Core Friends

  • StevieB0402

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    Sep 14, 2012 3:33 PM GMT
    I read a post about making gay friends and how difficult it can be. Then I read a post by someone who is 40 and said his best friend is someone he knows for less than two years. (not his partner) This struck me as unusual so I decided to ask: who are your core/best friends? how long have you known them? does their sexual orientation have an effect on your relationship?

    (please omit partners, husbands etc..... yes, my husband is my best friend too)

    I'll start:

    Christina and I have been friends for 22 years. We met in high school when we were both "bisexual". I'm gay, she's a lesbian. On her birthday I sent her a card that read "you'll always be my best friend.... because you know too much."

    Sean was my college roommate. We've been friends for 19 years and I was best man in his wedding. He's straight and to this day his wife secretly believes we fooled around once in college after several keg stands. Just because you see two men passed out in their underwear in bed togther you automatically assume they fooled around? Talk about jumping to conclusions.

    Lisa is my straight British girlfriend who is a female version of myself. We've been friends for 15 years and I've slept with her more than some b/fs. The difference of course being I shagged the b/fs and not her.

    Nancy is an American version of Lisa and we've been friends for 14 years. She recently asked me for some sperm so she can have a baby.

    Kris is a gay friend of mine that I've known for 10 years. Every time a b/f of his watches us interact, they always ask if we've ever fooled around. The answer is no, never have never will. We are truly just good friends. He moved away recently and I thank God for all the modern ways to stay in touch. We have at least three text conversations a day.

    Mike is my straight workout buddy. We've been friends for 5 years. He's the guy I call when I need someone to get on a rollercoaster, go to a ball game, workout, take a road trip, play poker; all the guy things my husband doesnt really like to do. I'm the guy he calls when women are driving him bonkers.

    That's my core group of friends.
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    Sep 14, 2012 8:59 PM GMT
    Seems like Nancy is pretty straightforward..

    I have a best friend called Jonas, We met each other the first time in the very first year of pre-school. And to be honest, we hated each other at that time. I remember he would always bully me with another one of his childhood friend (Which I became friends with later but not as much as Jonas) I would occasionally bite Jonas if he came to close (haha yeah.. Did I just say bite? yup I did) It wasn't until.. 3rd grade that I became friends with him after a friend of his hid his hat and I helped him finding it.. And we've been friends for.. nearly 10 years now. Good times. icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 14, 2012 11:58 PM GMT
    Don't make gay friends.
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    Sep 15, 2012 12:37 AM GMT
    OP...You are very fortunate. I have a good friend that I've only known for almost 3 years now. Another friend for 4 years. My 2 other friends are my ex and his partner/friend/room mate (whatever the term of the day is icon_rolleyes.gif )
    Damn! I need to get out more icon_sad.gif
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    Sep 15, 2012 1:38 AM GMT
    one of my best friends is a lesbian, and we actually met about 4 years ago in a gay teen chatroom. we decided to go to the chicago gay pride together, the first gay thing each of us have ever done... we spent the rest of the summer going out to boystown and exploring our "gay" lives for the first time. we've traveled together, we've lived together for a year (ps. living w/friends in my opinion is a BAD idea because it really strains the relationship) but now we both live in Chicago and we hang out every other weekend. it's been great
  • StevieB0402

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    Sep 15, 2012 6:48 PM GMT
    I am very lucky in this life but friendships, like any relationship, need to be tended to flourish.

    I have an 18 y/o sister and she's constantly bitching about how 'fake' and 'unreliable' people are but she refuses to realize that basically she wants people there when she wants them, and she wants them to go away when she wants to be alone. Which is fine but then you have to respect that other people get to act that way and you really have no reason to hold it against them. She's at that age where everything is me me me me and I pray she outgrows it soon.

    But then she likes to tell me that I'm her smartest and least favorite sibling. icon_wink.gif
  • StevieB0402

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    Sep 15, 2012 8:03 PM GMT
    smartmoney saidDon't make gay friends.


    why?
  • socalisurfer

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    Sep 16, 2012 3:05 AM GMT
    I have three. Two gay and one straight.

    R. Known him for over 12 years, met at a bar and we just hit it off as friends. Been through some of the worst times and best time in both our lives and we've been there for each other.

    C. Was my neighbor growing up and he knew I was gay before I did. 25 years older than me and helped me out immensely when I was coming to terms with my sexuality.

    B. My straight best friend. Known him since HS and I use to have the biggest crush on him. He lives 2 blocks away and pretty much hang out almost everyday. Totally cool with going to the gay bars with me, he usually ends up with a hot girls number by the end of the night.

    Besides those three I have a group of acquiantances. People I meet out of the bars, beach or at a party.
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    Sep 16, 2012 3:13 AM GMT
    I dont have any. I started to keep people at arms lengrh and staying busy to avoind being hurt like I was when I told them i was gay and they turne and ditched me.

    EDIT: I lie my vodka botle and I are quiet cozy now!
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    Sep 16, 2012 3:34 AM GMT
    Totally thought this said "Coke Friends" at first.
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  • StevieB0402

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    Sep 17, 2012 4:00 PM GMT
    rondan saidI dont have any. I started to keep people at arms lengrh and staying busy to avoind being hurt like I was when I told them i was gay and they turne and ditched me.

    EDIT: I lie my vodka botle and I are quiet cozy now!


    That sucks, but all those fake friends left to make room for real ones. You've given me another opportunity to be grateful because my friends never turned their backs on me when I came out. Family did, but that's a whole different post.

    Thanks for the post ! ! ! ! icon_biggrin.gif