Social anxiety

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    Sep 16, 2012 5:01 PM GMT
    Let's all talk about this thing. It doesn't need to be clinically diagnosed anxiety , just thoughts and feelings you have about talking to people, making friends....The more intimate the better


    I'll start : The main issue for me when it comes to people, is that I have a terrible fear of disappointing them. I guess it's becomes I'm young and still feel the need to be liked haha. But I always get nervous when I have to speak to people a second or a third time cause then I'll have to live up to their expectations....
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    Sep 16, 2012 5:11 PM GMT
    I can soemwhat agree with this....

    my thing is also the fear of what they think of me,....which I should not think about that as it does not matter what people think lol but its just how I am
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    Sep 16, 2012 6:22 PM GMT
    My anxiety comes out the worst when it's an attractive guy looking at me and starts making moves on me or touching me/feeling me up. I feel a great deal of anxiety when the person in question begins to flirt with me or corners me. icon_redface.gif
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    Sep 16, 2012 6:45 PM GMT
    Fear of not meeting expectations is a very real fear that isn't a gay thing at all. It's also the fear that underlines fear of public speaking for many. The fear of being imperfect. "What if they don't like me?" "What if they hate my speech?" etc. Through my job, I was able to find a "Life Coach" who helped me big time. If you're interested in learning more about it, try reading a book called, "Feel the fear and do it anyway". It basically says that through repeated exposure to what you're afraid of, the mind gets used to it and the fear subsides.

    The dating version of this is to bring down your expectations from "OMG THIS IS MY ONE CHANCE TO WIN OVER THE MAN OF MY DREAMS, I MUST DO THIS!" to "Let's see how many things we have in common."
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    Sep 16, 2012 6:48 PM GMT
    ParadiseLost saidMy anxiety comes out the worst when it's an attractive guy looking at me and starts making moves on me or touching me/feeling me up. I feel a great deal of anxiety when the person in question begins to flirt with me or corners me. icon_redface.gif


    Haha. Dude, totally feel ya. no pun intended.
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    Sep 16, 2012 6:50 PM GMT
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    ParadiseLost saidMy anxiety comes out the worst when it's an attractive guy looking at me and starts making moves on me or touching me/feeling me up. I feel a great deal of anxiety when the person in question begins to flirt with me or corners me. icon_redface.gif


    Haha. Dude, totally feel ya. no pun intended.


    Oh you can feel me any time. ;o

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    Hehehe. :3 But in all seriousness, I'm very different outside of RJ forums people, like I keep on sayin'.
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    Sep 16, 2012 6:52 PM GMT
    My biggest fear is that the other guy sees right through me, how boring my life and I truly are. My brain does a pretty desperate scramble to find questions I could ask him about or topics to discuss. Silences kill me.

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    Sep 16, 2012 7:03 PM GMT
    Hmn.. it seems a lot of people have anxiety about the social interaction part. icon_neutral.gif I guess I'm one of the few who gets more flighty/nervous/feels butterflies in my stomach when the guy makes a move on me, touches my hand, holds me, looks into my eyes, gets real close...


    AHHH, I'm getting anxious just thinking about it!

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    Sep 16, 2012 7:22 PM GMT
    ParadiseLost saidMy anxiety comes out the worst when it's an attractive guy looking at me and starts making moves on me or touching me/feeling me up. I feel a great deal of anxiety when the person in question begins to flirt with me or corners me. icon_redface.gif


    AMEN. I get really worried that he won't really like me much on closer inspection. I have no problem striking up conversation - I enjoy it. But once it gets to touching in any way, I become really reserved and nervous.
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    Sep 16, 2012 7:24 PM GMT
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    ParadiseLost saidMy anxiety comes out the worst when it's an attractive guy looking at me and starts making moves on me or touching me/feeling me up. I feel a great deal of anxiety when the person in question begins to flirt with me or corners me. icon_redface.gif


    AMEN. I get really worried that he won't really like me much on closer inspection. I have no problem striking up conversation - I enjoy it. But once it gets to touching in any way, I become really reserved and nervous.


