Self Body Image.....

  • ohcub83

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    Sep 12, 2012 11:41 PM GMT
    So I have lost 137lbs in 7months and still have about 100lbs more to loose. I have went from a 5x shirt to a XL/XXL and from a 58in waist pants to a 44in waist pants. My problem is when I look in the mirror all I see is the big 400lb+ guy I was before. My friends and family all complement me and tell me how different I look, but to me I can't see it. Yes I feel better and I am a hella lot more active, but my mind just can't see past the old me. Anyone else have this issues? How can I get past this, and if I can't see the the difference now, will I ever be happy with the way I look? My biggest fear is that in the long run this is goning to affect my progress and cause me to sip back to my old ways.
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    Sep 13, 2012 5:33 AM GMT
    Congrats on losing the weight, I can tell you're serious about iticon_biggrin.gif.
    Well I am in a similar position to you. I've been working out for a couple months and feel like I still look the same (despite my scale telling me I weigh lessicon_confused.gif ) I think the problem is that when you look at yourself in the mirror every day, you don't see any results, because
    a) they're so small you can't see the day to day difference
    2nd) You focus on the fact that your not at your goal yet
    and lastly)The mental scars of being fat are still there. Sometimes leading you to not see small differences
    I don't know if you can suddenly appreciate where you are at, since most people focus on the before and after, not the before, middle, and after. You will eventually be happy with how you look, you just gotta stay motivated and tell yourself that your more than half way there.
    The most important part of losing weight is changing your lifestyle. You won't slip into your old days unless you chose to do so through daily decisions. As long as you stay positive you will eventually overcome the thinking of the old you.
    Good luckicon_smile.gif
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    Sep 13, 2012 5:43 AM GMT
    It's going to take time for your brain to catch up to your body.

    Congrats to you on the changes!
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    Sep 13, 2012 5:51 AM GMT
    Congratulations! Don't get discouraged dude, you will be fine. Just keep doing what you are doing.

  • bischero

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    Sep 13, 2012 6:31 AM GMT
    You may not be able to see it because if you view change continually (in your case, probably every day or close to every day, like most people who are trying to lose weight - myself included), it is not as noticeable as if you view change sporadically.

    Have you looked at a photo of yourself, say, a year ago compared to now? You should be able to see a difference! icon_smile.gif

    Keep your chin up and keep pressing forward! You're doing great and you're gonna keep doing great!!! icon_cool.gif

    PS. As far as your mind not being able to "see" the new you... you've established a view of how you see yourself, and this old view will continue to dominate in your head unless you actively attempt to change it. When you wake up in the morning, don't let yourself think, "Aw, man, I'm still the same 400+ pound guy that I was before."

    This isn't true, and it's a distortion of your self image. Instead, tell yourself (actively) something like, "Damn, I look good today." Or, "I've lost weight and I'm going to keep losing weight."

    A part of body image is creating a positive atmosphere for yourself. For some people, this doesn't come naturally and it requires you to be proactive. I have total faith that you can do it! Don't let yourself get down and stop those negative thoughts as they enter into your mind. Replace them with the good ones and focus on the change that you know you've made. icon_smile.gif
  • ohcub83

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    Sep 13, 2012 7:30 PM GMT
    Thanks Everybody! I am glad to know I am not the only one to experience this. I have started to look at old pics and videos of myself to help me see the change. I also like calling it FFB (former fat boy syndrome). I try to take it day by day and keep it all in perspective.
  • Tritimium

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    Sep 13, 2012 7:37 PM GMT
    Congratulations on the progress icon_smile.gif

    Perhaps you could try using mental imagery / visualisation techniques.
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    Sep 13, 2012 7:43 PM GMT
    One of the most important parts of body acceptance for me at least is not to compare yourself to others.

    It's really hard to do but it really does help with insecurities etc.

    Perhaps when you look in the mirror now your expectations are that much higher because you've lost the weight that your consistently dissatisfied. Don't be so hard on yourself.