Is it moral to have a fuck buddy?

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    Aug 21, 2008 11:09 PM GMT
    I have a fb that is a fireman...he is a bit on the fat side, but I do not mind.
    He is also married.
    My question is am I behaving in morals or am I just evil. icon_biggrin.gif
  • joeindallas

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    Aug 21, 2008 11:12 PM GMT
    He is Immoral He knew he was married when he meet you. I have a feeling you only found out later. I hate to be the break up cause.
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    Aug 21, 2008 11:28 PM GMT
    If you are both single then its all good. But taken or married is when things get shady.
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    Aug 21, 2008 11:32 PM GMT
    Are you friendly to the person he is married to? If so, you have a moral obligation to tell them. If not, if he isn't fucking you he is fucking someone else. So don't sweat it.

    Keep in mind, the spouse could know he sleeps with other people. That could be how their relationship works. If he says that is how their relationship works, demand to meet the spouse to confirm it.
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    Aug 22, 2008 6:04 PM GMT
    As far as the title of your post goes, I think that most of us here would agree that it's not a moral problem to have an fb. YMMV on other boards! icon_smile.gif

    In terms of the fb being married/partnered... It seems to me that your question should be answered by your own beliefs/morality, not ours!

    My guess is that your fb wants to be responsible for his own marriage, and would not appreciate your concern in that area. However, you know that he is married and, almost certainly, he is breaking a promise when he has sex with you. How much, if anything, does that mean to you?

    (For the record, I've had married/partnered fbs... I'm not trying to be preachy.)
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    Aug 22, 2008 7:39 PM GMT
    it is immoral to have a fuckbuddy who is a fat fireman. think of how you'd feel if you were on fire and the only guy they sent in to rescue you was the fat guy?

    that wouldn't feel too good, now would it? He should lose some weight and then it won't be immoral.
  • vindog

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    Aug 22, 2008 8:02 PM GMT
    tommysguns2000 said

    that wouldn't feel too good, now would it? He should lose some weight and then it won't be immoral.


    haha....was gonna say the same thing.

    Not immoral to have a fb, immoral to sleep with a fat person.


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    Aug 22, 2008 8:12 PM GMT
    Why is him being fat even relevant? It is ok to have a fb. That isnt an issue. The issue is that this guy is married. That is wrong. You both are wrong to a degree. Him more so than you. He made a committment to his spouse and now he is breaking it. You know he is married but dont care. I doubt his spouse knows about this affair otherwise this wouldnt really be a problem. It would be an open relationship. So the only question you need to ask yourself is Do you like being the other person?
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    Aug 22, 2008 9:52 PM GMT
    tommysguns2000 saidit is immoral to have a fuckbuddy who is a fat fireman. think of how you'd feel if you were on fire and the only guy they sent in to rescue you was the fat guy?

    that wouldn't feel too good, now would it? He should lose some weight and then it won't be immoral.
    LOL OMG. icon_lol.gif
  • GQjock

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    Aug 23, 2008 12:07 AM GMT


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    Aug 24, 2008 7:28 PM GMT
    The last time I got it on with a married guy (in his/their house), I spent a couple of days chewing on the same (morality) question. In retrospect, it wasn't as much a worry over my sullied soul as a way to relive what had been a very hot encounter.
  • Koaa2

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    Aug 25, 2008 12:58 PM GMT
    If your not involved emotionally with him, enjoy it. Sex gets so confused with morals, love etc, a fuck is a fuck and nothing more.
  • rnch

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    Aug 25, 2008 2:42 PM GMT
    [quote]...Not immoral to have a fb, immoral to sleep with a fat person....[/quote] mi gaud, there's a lot of bitchie queens on this site! icon_razz.gif
  • vindog

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    Aug 25, 2008 11:31 PM GMT
    rnch said[quote]...Not immoral to have a fb, immoral to sleep with a fat person....
    mi gaud, there's a lot of bitchie queens on this site! icon_razz.gif[/quote]


    obviously you are fat.

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  • rnch

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    Aug 25, 2008 11:41 PM GMT
    atlnvmasc said
    rnch said[quote]...Not immoral to have a fb, immoral to sleep with a fat person....
    mi gaud, there's a lot of bitchie queens on this site! icon_razz.gif



    obviously you are fat.

    icon_wink.gif[/quote] as is your head.....the one between your sunglasses, that is.... icon_lol.gif
  • vindog

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    Aug 26, 2008 4:10 PM GMT
    rnch said
    atlnvmasc said
    rnch said[quote]...Not immoral to have a fb, immoral to sleep with a fat person....
    mi gaud, there's a lot of bitchie queens on this site! icon_razz.gif



    obviously you are fat.

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    as is your head.....the one between your sunglasses, that is.... icon_lol.gif[/quote]

    I'm fat in all the right places
  • rnch

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    Aug 26, 2008 4:43 PM GMT
    atlnvmasc said
    rnch said
    atlnvmasc said
    rnch said[quote]...Not immoral to have a fb, immoral to sleep with a fat person....
    mi gaud, there's a lot of bitchie queens on this site! icon_razz.gif



    obviously you are fat.

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    as is your head.....the one between your sunglasses, that is.... icon_lol.gif


    I'm fat in all the right places[/quote] your neck, hips and ankles are not usually considered "right places"... icon_razz.gif
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    Aug 26, 2008 5:25 PM GMT
    Is having a FB moral if a your in a open relationship? Then yes! IF it is not an open relationship it is not moral/ethical.

    my spouse and I have an open relationship and have been together for over 12 years. We understand there are needs that neither one of us can always fill for the other and that being men, we sometimes just want to fuck someone else.
  • Laurence

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    Aug 26, 2008 6:15 PM GMT
    Ask yourself this question.

    Would you like it if you were married and some skank was boning your husband?

    Morality is a personal issue, but having frequent sex with a married guy doesn't make you look good mate.

    Lozx

  • rnch

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    Aug 26, 2008 6:43 PM GMT
    the only problem with long term FB is i usually develop feelings for them. icon_sad.gif



    how can someone NOT grow attached to someone who makes us sexually satisfied continously? icon_biggrin.gif
  • qalbi30

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    Aug 26, 2008 6:53 PM GMT
    I agree with Koaa 2.A F/B is exactly what is says it is ,and nothing more.If and when you make a commitment to your partner or B/F you should try to keep to it,but if and when you do not have a relationship, a good F/B helps to keep you happy and sane.

    We all have needs and providing nobody gets hurt life can be too short to pass a good opportunity by.icon_cool.gif
  • Tyinstl

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    Aug 26, 2008 8:28 PM GMT
    LutherGooch saidI have a fb that is a fireman...he is a bit on the fat side, but I do not mind.
    He is also married.
    My question is am I behaving in morals or am I just evil. icon_biggrin.gif


    As others have said, it's not immoral to have a fuck buddy, but it is immoral to knowingly be an accomplice to adultery.

    Unless the wife knows and doesn't care, which I doubt. But if she doesn't then you should totally fuck that fireman.