Sep 16, 2012 10:15 PM GMT
It's about a year that I have been using online dating app's and gay dating social networks. I want to talk about my experience with fake profiles on these networks and I would like to know about your experiences.
At the beginning when I was new to these tools I used to take my online conversations and crushes too serious and emotionally invest in whatever that seemed to be a successful, nice and great-looking guy. Consequently I wasted a lot of time and got emotionally hurt by fake profiles. I hope sharing my experiences here will be useful to guys who are new to these networks and might do the same mistakes that I did.
1 - Many people lie about their appearance in these websites, they lie about their age, they lie about their height and weight, they lie about their race, and even their gender.
What I learned is that you shouldn't trust the text that you read on these networks about one's appearance without any evidence unless you are looking for nothing more than a conversation with an anonymous person.
2 - Many people use fake pictures in their profiles. Now if it's Brad Pitt, everyone will easily figure that out. But if it is a local actor or athlete's pictures, or just a previous victim's, it's not easy to tell.
What I learned about this is to ask for verification of pictures. You can do that by either asking for a short video chat in which you can hear and see the guy or asking the guy to verify his profile. The latter is not possible on every network.
3- Many people lie about their status. They are married and claim to be single, or they have a huge problem that they lie about or just hide. This one is not exclusive to online networks, people do this in real life too. I have learned that I shouldn't get too excited about someone based on the things that I know, and always remember that there are a lot of things that I don't know about the guy and this helps to take things slow.
What might happen is that someone might be online with his full verified identity and all, but not looking for anything in real life. I have learned that I shouldn't emotionally invest in an online relationship that is gonna be online forever. Some people are just gonna be your "imaginary" friends, you can't make them real if they don't want to become real.
Best wishes
At the beginning when I was new to these tools I used to take my online conversations and crushes too serious and emotionally invest in whatever that seemed to be a successful, nice and great-looking guy. Consequently I wasted a lot of time and got emotionally hurt by fake profiles. I hope sharing my experiences here will be useful to guys who are new to these networks and might do the same mistakes that I did.
1 - Many people lie about their appearance in these websites, they lie about their age, they lie about their height and weight, they lie about their race, and even their gender.
What I learned is that you shouldn't trust the text that you read on these networks about one's appearance without any evidence unless you are looking for nothing more than a conversation with an anonymous person.2 - Many people use fake pictures in their profiles. Now if it's Brad Pitt, everyone will easily figure that out. But if it is a local actor or athlete's pictures, or just a previous victim's, it's not easy to tell.
What I learned about this is to ask for verification of pictures. You can do that by either asking for a short video chat in which you can hear and see the guy or asking the guy to verify his profile. The latter is not possible on every network. 3- Many people lie about their status. They are married and claim to be single, or they have a huge problem that they lie about or just hide. This one is not exclusive to online networks, people do this in real life too. I have learned that I shouldn't get too excited about someone based on the things that I know, and always remember that there are a lot of things that I don't know about the guy and this helps to take things slow.
What might happen is that someone might be online with his full verified identity and all, but not looking for anything in real life. I have learned that I shouldn't emotionally invest in an online relationship that is gonna be online forever. Some people are just gonna be your "imaginary" friends, you can't make them real if they don't want to become real. Best wishes
. Y'all should understand that not everyone is using this forum like you. This is not a topic for fun and trolling. I have posted about a serious issue and if you disagree with what I said you can say that. Nobody asked you and your buddy to verify my profile. Thanks, I am not looking! Why is it so hard for some people to understand this? Is it really so hard for you to have a non-sexual discussion, or just read and think without lusting after the writer?
