Drunk straight guys

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    Sep 13, 2012 12:23 AM GMT
    Hey guys, this is my first post on this site. I know, it’s not a “new topic” but I just want to tell my story, what I’ve experienced with a drunk straight guy. Well maybe some of you know this interesting theory, when we’re drunk, we tend to tell the truth. Is this true or is it a nonsense theory?

    So here’s my story. I went out with my colleagues for having some drinks and nice conversations. One of my colleague is more like a buddy to me. I hang out more with him than the others. So my buddy will play a big role later in my story. Here we go, we’ve got our first shot alchohol, then the second arrived, then third.., fourth... fifth... Then I stop counting. We reached the point, where we’re drunk. We became loud and behaved like a jerk. It was embarrassing after all.

    Then my buddy suggested, we should go to another bar. As we were in the bar, I told the guys, I’m finished, I don’t want to drink anymore, it’s enough. Then they continue to drink and I laid on the sofa half asleep. But I still can follow their conversation. My buddy sat next to me and he give me a drink. I said to him: “please no alcohol” and he replied: “No, it’s only water”. I said: “for sure that’s vodka”. He said: “trust me, it’s not vodka and indeed it was water. Then suddenly he kissed me in the cheek and he answered: “you see”. I felt better after drinking the water. But I feel so tired. Later my buddy came back to me and he whispered in my ear, if I would kiss him (lips to lips!). I said in drunk mode “nooo”! After a while we talked again and suddenly he asked me, if I would give him a blow job! I said again “no”. I was thinking myself. What the hell is going on here?

    Then his girlfriend came to pick up my buddy. But they stayed longer in the bar. Lastly I said to him, I want to go home now. Then he became emotionally and told me, he’s glad he met me and let’s keep in touch forever. I said, yeah for sure! He looked me deep in the eyes. I thought, he would kiss me in front of his girlfriend. But he gave me a big tight man hug instead, which was awesome. It was a funny, cool and weird night. On the next morning I thought about the incident again, still today! Those sentences are stuck in my head. I want to talk with him, but on the other side he might be upset.

    What do you guys think? Is there a meaning behind this drunk story? Or am I over-interpreting and should forget this? I appreciate your thought and advice.

    Feel free to share your own story.

    P.S.: For your information I’m not a heavy drinker. I drink very rare. icon_wink.gif
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    Sep 13, 2012 12:32 AM GMT
    He's gay.
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    Sep 13, 2012 12:51 AM GMT
    OP.. Try not to read too deep into all this drunken cryptic craziness...

    This is what you know.. you have a straight friend that gets a little wild when he drinks... He likes you alot..But if you subtract the alchohol..He is your straight friend..That Has A Girlfriend...

    ..Him asking you to give him a BJ and a kiss on the lips is disrespectful..And if you had engaged you would be in an awful position right now...but consider the alchohol as a factor.!

    So consider this.. You are the rock in friendship.. make sure the line never gets crossed..but overall he could be an awesome friend!..
    Anocxu
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    Sep 13, 2012 2:23 AM GMT
    gay

    None I repeat None of my gay friends have ever gotten drunk and fucked someone of the opposite sex.

    gay da de gay gay GAY!
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    Sep 13, 2012 5:03 AM GMT
    Anocxu saidOP.. Try not to read too deep into all this drunken cryptic craziness...

    This is what you know.. you have a straight friend that gets a little wild when he drinks... He likes you alot..But if you subtract the alchohol..He is your straight friend..That Has A Girlfriend...

    ..Him asking you to give him a BJ and a kiss on the lips is disrespectful..And if you had engaged you would be in an awful position right now...but consider the alchohol as a factor.!

    So consider this.. You are the rock in friendship.. make sure the line never gets crossed..but overall he could be an awesome friend!..
    Anocxu


    I'm inclined to agree with you. Men are horn dogs; especially drunk ones. The original poster was and should remain non-sexual with this guy. As long as your friend claims straight, no matter what he really is, or isn't, take it as what his friend says. To do otherwise sets the OP up for a world of hurt if he crosses the line. If you cross that line, then, the whole dynamic of the friendship changes, and, perhaps, not in the way the OP would like.

    I've had so called straight friends fuck me hard, but, at the end of the year, day, month, etc., they end up engaged and married. As my one straight friend proclaimed, "it's just a hole." No matter, if the guy doesn't identify as gay, or bi, it's better to steer clear of all that baggage every bit as much as it is to avoid closet case. It's just drama that can be a whole lot of grief.

    Now, if the guy gets drunk and fesses up that he has a thing for guys, then, he told you so, but, don't have the expectation that you have a new boyfriend.

    Guys, like it are not, are sexual. Guys that have had the p-spot worked on know it feels real good, and..guys who have had bjs like them, too.

