"big guy"?Getting use to a change to your physical body

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    Sep 12, 2012 8:24 PM GMT
    Is it just me.. or does anyone have to get use to certain things that come after gaining size, or musculature. Well.. moreso how people treat you after a certain change. For me I'm having to adjust to the phrase/term "big guy".. It makes me cringe. And i know that person saying it means well and it is even supposed to be complimentary. I was always thin... so.. up until 2 years ago no one called me big guy and to say such sounds a little alien.. I don't view myself as big and i automatically thing "damn.. big? how big? what does he fucking mean?" before i center in on the thought "well.. i must look big and muscly."

    There is the reality that when you do pack on the pounds.. that the way people react to you on a daily basis changes. you might get more stares or people might think you are big and mean and stay away from you. I was recently taken a back by the reaction of a teenager towards me.. he looked absolutely frightened of me in my old private gym.. then afterwards we got into a little conversation and he said "you look like you can kick my ass man!".. and i wasn't charmed.. i was kinda like " really? No... i'm not that way." I never stopped to think that in changing my body i would also be changing how people relate to me.. who finds me attractive and who doesn't find me attractive. (i had one old boyfriend say i was too "big for him" and it was gross) To which i laughed.. first i am NOT that big... and secondly... fuck him and his flabby pancake ass.

    anyhow... i just wanted to explore this topic with other guys.. do you know what feeling i am talking about?
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    Sep 12, 2012 8:57 PM GMT
    Some years ago when the question "how much muscle is enough" was asked on a forum the answer given was "when someone was looking for you and someone else said 'talk to the big guy there'". So being called 'big guy' was the suggested ultimate goal.

    I'm nowhere big but in recent times I've been hit on by guys 220-240+. Too big for me to toss around in bed *cough cough* so I declined.

    But I will say a genuine disarming smile works wonders. I've seen some taller and bigger guys like that and it def helps to take away the threatening aspect. However unintentional that aspect maybe.
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    Sep 12, 2012 9:07 PM GMT
    JackKash saidIs it just me.. or does anyone have to get use to certain things that come after gaining size, or musculature. Well.. moreso how people treat you after a certain change. For me I'm having to adjust to the phrase/term "big guy".. It makes me cringe. And i know that person saying it means well and it is even supposed to be complimentary. I was always thin... so.. up until 2 years ago no one called me big guy and to say such sounds a little alien.. I don't view myself as big and i automatically thing "damn.. big? how big? what does he fucking mean?" before i center in on the thought "well.. i must look big and muscly."

    There is the reality that when you do pack on the pounds.. that the way people react to you on a daily basis changes. you might get more stares or people might think you are big and mean and stay away from you. I was recently taken a back by the reaction of a teenager towards me.. he looked absolutely frightened of me in my old private gym.. then afterwards we got into a little conversation and he said "you look like you can kick my ass man!".. and i wasn't charmed.. i was kinda like " really? No... i'm not that way." I never stopped to think that in changing my body i would also be changing how people relate to me.. who finds me attractive and who doesn't find me attractive. (i had one old boyfriend say i was too "big for him" and it was gross) To which i laughed.. first i am NOT that big... and secondly... fuck him and his flabby pancake ass.

    anyhow... i just wanted to explore this topic with other guys.. do you know what feeling i am talking about?


    I know what u are talking about. I frequently get referenced as the big guy, jackd dude, or hear damn ur huge. Makes me wanna look around and see who they are talking to. Guess i dont see it. Feel bout the same size ive always been.
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    Sep 13, 2012 1:23 AM GMT
    JackKash saidI never stopped to think that in changing my body i would also be changing how people relate to me.. who finds me attractive and who doesn't find me attractive.


    Isn't it one of the main reasons why people want to change their body anyway? If I were satisfied with who I attracted 50lbs ago, I wouldn't be so motivated to bulk up. I never had an issue with being skinny.

    I'm far from being as developed as you are, but I've grown 50lbs. I have yet to see this much difference in treatment from random people in my daily routine as you experience, but in the ball of seduction the tide has become more favorable. I appreciate this emerging privilege even though I know what's the other side of the coin...



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    Sep 13, 2012 1:52 AM GMT
    Hopefully the "big guy" monicker is because of muscle gained, not fat!
  • 24hourguy

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    Sep 13, 2012 2:02 AM GMT
    I'll take "big guy" over "big girl" anyday icon_lol.gif
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    Sep 13, 2012 2:53 AM GMT
    Reminds me of Collide by Leonna Lewis
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    Sep 13, 2012 3:03 AM GMT
    just be glad you that muscly. you look better completely that way. your face filled out as well as your body. you look healthy.
  • tiger13

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    Sep 13, 2012 1:08 PM GMT

    Had the same thing happen somewhat recently - invited a guy back to my place, and he commented "you're a big guy" and he wasn't referring to my equipment icon_smile.gif Caught me a little offguard. 180 isn't a little guy... Will take some getting used to.

    What really annoys me is when I'm with a guy and they gush about me and start self-deprecating on themselves. I think it's similar to the teenager in your gym.

    A friend took me aside recently and told me I was starting to make some of the other guys uncomfortable. WTF? Lol.
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    Sep 13, 2012 10:18 PM GMT
    Pfft, I remember saying when I started "But I don't wanna get TOO big..."

    As though it's uncontrollable.

    Though it kinda is, as I'm not that lithe hot muscle twink I wanna be.

    I'm like a better defined George Costanza...
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    Sep 14, 2012 2:56 AM GMT
    I'm getting "big guy" more now at 185lbs than I did at 260.
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    Sep 14, 2012 2:59 AM GMT
    Its definitely weird. any time someone says something about my arms being big, I think.they're crazy. I don't see me as big. I see myself as slightly better than average.
  • stratavos

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    Sep 14, 2012 3:02 AM GMT
    I was riding my bike late home one night and i got a wolf whistle and a "you're hot" shouted at me by a girl... it's nice, but it mostly feels... misplaced.
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    Sep 14, 2012 3:08 AM GMT
    mileshelvetica saidHopefully the "big guy" monicker is because of muscle gained, not fat!

    I call muscular guys big guy all the time... never mean it to be, or said to anyone overweight. That is stocky.. and okay with me too. icon_twisted.gif
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    Sep 14, 2012 4:18 AM GMT
    Yeah I'm more on the supply side of harassment...
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    Sep 14, 2012 7:31 AM GMT
    We were at a straight bar/grill eating a couple of weeks ago and some guy sitting at the bar yells down "you, the guy with the big arms" I'm looking around for the guy with the big arms, I'm not thinking it was me whose attention he was trying to get so it was kind of unexpected.

    A while back I was over at my moms cutting her back lawn shirtless cause it was quite hot out and my 22 y.o. nephew and his girlfriend both who I seldom ever see walks into the yard and we chat for awhile. Later I hear from his dad on the phone that T commented to him.. geeze I never knew Uncle Ben was so buff. .. I certainly never considered myself buff. LOL