Oh hell. :/ Now I gotta do a serious post but I doubt anyone will really read it.
I think everyone longs to be understood. Gay men may come across various planes of difficulty when it acceptance-- both inside their community and outside of it. The world is still vastly intolerant with respect to gay/bi men. They have trouble fitting in if they come from small towns, from super/orthodox/conservative families backed by an equally repressive Abrahamic faith, and also have difficulty fitting in. There's been this "loss of identity" crisis in America for a while now and many still have yet to find a place they can truly fit and be unconditionally accepted and supported by individuals.
If that wasn't bad enough, gays/bis often suffer from rejection within their own community too, as Principal alluded to. The stereotypes and demand of a certain appearance is an crucifying element in today's culture. "Swimming in the river of darkness, beneath the neon lights" some gay/bi men have become part of no one and nothing, immersing themselves in mainstream superficiality and nihilism.There are no structures of support, there are no beacons of light, no shoulders in which gay/bi men can stand upon except in their immediate environment. In my experience, they have no legacy except Stonewall and historical events which helped carve out a new century of acceptance in the 20th century.
But who is our mentor? Where are our guiding posts? There really aren't any, at least, not for many gay/bi men. Without a moral high ground or support from their society, gay men often become lost and confused souls travelling between the worlds. Neither here, neither there. They become absorbed into the superficial reality constructed by gay/bi men, being young, looking good, and feeling good. My guess is there seems to be a correlation between appearance and confidence within the culture mostly because people rely on affirmation from their surroundings.
Gay and Bi men are often the victims of rape, rejection, and broken families too.