PDA @ The Gym

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    Aug 21, 2008 5:27 PM GMT
    So there I am working on my biceps...as I turn to my left, I notice guy sitting on the flat bench working out his chest. Next thing I know, his BF (I'm assuming) comes over after he's done on some other machine, sits on his BF's crotch. He starts grinding into him as the other lefts himself up. The then being to make out. Ummm...I'm sorry, but I didn't know that the gym was filming porn that day.

    WTF!?
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    Aug 21, 2008 5:44 PM GMT
    I would probably react the way you did.

    But I wonder if such a reaction isnt just to the novelty of the situation.

    That is, if this kind of behavior occured regularly, would we just not notice it anymore and go on about our business?

    The insight of that question for me is that it points out there is no intrinsic problem with what they were doing. Such behavior impinges on us only because of its novelty, not because it is actually harming us in any way.

    Therefore, my thoughts are moved on to why is such behavior proscribed. Are they proscribed because of any intrinsic factor or is it just that "someone" in the past got a burr up their butt about it? I would draw an analogy to the recent spate of threads on how members here should act this way or the other. Where, from the perspective of the OP, some behavior ought to be condemned because the OP didn't approve of it. The discussion eventually examined the logical conclusion that everything would be banned if we had to listen to everybody.

    This answer may have seemed to have wandered from your original post, so let me bring it back.

    Is it their behavior that is a problem or is it our reaction that we have been taught that is a problem? If we just got over our adversion to PDA, would the "problem" go away?

    Perhaps it is as Pogo said:

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    Aug 21, 2008 6:06 PM GMT
    Is this a "gay gym?" Cause if this occured at 95% of gyms in Texas, they probably would have gotten their asses kicked. I've never heard of this kind of behavior on the gym floor. Now in the steam room, that's another story...
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    Aug 21, 2008 6:17 PM GMT
    You're right Caslon, this was in no way harming me...it was however impeading the use of equipment for others. There is a time and place for everything. Had this been a simple kiss, no issue. I felt it was a need for attention.

    BigSETXjock, this is Gold's Gym in Castro...99.9% gay. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 21, 2008 6:20 PM GMT
    HighVoltageGuy saidYou're right Caslon, this was in no way harming me...it was however impeading the use of equipment for others. There is a time and place for everything. Had this been a simple kiss, no issue. I felt it was a need for attention.

    BigSETXjock, this is Gold's Gym in Castro...99.9% gay. icon_biggrin.gif


    impeding the use of the equipment can be caused by many behaviors....so that aint special....and this could be handled the same way...."excuse me, may I use this machine?"
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    Aug 21, 2008 6:22 PM GMT
    why doesn't this happen @ my gold's gym icon_sad.gif
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    Aug 21, 2008 6:27 PM GMT
    I wish something interesting would happen at my gym. Nothing ever happens there.
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    Aug 21, 2008 8:24 PM GMT
    It turns me on when you play devil's advocate Caslon...grrr!

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    Aug 21, 2008 8:30 PM GMT
    The most I do is flex my abs in the mirrors. That's about as dramatic as I get. At least at the gym.


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    Aug 21, 2008 8:36 PM GMT
    LOL! I have yet to see anything like this at my gym. There are a few guys that put on a jockstrap just for attention and have to shift it constantly so all the guys in the locker room will notice. I have volunteered to help one specific guy. Haha.
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    Aug 21, 2008 8:37 PM GMT
    I go to a "family" orientated gym north of Dallas same thing happened between two newly Weds he straddled him on a bench. Both were asked to leave an not to come back
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    Aug 21, 2008 8:41 PM GMT
    wrkoutbud30 saidLOL! I have yet to see anything like this at my gym. There are a few guys that put on a jockstrap just for attention and have to shift it constantly so all the guys in the locker room will notice. I have volunteered to help one specific guy. Haha.


    You're just going to leave us hanging like that? Was the offer taken?
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    Aug 21, 2008 8:46 PM GMT
    HighVoltageGuy saidSo there I am working on my biceps...as I turn to my left, I notice guy sitting on the flat bench working out his chest. Next thing I know, his BF (I'm assuming) comes over after he's done on some other machine, sits on his BF's crotch. He starts grinding into him as the other lefts himself up. The then being to make out. Ummm...I'm sorry, but I didn't know that the gym was filming porn that day.

    WTF!?


    ok, have it your way...




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    Aug 21, 2008 9:02 PM GMT
    Wow, that is cool. Where do I sign up? I can say that in 20+ years around gyms that I haven't ever seen. Maybe this whole gay thing has a future.

    HighVoltageGuy saidSo there I am working on my biceps...as I turn to my left, I notice guy sitting on the flat bench working out his chest. Next thing I know, his BF (I'm assuming) comes over after he's done on some other machine, sits on his BF's crotch. He starts grinding into him as the other lefts himself up. The then being to make out. Ummm...I'm sorry, but I didn't know that the gym was filming porn that day.

