Sep 16, 2012 8:22 PM GMT
So a few weeks ago I got a message from this really cute guy, "hey are you my ex's ex"? And it turns out he dated my ex boyfriend (who I dated for 2.5 years). I guess my ex would always talk about me to this guy, but that's another story
So me and this guy, lets call him matt, went on a few dates, and we realized that we had both never met anyone in our lives that was so compatible and who shared so many similar interests. I've never hit it off with someone so well, and I love just talking with him and being with him.
After about four dates I realized were kinda hitting a wall and had not progressed to anything sexually yet. He seemed kinda distant and then he invited me to go to a bar with him randomly. We got drunk, danced, made out and then we talked. Matt mentioned that earlier in the summer he found a guy that he had fallen for but he didn't want anything to do with him, and he was sulking to me about it.
After a couple of days of not talking to him, I asked him this week through text what was up, and where he wanted to go in terms of a relationship. His answer was:
"do you want to date or just stay friends?.. I've never met anyone who is so much like myself, and that I get along so well. To be honest you're kinda my type but not exactly my type... I'm so confused what to do... I think we should be friends. I can't keep leading you on like this..."
To which I just said thanks for telling me, and I never expected to hear from him again. I made up my mind to not to try to win him over. I was really choked, like actually more sad than ending any of my previous relationships.
The next day he texted me and wanted to chill at university as we were both on campus... we hung out and didn't talk about anything relationship like. Then friday night after coming home from the pub he started texting me all night, wanting to hang out on saturday during the day and we did.
Last night he invited me for wine and a movie alone at his place. I thought that it meant what wine and a movie usually means. He would move towards me during the movie and then move away. I didn't want to make any big move because just earlier in the week he said he wanted to be friends. So we just watched a movie and chilled. Nothing else.
He drove me home and I asked him what's his deal. He said he wants to keep hanging out with me until he's ready to date... and that he's still having trouble getting over this guy from earlier in the summer but he's not looking for anyone else.
Does that mean that I'm just a back up plan? or just a friend?
I just don't know how i should approach it. I get so many mixed signals and there is definitely some sort of connection. I don't want to seem clingy, so I think I'm just going to stop talking to him for a while and let him figure his shit out. Thoughts?