    Hehehe, if I ever see you face to face, I'm gonna poke you in your arm and smack your ass, just to see you squirm. icon_twisted.gif

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    Sep 16, 2012 7:33 PM GMT
    ParadiseLost said
    principal0 said
    ParadiseLost saidMy anxiety comes out the worst when it's an attractive guy looking at me and starts making moves on me or touching me/feeling me up. I feel a great deal of anxiety when the person in question begins to flirt with me or corners me. icon_redface.gif


    AMEN. I get really worried that he won't really like me much on closer inspection. I have no problem striking up conversation - I enjoy it. But once it gets to touching in any way, I become really reserved and nervous.


    Hehehe, if I ever see you face to face, I'm gonna poke you in your arm and smack your ass, just to see you squirm. icon_twisted.gif

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    Point on the doll where the bad man touched you.

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    Sep 16, 2012 7:37 PM GMT
    ParadiseLost said
    principal0 said
    ParadiseLost saidMy anxiety comes out the worst when it's an attractive guy looking at me and starts making moves on me or touching me/feeling me up. I feel a great deal of anxiety when the person in question begins to flirt with me or corners me. icon_redface.gif


    AMEN. I get really worried that he won't really like me much on closer inspection. I have no problem striking up conversation - I enjoy it. But once it gets to touching in any way, I become really reserved and nervous.


    Hehehe, if I ever see you face to face, I'm gonna poke you in your arm and smack your ass, just to see you squirm. icon_twisted.gif

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    That's so sad... icon_sad.gificon_cry.gif
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    Sep 16, 2012 7:38 PM GMT
    principal0 said
    Point on the doll where the bad man touched you.

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    That's so sad... icon_cry.gif

    Who said me touching you is going to be that bad?! >:/
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    Sep 16, 2012 7:50 PM GMT
    ParadiseLost said
    principal0 said
    Point on the doll where the bad man touched you.

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    That's so sad... icon_cry.gif

    Who said me touching you is going to be that bad?! >:/


    I kid, I kid! You go ahead and slap however much ass you like.
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    Sep 16, 2012 7:54 PM GMT
    principal0 said
    ParadiseLost said
    principal0 said
    Point on the doll where the bad man touched you.

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    That's so sad... icon_cry.gif

    Who said me touching you is going to be that bad?! >:/


    I kid, I kid! You go ahead and slap however much ass you like.


    Good! *Sniffs* ;_;

    crying1-onion-head-emoticon.gif?12928624 I happen to like your ass, thankyouverymuch!

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    Sep 16, 2012 8:07 PM GMT
    ParadiseLost said
    principal0 said
    ParadiseLost said
    principal0 said
    Point on the doll where the bad man touched you.

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    That's so sad... icon_cry.gif

    Who said me touching you is going to be that bad?! >:/


    I kid, I kid! You go ahead and slap however much ass you like.


    Good! *Sniffs* ;_;

    crying1-onion-head-emoticon.gif?12928624 I happen to like your ass, thankyouverymuch!



    You just made me check to make sure my butt wasn't showing in any pictures. Sigh.
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    Sep 16, 2012 8:08 PM GMT
    It gets better with age!
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    Sep 16, 2012 8:09 PM GMT
    Anocxu saidIt gets better with age!


    Social anxiety, or one's ass?
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    Sep 16, 2012 8:09 PM GMT
    principal0 said

    You just made me check to make sure my butt wasn't showing in any pictures. Sigh.


    There's no ass showing that I could tell but.. o_O It's just, more or less, intuitive. :3
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    Sep 16, 2012 8:09 PM GMT
    principal0 said
    Anocxu saidIt gets better with age!


    Social anxiety, or one's ass?



    LMAO. +D I was thinking the same thing!
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    Sep 16, 2012 9:06 PM GMT
    ParadiseLost said
    principal0 said
    Anocxu saidIt gets better with age!


    Social anxiety, or one's ass?



    LMAO. +D I was thinking the same thing!


    Then's there's that tipping point, that I'm slowly approaching, where age and gravity morphs the 'shelf' into a drop-leaf table.

    *hands out gravol*

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