    WTF!?
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    Aug 21, 2008 9:08 PM GMT
    That would piss me off. I go to the gym to workout. I dont want to see people making out. That is just ridiculous. Get a room.
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    Aug 21, 2008 9:10 PM GMT
    HighVoltageGuy said
    wrkoutbud30 saidLOL! I have yet to see anything like this at my gym. There are a few guys that put on a jockstrap just for attention and have to shift it constantly so all the guys in the locker room will notice. I have volunteered to help one specific guy. Haha.


    You're just going to leave us hanging like that? Was the offer taken?


    OK OK...a new 24hr just opened up down the street from me. I just joined and so did many others. I was working out the other day while a hottie surfer was getting the tour. When he walked by where I was working out, we made eye contact. I thought nothing of it. Then I saw him checking the time. A few days later, I was in the locker room getting changed. He was just getting there while I was leaving. Of course, I had to take my time and tie my shoes about 20 times. He sat on the bench right next to me. Low and behold, he takes off his cargo shorts and underwear and whips out a bike jockstrap. I was trying not to show how much i liked what i saw but he totally noticed and turned around so I can see what he had to offer from behind. A few other guys walked in and he quickly put on his shorts. Last night, i purposely wore one so he could see. I got a "nice jock man" out of him and "maybe we can workout sometime". Hmmm...lets skip the workout and play in the straps!
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    Aug 22, 2008 12:22 AM GMT
    PDA, don't mind.
    Grinding and making out, do mind.

    Just like I don't want to have awkward moments when going out to eat, I'd rather not have them when trying to lift large metal things over my head.

    If it's a kink thing, maybe find a 24 hour gym and a time when nobody is around?
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    Aug 22, 2008 12:31 AM GMT
    That story would have been EVEN MORE AWESOME if they'd followed their make out session by putting on bluetooth headsets and calling their friends to chat.
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    Aug 22, 2008 12:32 AM GMT
    That made me laugh, thank you.
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    Aug 22, 2008 1:38 AM GMT
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    HighVoltageGuy said
    wrkoutbud30 saidLOL! I have yet to see anything like this at my gym. There are a few guys that put on a jockstrap just for attention and have to shift it constantly so all the guys in the locker room will notice. I have volunteered to help one specific guy. Haha.


    You're just going to leave us hanging like that? Was the offer taken?


    OK OK...a new 24hr just opened up down the street from me. I just joined and so did many others. I was working out the other day while a hottie surfer was getting the tour. When he walked by where I was working out, we made eye contact. I thought nothing of it. Then I saw him checking the time. A few days later, I was in the locker room getting changed. He was just getting there while I was leaving. Of course, I had to take my time and tie my shoes about 20 times. He sat on the bench right next to me. Low and behold, he takes off his cargo shorts and underwear and whips out a bike jockstrap. I was trying not to show how much i liked what i saw but he totally noticed and turned around so I can see what he had to offer from behind. A few other guys walked in and he quickly put on his shorts. Last night, i purposely wore one so he could see. I got a "nice jock man" out of him and "maybe we can workout sometime". Hmmm...lets skip the workout and play in the straps!


    Keep us informed on whether or not you "workout sometime" together. LOL!
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    Aug 25, 2008 4:06 PM GMT
    HighVoltageGuy saidSo there I am working on my biceps...as I turn to my left, I notice guy sitting on the flat bench working out his chest. Next thing I know, his BF (I'm assuming) comes over after he's done on some other machine, sits on his BF's crotch. He starts grinding into him as the other lefts himself up. The then being to make out. Ummm...I'm sorry, but I didn't know that the gym was filming porn that day.

    WTF!?


    I love Frisco!
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    Aug 25, 2008 4:15 PM GMT
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    HighVoltageGuy saidSo there I am working on my biceps...as I turn to my left, I notice guy sitting on the flat bench working out his chest. Next thing I know, his BF (I'm assuming) comes over after he's done on some other machine, sits on his BF's crotch. He starts grinding into him as the other lefts himself up. The then being to make out. Ummm...I'm sorry, but I didn't know that the gym was filming porn that day.

    WTF!?


    I love Frisco!


    NEVER a dull moment...that's for sure.
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    Sep 24, 2008 3:26 AM GMT
    Caslon7000 said
    HighVoltageGuy saidYou're right Caslon, this was in no way harming me...it was however impeading the use of equipment for others. There is a time and place for everything. Had this been a simple kiss, no issue. I felt it was a need for attention.

    BigSETXjock, this is Gold's Gym in Castro...99.9% gay. icon_biggrin.gif


    impeding the use of the equipment can be caused by many behaviors....so that aint special....and this could be handled the same way...."excuse me, may I use this machine?"


    I think you failed to see the relevance of the situation. Sexual behavior at the gym, whether it is impeding the use of the machine or not is extremely inappropriate. There is a time and place for everything. Pretending to fuck at the gym..not the time..nor the place.

    Common sense dude..use it
  • dionysus

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    Dec 15, 2008 9:16 PM GMT
    if i look at someone longer than 15 seconds at the gym, i feel like a damn stalker.

    if i saw someone kissing someone else at the gym. i might hurl a 2.5lb plate. might.