Bummed Out- Man Troubles (everybody comment!!!!!)

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    Sep 15, 2012 2:22 AM GMT
    DEAR DIARY,

    Ok, I've been debating whether or not I should do this but I'm alone on a Friday night, so why not?


    Here goes it: I met a guy on M-Harmony (Manhunt) a few weeks ago and we hit it off instantly and hooked up. He is a GORGEOUS handsome British MMA fighter guy. Physically perfect in every way. We bumped uglies and a great time was had by all.

    Sometime after that we started talking regularly. Not about sex, but about relationships, insecurities, dogs, etc....just stuff you don't talk with tricks about. We became friends on FB and he would even send me random sweet nothings like texts saying he was thinking about me, blah, blah, blah. I remember one conversation we had he even jokingly suggested that I could move in with him. I axed him if he was joking and he said that he was looking for a "LTR so you never know." Well, by this point I am completely smitten by him. He is charming, kind, and seems to want the same things in a relationship that I want.

    Then this past week, he suggests we go out on a no shit real date. Not a hook up but dinner and conversation date. When we meet up in person our conversation is hampered because my mouth is a little....preoccupied icon_twisted.gif (his penis is in my mouth, for those who didn't get the joke). So I'm real excited that I can actually hang out with him in a casual, non sexual setting.


    Well, this was on Sunday. It is now Friday night and I have not really heard from him. I texted him yesterday and he said he would get back to me today.It is almost 10:30. Unless he calls in 2 hours then I'm screwed.


    Am I thinking too much into this? In his defense he said he was sick, and judging by his FB posts he does seem sick. But no phone call or text? If he has time to shit he has time to say "Oh I can't get together this week" or "Oh I love you, please marry me" or "Oh I hate your fuckin guts you beaner, get away". I just hate being left in the dark.


    I already texted him, so I don't want to seem too clingy. If he doesn't text this weekend, do I have the right to be mad at him? Or should I just chalk it up to he forgot/was sick/was busy???

    I REALLY like this guy. But I feel like I have to keep making the first step to reach out to him. UGH....icon_neutral.gif


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    Sep 15, 2012 2:26 AM GMT
    Been there, done that, got the T-shirt, cut the sleeves off, wore it to the gym icon_neutral.gif Dude was CRAZY about me, we had two sort-of dates, they involved sexual things. He seemed really deeply into me. Then fucking vanished forever.
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    Sep 15, 2012 2:28 AM GMT
    If ya'll could see the sadness in my eyes right now....Now I understand that thread....NOW I UNDERSTAND....

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    Sep 15, 2012 2:31 AM GMT
    I'm sorry, for your predicament, but I've been of very little help lately. I've got my own mental blocks keeping me from seeing passed my emotions and feelings. I'm Logistically compromised. I hope you figure something out soon.
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    Sep 15, 2012 2:31 AM GMT
    So he liked the sex, but not the personality?
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    Sep 15, 2012 2:33 AM GMT
    In the back of my mind, I know this thread probably won't produce anything fruitful. Just needed to get it off my chest.

    I think I'm looking to much into it, TBH. I have high expectations for him and we still barely know each other, but what I do know about him, I like.

    He is just a sucky texter....icon_confused.gif
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    Sep 15, 2012 2:35 AM GMT
    jmusmc85 saidHe is just a sucky texter....icon_confused.gif

    Yeah, that's it. .... icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Sep 15, 2012 2:38 AM GMT
    bro, U need to maybe back off a bit.
    I feel like when a guy's into you, you def kno it. You obviously had good convos before and he sent u cute little FB messages and you were feelin the good vibes......as was he. .

    you're no longer feeling these vibes anymore--he doesn't reach out to you as much... something has changed. You can't depend on him for your happiness.

    You 2 were never officially bf and bf. So he owes you nothing and u owe him nothing
    U hooked up with him. u prob became slightly infatuated. He's not as responsive as he once was... you're bummed out.

    Classic.
    I dont think that gives u the right to be "mad" at him.. icon_rolleyes.gif
    will he even care if you're mad?

    I know how you're feeling tho baby. Keep ur chin up. Some other trick will come along. icon_smile.gif

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    Sep 15, 2012 2:39 AM GMT
    Caslon21000 saidSo he liked the sex, but not the personality?


    Bitch, you must have never slept with me. I know how to turn it out!!!!

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    And didn't you read the rest of my post??? We have had many conversations about anything and everything. But this weekend is supposed to be our first "official" date.