    Sadly, many gay guys, even mature ones, seem unable to move past the sex part and into enduring friendships / relationships.
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    Sep 13, 2012 5:28 AM GMT
    Some guys are curious and want to experiment. They can get excited by some guys but not most guys and can get really excited by most girls. These guys are useless to the average gay guy who crushes on the straight guy because any hook ups are more out of curiousity or fulfillment, not ongoing, life-lasting desire. It doesn't mean that homosexuality is a choice. It just means you might a "one and only" for this guy.
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    Sep 13, 2012 5:33 AM GMT


    BTW, next time...be a good friend and give him the blow job. It's the least you can do.
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    Sep 13, 2012 6:37 AM GMT
    Myol saidSome guys are curious and want to experiment. They can get excited by some guys but not most guys and can get really excited by most girls. These guys are useless to the average gay guy who crushes on the straight guy because any hook ups are more out of curiousity or fulfillment, not ongoing, life-lasting desire. It doesn't mean that homosexuality is a choice. It just means you might a "one and only" for this guy.


    This^^^^^^^ He is somewhere along the rainbow, There is not enough information here to discern where.
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    Sep 13, 2012 2:05 PM GMT
    He should change his name to Cleopatra - cause he's a queen in denial
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    Sep 13, 2012 2:11 PM GMT
    Anocxu saidOP.. Try not to read too deep into all this drunken cryptic craziness...

    This is what you know.. you have a straight friend that gets a little wild when he drinks... He likes you alot..But if you subtract the alchohol..He is your straight friend..That Has A Girlfriend...

    ..Him asking you to give him a BJ and a kiss on the lips is disrespectful..And if you had engaged you would be in an awful position right now...but consider the alchohol as a factor.!

    So consider this.. You are the rock in friendship.. make sure the line never gets crossed..but overall he could be an awesome friend!..
    Anocxu
    Once again Anocxu, you gave some great advice unlike everyone else who just said he was gay. He could be bi. The fact of the matter is he has a gf and you two are friends. He was also drunk and we all have done things when we were a little buzzed that we later regret. Listen, Anocxu is right just be a friend and never let those lines get crossed.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Sep 13, 2012 2:12 PM GMT
    He was drunk and just wanted a blow job ... don't read anymore into it then that ... men can be pigs ... you were no more than just a 'fleshlight' to him
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    Sep 13, 2012 2:16 PM GMT
    guide_me_home saidHe should change his name to Cleopatra - cause he's a queen in denial


    Genius. Utter genius.
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    Sep 13, 2012 2:23 PM GMT
    I don't think I would have gotten myself to that drunk again. Period
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    Sep 13, 2012 2:41 PM GMT
    northoz saidNone I repeat None of my gay friends have ever gotten drunk and fucked someone of the opposite sex.
    Mine have.
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    Sep 13, 2012 2:46 PM GMT
    If I took seriously all the things people say when shit-faced, I'd be really confused about them. People who are that drunk don't make any sense. Drunks are less inhibited, yes, but his reduced-inhibition may have been that he was fucking with you, or at least a friendly tease, but did not intend to take it all the way.
  • Trauts

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    Sep 13, 2012 2:48 PM GMT
    He was probably not getting any from his gf... icon_lol.gif

    But seriously, I just think he was drunk and curious. And besides, he's your friend. If anything ever happened, its gonna be so awkward then next day and think about his poor gf if things were to change.

    I do have straight friends that are really flirty, and when there are drunk, it gets taken to a whole new level. I think your bud is just a big flirt. Don't think too much about it.

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    Sep 13, 2012 2:50 PM GMT
    Nivek said
    northoz saidNone I repeat None of my gay friends have ever gotten drunk and fucked someone of the opposite sex.
    Mine have.

    I have icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Sep 13, 2012 3:24 PM GMT
    There is one thing iv'e seen in my 36 years is what alchohol does to testerone ...!

    @tuffguy i grew up with all straight friends that knew i was gay... till i turned 24 that's when i had my first gay friend..

    My goal as a friend is to stay a friend.. . I will not get wrapped up in labeling sexualities..
    personally i think all human beings have Bi / homosexual tendencies...

    Example... if a straight guy beats off in front of a mirror ..is'nt that a little gay?
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    Sep 13, 2012 3:25 PM GMT
    AMoonHawk said
    Nivek said
    northoz saidNone I repeat None of my gay friends have ever gotten drunk and fucked someone of the opposite sex.
    Mine have.

    I have icon_rolleyes.gif



    Really lol

    well that changes everything, haha. back in the day me and my friends were the ones busy taking on the cute drunk straight guysicon_wink.gif

    so thats what everyone was up to icon_twisted.gif
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    Sep 13, 2012 3:50 PM GMT
    All the straight boys wanted to do was fight or get their cocks sucked when I were a lad ;)

    I had a similar thing happen to me with a co-workers husband. He and I got on really well - to the point where he and I were better freinds than my co-worker.

