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    Sep 16, 2012 9:51 AM GMT
    Right. Here it goes. I'm going to bite the bullet and ask out someone that I've liked for a little while now. I've never asked anyone out before but I think this guy is worth going out on a limb for. There are lots of problems with this, but one main one is that I never see him orspeak to him. Soooo I guess Facebook message it is because I don't have his number. I really think I could like this guy. He's the only one (of late) who I think about a lot of the time. Mind wanders, wanders to him icon_smile.gif

    I need all your help please. I need this message to be perfect - or as perfect as it can be. I over analyse situations because I'm scared of what will happen if I'm not prepared which is where you all come in! I would like any tips or any advice/things I should include in the message. We can draft it together. Family project.

    So far I've got:

    "Hey,

    I know we don't talk ever but I've been thinking maybe it would be cool to change that."

    Aaaaaand that's all folks.

    Advice, past stories, lines, whatever, I'll read it all and then I'll keep you informed.

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    Sep 16, 2012 11:15 AM GMT
    a line that's worked for me before.

    We are going to cum anyway so why not together.

    I was drunk, he was too..

    Another

    Your arse is amazing, but not as incredible as your eyes. Yup drunk again

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    Sep 16, 2012 12:10 PM GMT
    lilTanker saida line that's worked for me before.

    We are going to cum anyway so why not together.

    I was drunk, he was too..

    Another

    Your arse is amazing, but not as incredible as your eyes. Yup drunk again



    Oh wow haha that's not the angle I was going for. But good to know that works lol
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    Sep 16, 2012 12:25 PM GMT
    I think the original one liner u had is cute, nice and straight to the point. icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 16, 2012 12:35 PM GMT
    Don't say too much or he'll do the gay freak out when you show too much attention and become turned off
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    Sep 16, 2012 12:50 PM GMT
    HorrorHero saidI think the original one liner u had is cute, nice and straight to the point. icon_smile.gif


    Sounds good although I wouldn't mind adding a bit more or changing it somehow. I dunno just doesn't seem right.


    SkittleGangstaDon't say too much or he'll do the gay freak out when you show too much attention and become turned off


    Good call. But I hate playing games though. I wish it was socially acceptable to just tell the person how you feel, how often you think about them, etc, without being pinned as an obsessed stalker. #firstworldproblems
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    Sep 16, 2012 4:02 PM GMT
    I understand what you mean so here is my advice:
    Don't start with the negative, which is what "we don't talk ever" implies. If you want to change that, just say something like "I like what you wrote here(something on fb) and would love to chat more." Or something along those lines. You want to show confidence and not doubt. Good luck.
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    Sep 16, 2012 4:22 PM GMT
    Questions:

    Is this guy gay? (I shouldn't have to ask, but you'd be surprised)
    If you never see him or talk to him, how do you know him?
    What do you like about him?
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    Sep 16, 2012 4:45 PM GMT
    guide_me_home saidRight. Here it goes. I'm going to bite the bullet and ask out someone that I've liked for a little while now. I've never asked anyone out before but I think this guy is worth going out on a limb for. There are lots of problems with this, but one main one is that I never see him orspeak to him. Soooo I guess Facebook message it is because I don't have his number. I really think I could like this guy. He's the only one (of late) who I think about a lot of the time. Mind wanders, wanders to him icon_smile.gif

    I need all your help please. I need this message to be perfect - or as perfect as it can be. I over analyse situations because I'm scared of what will happen if I'm not prepared which is where you all come in! I would like any tips or any advice/things I should include in the message. We can draft it together. Family project.

    So far I've got:

    "Hey,

    I know we don't talk read it all and then I'll keep you informed.




    You got yourself worked up about this which is the problem. Look at it from
    your perspective. How would you liked to be asked out? Just asking him
    if he would like to hang out is perfect . But be specific. More often then not he has already scoped you out and has probably thought about asking you out.
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    Sep 16, 2012 4:53 PM GMT
    Alpha13 has a good point, ask HIM the way YOU would like to be asked
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    Sep 16, 2012 5:02 PM GMT
    lilTanker saida line that's worked for me before.

    We are going to cum anyway so why not together.

    I was drunk, he was too..

    Another

    Your arse is amazing, but not as incredible as your eyes. Yup drunk again



    Just don't get all confused and poke me in the eye.....icon_mad.gif
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    Sep 16, 2012 5:14 PM GMT
    FuriousGeorge saidQuestions:

    Is this guy gay? (I shouldn't have to ask, but you'd be surprised)
    If you never see him or talk to him, how do you know him?
    What do you like about him?
    I'm with Furious on this one. There are some serious questions about what you're trying to do.

    I would make some comments to him first regarding something he posted and get to know a little about him. Sounds like you're just cold turkey asking him out, seems you could get a feel for what he thinks of you by actually chatting with him first.
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    Sep 16, 2012 9:40 PM GMT
    turbobilly saidJust don't get all confused and poke me in the eye.....icon_mad.gif

    Don't worry I know where I'm suppose to poke... even while I'm drunk I still hit the spot
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    Sep 16, 2012 10:29 PM GMT
    guide_me_home said...I never see him or speak to him.

    I need all your help please. I need this message to be perfect - or as perfect as it can be... We can draft it together. Family project.

    A plot element from Cyrano de Bergerac does come to mind here.