    I'm just asking if he bails, or wants to reschedule, should I be angry? Or will it be overreacting? Should I just go with the flow? Or say "THE COOKIE JAR IS CLOSED!!!!"
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    Sep 15, 2012 2:40 AM GMT
    Another notch on the bed post icon_neutral.gif

    Be angry???? No ... you'll just regret it later
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    Sep 15, 2012 2:41 AM GMT
    HOW DARE YOU GUYS TELL ME WHAT I DON'T WANT TO HEAR!!!!!!!!!!
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    Sep 15, 2012 2:43 AM GMT
    If you've given up hope its time to put it all on the line. Tell him how much you miss hearing from him, his sweet nothings and if there is anything you can do to help him feel better, in case he's really sick.
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    Sep 15, 2012 2:44 AM GMT
    maybe try not hooking up and actually building something real before hooking up. Build a connection that will keep him coming back. dude is hot like u said, im sure he can get dick anywhere he wants it. . but if u give him something more than just a blowjob, he may find u interesting enough to keep around
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    Sep 15, 2012 2:45 AM GMT
    bhp91126 saidIf you've given up hope its time to put it all on the line. Tell him how much you miss hearing from him, his sweet nothings and if there is anything you can do to help him feel better, in case he's really sick.


    I was thinking something along those lines.

    If he doesn't at least try to reach out by Sunday, I will tell him to get lost until he isn't so busy.



    Or is that mean?
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    Sep 15, 2012 2:47 AM GMT
    For christ's sake I didn't think u were such a whiney little girl.
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    Sep 15, 2012 2:48 AM GMT
    klassik saidmaybe try not hooking up and actually building something real before hooking up. Build a connection that will keep him coming back. dude is hot like u said, im sure he can get dick anywhere he wants it. . but if u give him something more than just a blowjob, he may find u interesting enough to keep around


    But I've been interesting enough to keep around for 4 weeks, which is 4 weeks longer than 99% of the tricks I've ever been with.


    And I have told him that I wanted to get to know him better in a situation not involving light chocking and lube. icon_neutral.gif

    He said he agreed and his exact words were ....ahem...(imagine this in a British voice) " You know, I like you. And this is out of my comfront zone, but I would like to do dinner with you if you would like"...


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    Sep 15, 2012 2:53 AM GMT
    Import saidFor christ's sake I didn't think u were such a whiney little girl.


    DIE IN A FIRE!
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    Sep 15, 2012 2:59 AM GMT
    jmusmc85 said
    klassik saidmaybe try not hooking up and actually building something real before hooking up. Build a connection that will keep him coming back. dude is hot like u said, im sure he can get dick anywhere he wants it. . but if u give him something more than just a blowjob, he may find u interesting enough to keep around


    But I've been interesting enough to keep around for 4 weeks, which is 4 weeks longer than 99% of the tricks I've ever been with.


    And I have told him that I wanted to get to know him better in a situation not involving light chocking and lube. icon_neutral.gif

    He said he agreed and his exact words were ....ahem...(imagine this in a British voice) " You know, I like you. And this is out of my comfront zone, but I would like to do dinner with you if you would like"...


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    iono man.
    sounds like u liked him more than he liked u.
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    Sep 15, 2012 3:10 AM GMT
    Ugh. I dunno. I know this topic has been beaten to death, but this is different, because it involves me.


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    Sep 15, 2012 3:14 AM GMT
    jmusmc85 saidUgh. I dunno. I know this topic has been beaten to death, but this is different, because it involves me.


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    I did message you sexy papisito! No vale la pena que digo?
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    Sep 15, 2012 3:18 AM GMT
    JR_RJ said
    jmusmc85 saidUgh. I dunno. I know this topic has been beaten to death, but this is different, because it involves me.


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    I did message you sexy papisito! No vale la pena que digo?


    When? LIES!!!
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    Sep 15, 2012 3:21 AM GMT
    Maybe the fact that he was supposed to message you slipped his mind? icon_confused.gif Just send him a message!!
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    Sep 15, 2012 3:25 AM GMT
    BlackCat90 saidMaybe the fact that he was supposed to message you slipped his mind? icon_confused.gif Just send him a message!!


    Won't I look desperate? Because I totally am!!!!!! I think I will wait till Sunday.....icon_exclaim.gif

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    Sep 15, 2012 3:25 AM GMT
    The only think you can do is get even .... you are going to have to go on manhunt and tell every guy that you'll give them a bj ... the uglier and the older the better .... that'll fix him icon_twisted.gif
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    Sep 15, 2012 3:26 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidThe only think you can do is get even .... you are going to have to go on manhunt and tell every guy that you'll give them a bj ... the uglier and the older the better .... that'll fix him icon_twisted.gif


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