    Eventually their marriage broke up and I had him, drunk as a skunk confessing to me that he always found me hot and wanted to fuck me more than anything in the world.

    Whoa.

    If I'd been single at the time I would have taken him up on it.

    He and I were always close thereafter, and he deicided that he was Bi, and started dating a guy, who trampled all over his heart (who I punched in the face) and broke up with him...

    Again he was drunk and out of control, professing his undying love for me this time (as well as wanting to fuck me).

    He moved on, moved east and has been happily single ever since.

    I wonder what if.. but know I would never have gone there..
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    Sep 13, 2012 7:58 PM GMT
    Anocxu saidOP.. Try not to read too deep into all this drunken cryptic craziness...

    This is what you know.. you have a straight friend that gets a little wild when he drinks... He likes you alot..But if you subtract the alchohol..He is your straight friend..That Has A Girlfriend...

    ..Him asking you to give him a BJ and a kiss on the lips is disrespectful..And if you had engaged you would be in an awful position right now...but consider the alchohol as a factor.!

    So consider this.. You are the rock in friendship.. make sure the line never gets crossed..but overall he could be an awesome friend!..
    Anocxu


    Of course I would prefer friendship over a stupid blow job. This will bring me in an very awful position if I took his offer. My other colleagues would talk some mean things behind my back. Even though I'm not out at work. I would end as a "clown" in the company. That would cost my job.

    I can't picture myself hooking up with a girl even if I'm drunk, cause I can control myself. It's funny but also sad, how people lost their control, when they got drunk.

    I think my buddy has "bi tendencies", cause he has some weird behaviours, when he's with me. He's really a nice, funny and smart guy. He's may be one of the few persons I can trust.

    Thanks a lot for your advice, Anocxu! icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 13, 2012 10:42 PM GMT
    Anytime man.. !! icon_biggrin.gif
  • Spartanicus

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    Sep 13, 2012 10:58 PM GMT
    To The Original Poster "DO NOT TUMBLE"

    DNT,

    There is a reason the label says TUMBLE DRY and DO NOT TUMBLE. I have read and re-read your post and thought (been there, done that). Men are Men. Someone referenced them as horn dogs. No unless you compare them to women and that's another story. So back to men. MOST men hide their emotions and are taught to from young on. This is really a preaching to the choir part because we all know this. I don't want to get into a debate about straight-bi-gay, etc. We all have our own belief system. What works for one does not for another. But as for you and your friend. Well yes one poster was correct "alcohol talking". If alcohol were the supreme lie detector then law enforcement would have been using it from the get go. Unfortunately it is not. When the connection the brain is hampered than normal judgement is impaired. While your friend may have unresolved issues that is not the point. I'd like to address a major concern first. Perhaps I'm wrong but were you all walking to these bars? You mentioned drinking one, two, three, five shots and lost count. Then they wanted to or went to yet another bar? I'd like to think a cab was involved or you were all jogging! LOL, Anyway, men crave attention, touch, understanding. They for the most part are human after all. You have no idea what was going through your friends mind during his day or life. You were there and he felt a connection. I'd have to say had you complied with his assumedly drunken request than the next day you might have found your friendship in jeopardy. Perhaps when his mind cleared and he had reverted back to his "closeted straight man cave mentality" - he might have written you off entirely. Not because of you but because of himself, his feelings, his issues. Interestingly you mention he had a girlfriend. So he's in a relationship. You know this. Not to be a prude but is that fair to her, him or YOU? It's like knowingly driving down a long one way street and you get upset, confused and angered when you can't find a way out even though it was clearly marked from the beginning. What you can do is be a good friend to him. Leave the door open for down the road. One never knows what can or will happen. If he brings it up in a joking or kidding manner do not be hurt this will be his way off keeping your relationship and not loosing you and at the same time saving face. Prepare yourself if he does mention it and take it lightly. Perhaps joke it off, like you did ask me? Wow I had so much to drink that night I barely remember being there with you, etc... Simple...

    PS, To everyone while this was not a brief post please we all have our own thoughts on each matter. Be Nice.
  • CTHS

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    Sep 13, 2012 11:06 PM GMT
    i messed around with a straight guy not too long ago. a girl was involved but non the less he wanted a little boy action. i think most guys are curious enough to fool around with their buddies but need alcohol to dignify it. icon_rolleyes.gif
  • FireDoor211

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    Sep 13, 2012 11:28 PM GMT
    Sexuality is alot more fluid than people tend to think. But him having a girlfriend would probably be a deal breaker.if he would do that to her, then u know for a fact he would do it tO you.