    Meaning: whatever premise you choose, make sure the words sound like the person he knows from your previous Facebook messages, and the way you'll speak in person when you go out together. Otherwise he might notice the disparity, like he's dealing with 2 different people. Which in fact he is, if you use someone else's words verbatim.

    Have you never met him at all? Or just not meet him very often nor recently? That would help to frame your approach. And be straightforward and direct, state your wish to meet him again, or for the first time if the case.

    As someone already said, don't use negatives that could sound like a criticism or a reproach, and maybe not say the "D" (date) word. Make it more of a hanging out, just doing stuff together.

    Don't pile on expectations for either of you, that's often a killer, but do have at least a general outline in mind of what you'll be doing. Having options ready to offer him, that he can choose if he wishes, either before meeting or during, makes it a bit more spontaneous, and yet isn't left totally to chance, which can flop.

    But you don't have to put all that into your Facebook message; again it's brevity, simplicity & directness at this point. The details come later. And no mushy stuff!

    If things go well then you can start having more programmed dates later on, and begin to call them dates.
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    Sep 16, 2012 11:00 PM GMT
    This guy is definitely gay. I've met him before because the gay scene in my town is quite small and we have some of the same friends. I've spoken to him before briefly at a party a few months back and went away for travel until I just got home and saw him again at a club last weekend (I was of course drunk and making a fool of fool myself so that's not going to help) which sparked interest in him again.

    What do I like about him? He's very good looking which doesn't hurt. I really like his smile though. It's kinda nice to look at. I don't know him well enough to say specifics about him but I like how genuine he is.

    Solid advice from everyone so I think so far I've got something like:

    Hey

    I was wondering if maybe you wanted to grab a bite to eat later this week or maybe a drink or something. I know we haven't talked much before but I saw you out last weekend and was wondering if maybe you wanted to hang out?

    How would I like to be asked out? I don't know I've never really thought about it unfortunately. It's never really come up to be honest. /cue violins
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    Sep 16, 2012 11:06 PM GMT
    lilTanker said
    turbobilly saidJust don't get all confused and poke me in the eye.....icon_mad.gif

    Don't worry I know where I'm suppose to poke... even while I'm drunk I still hit the spot
    Not what I've heard. Some said they had to duct tape the electrical outlets cause of you....
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    Sep 16, 2012 11:18 PM GMT
    guide_me_home saidSolid advice from everyone so I think so far I've got something like:

    Hey

    I was wondering if maybe you wanted to grab a bite to eat later this week or maybe a drink or something. I know we haven't talked much before but I saw you out last weekend and was wondering if maybe you wanted to hang out?

    Not bad, I'd consider meeting you if I got that. Of course, I'm 2 generations removed from you, and not Australian, so I'll defer to those better qualified than me.

    I did strike a part I thought was getting into the negative, even apologetic, and I don't think necessary. But a personal judgment call on my part, it may work OK, perhaps more the manner of expression in Australia.
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    Sep 17, 2012 1:44 AM GMT
    turbobilly said
    lilTanker said
    turbobilly saidJust don't get all confused and poke me in the eye.....icon_mad.gif

    Don't worry I know where I'm suppose to poke... even while I'm drunk I still hit the spot
    Not what I've heard. Some said they had to duct tape the electrical outlets cause of you....

    Oh that's just cause I"m a shooter.... a big powerful one icon_twisted.gif
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    Sep 17, 2012 1:46 AM GMT
    lilTanker said
    turbobilly said
    lilTanker said
    turbobilly saidJust don't get all confused and poke me in the eye.....icon_mad.gif

    Don't worry I know where I'm suppose to poke... even while I'm drunk I still hit the spot
    Not what I've heard. Some said they had to duct tape the electrical outlets cause of you....

    Oh that's just cause I"m a shooter.... a big powerful one icon_twisted.gif


    I'm still scrubbing the ceiling vents icon_confused.gif
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    Sep 17, 2012 1:48 PM GMT
    ERMAHGERD!

    He said, "Yeah sounds good"

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    Sep 17, 2012 2:29 PM GMT
    YAY! Chapter 2...can't wait
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    Sep 17, 2012 6:50 PM GMT
    Ariodante said
    lilTanker said
    turbobilly said
    lilTanker said
    turbobilly saidJust don't get all confused and poke me in the eye.....icon_mad.gif

    Don't worry I know where I'm suppose to poke... even while I'm drunk I still hit the spot
    Not what I've heard. Some said they had to duct tape the electrical outlets cause of you....

    Oh that's just cause I"m a shooter.... a big powerful one icon_twisted.gif


    I'm still scrubbing the ceiling vents icon_confused.gif

    I couldn't help it!!! It's not my fault!! I don't take responsibility for it!!
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    guide_me_home saidERMAHGERD!

    He said, "Yeah sounds good"


    YAY... thought from all the effort you put into writing that note he could have said a little more hahaha
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    Sep 17, 2012 7:05 PM GMT
    Ariodante said
    lilTanker said
    turbobilly said
    lilTanker said
    turbobilly saidJust don't get all confused and poke me in the eye.....icon_mad.gif

    Don't worry I know where I'm suppose to poke... even while I'm drunk I still hit the spot
    Not what I've heard. Some said they had to duct tape the electrical outlets cause of you....

    Oh that's just cause I"m a shooter.... a big powerful one icon_twisted.gif


    I'm still scrubbing the ceiling vents icon_confused.gif


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