it , i just go buy a big box of ice cream after being rejected, listen to sad songs and cry icon_lol.gif
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    Sep 12, 2012 3:15 PM GMT
    "What do you mean you only want to be just friends?"

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    Sep 12, 2012 3:22 PM GMT
    I man the fuck up, go do some squats, and realize my self worth.
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    Sep 12, 2012 4:39 PM GMT
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    I'd get some friends to moon him.

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    Actually sometimes it hurt, depending on how he rejected me, and how badly I wanted him. But I'd recover pretty quickly, and try with another guy.
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    Sep 12, 2012 9:15 PM GMT
    I just suck it up and keep moving.. Rejection is apart of dating !
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    Sep 13, 2012 2:47 AM GMT
    barbieee saidI would like to know how u guys deal with being rejected? and im not talking about the pussies who wait people to beg them for relationships and don't put themselves in the situation that involves the risk of being rejected by the guy they like .

    personally i cant deal with it , i just go buy a big box of ice cream after being rejected, listen to sad songs and cry icon_lol.gif


    I think it's because you blame yourself for the rejection when really it's not something you are or are not-- it simply is something the other person did not fancy.

    It is hard but think of it like this: You're applying for a job and a person interviews lots of candidates. You may be good at typing and organizing but the other candidate is good at reports and accounting. The employee is looking for a bank teller. Who is he going to choose? Most likely the second candidate, right (unless he has a crappy rapport)? Does that mean you suck? Does that mean you're incompetent or useless? No. It means you probably should look into employees who are more interested in your skills-- typing and organizing. icon_smile.gif

    In a similar sense, we all have something distinct and unique about ourselves. Certain things which people don't care for but certain things that people do. You just gotta keep on hustlin' and bustlin' till you find the person who seems to complement you the most. icon_biggrin.gif

    If it makes you any happy, I think you're plenty handsome. icon_smile.gif Don't take rejection personally and it'll help a lot!
  • FreshstartDE

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    Sep 14, 2012 12:26 AM GMT
    rejection gets easier with age... eventually you realize it's no big deal. We all have different ideas of whats attractive and different relationship goals. Not fitting into someone elses plan is nothing to take personal. I actually have a harder time rejecting someone then being rejected.
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    Sep 14, 2012 12:28 AM GMT
    Move the fuck on. You can't please everybody plus know there is someone out there that won't reject you eventually.


    You also have to know your worth.
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    Sep 14, 2012 12:29 AM GMT
    rejection sucks, but it's so temporary
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    Sep 14, 2012 12:31 AM GMT
    barbieee saidI would like to know how u guys deal with being rejected? and im not talking about the pussies who wait people to beg them for relationships and don't put themselves in the situation that involves the risk of being rejected by the guy they like .

    personally i cant deal with it , i just go buy a big box of ice cream after being rejected, listen to sad songs and cry icon_lol.gif




    You listen to" All things must pass" 12 times and then hook-up with the next guy in line.
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    Sep 14, 2012 12:34 AM GMT
    I try not to let it bother me that the very things I like about myself are what usually put others off.
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    Sep 14, 2012 12:38 AM GMT
    I think one thing that helps is be happy with yourself and not taking rejections personally. When I had low self esteem it was easy to feel hurt by rejections.

    Now, I like to shrug it off and keep in mind that there's other options for me. (Most likely better options)

    Also, keeping youself distracted with things that truly matter really helps. Such as going to the gym or doing something fun with friends .

    Ice cream and porn helps too. LOLicon_redface.gificon_redface.gif
  • darryaz

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    Sep 14, 2012 12:40 AM GMT
    FreshstartDE saidrejection gets easier with age... eventually you realize it's no big deal. We all have different ideas of whats attractive and different relationship goals. Not fitting into someone elses plan is nothing to take personal. I actually have a harder time rejecting someone then being rejected.


    I like his answer.
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    Sep 14, 2012 2:01 AM GMT
    I like to believe rejection is a purely relative situation. I don't take it personally or seriously at all. I just move onward to the next attractive guy that catches my attention. icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 14, 2012 2:11 AM GMT
    Move on, there's always someone better.
  • RaggedyMan

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    Sep 14, 2012 2:16 AM GMT
    I cry sometimes. Wait, never asked anyone out and never got rejected. Ill let u kbow
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    Sep 14, 2012 2:21 AM GMT
    Depending on if it was rejection from a guy I worked hard to get to know; or if it was just a passing moment I'll either just accept it and walk away, or I'll go so far as to cry and get emotional over it. The length of my crying is only proportionate to the depth and time invested in the guy... sometimes I best to just say, "I like you." and hear, "Not interested.", than it is to get worked up over a drawn out preconceived situation that is 'Supposed to go my way'. icon_neutral.gif
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    Sep 14, 2012 2:27 AM GMT
    With an armbar and a couple of well placed stomps
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    Sep 14, 2012 2:40 AM GMT
    I've never been REJECTED. All the guys I know never really respected me enough to tell me that they weren't interested in seeing me anymore. They all kind of just let me "get the message" from silence.

    But if I really like the guy and the guy suddenly loses interest (I can tell - when a guy sends one word responses and says hey to you first, activates his "Send Read Receipts" (where the time date is visible) you reply and it says Read and I have yet to get a reply....12 hours later) the I sob my eyes out for a week or two. Otherwise, I"m bummed, withdraw, lose weight...maybe cry a little....

    Then again, none of my relationships have lasted more then two weeks. Maybe I'm just a baby.
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    Sep 14, 2012 2:54 AM GMT
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    Sep 14, 2012 3:15 AM GMT
    Rejection is "we're not a match". But for some people, they hear/tell themselves "I'm not good enough" and when you think of it that way, it lingers needlessly. When I get rejected, I sometimes get a small knot in my stomach for a few seconds while I evaluate what happened and try to figure out if it was something I could have controlled. Maybe it was a misperception. I'm competitive and I hate losing haha. But then after a few minutes I say to myself, "too bad, it could've been great" and then I start focussing on the next prospect. It is much easier now than it was for me when I was younger. At the end of the day, it's not fair to yourself to spend too much time thinking about a guy who isn't thinking about you.
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    Sep 14, 2012 3:21 AM GMT
    Usually dwell on it and internalize it and take it too to heart, but pretend I'm fine until I actually feel fine.

    Fake it until you make it.
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    Sep 14, 2012 3:23 AM GMT
    "well you're ugly"
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    Sep 14, 2012 3:30 AM GMT
    Heck I'm always gettin rejected in one way or another. just...gotta be ok with it.
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    Sep 14, 2012 3:33 AM GMT
    Anyone who has the lack of intelligence to ever utter the phrase, "I love you...I'm just not IN love with you." needs to be run over by a tractor trailer....like, really immediately......icon_rolleyes.gif