Sep 17, 2012 8:58 PM GMT
I pretty much have gained clarity on the problem at hand thanks to my fellow RJers.
Hello fellow RealJockers I am in a (moral?) dilemma that I would like some opinions.
A little background: I currently live with my sister, and she recently came out to my mom last year. For more details see this thread:http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/1966796
The story doesn't end there though. My sister went on and dated a girl who I do like a lot as a person and I got along with her well. However, when my mom found out about them, she (through very diabolical ways, details omitted) made my sister break up with this girl. This happened last January when my mom was visiting us in NYC.
Life went on, with (allegedly) my sister's broken heart. Or at least I thought.
Now, last Saturday, when I was walking on the streets with my BF and another fellow ex-RJer, we bumped into my sister and her "ex" girlfriend walking together. It became obvious to us that they've secretly seeing each other all this time. I was a little shocked, because:
1. My sister obviously did not break up with her, so she's been lying to my mother (and me) all this time.
2. Frankly I was a little puzzled because I am not opposed to their relationship. With that said, I can understand if she wanted to keep the relationship ultra secretive, even from me, just in case our mom founds out.
Now I am caught in the middle. I approve of this relationship and it's obvious that they love each other. At the same time though, I do not want to lie to my mom, which my sister is asking me to do.
I wish I didn't bump into them on the streets. But what's done cannot be undone, and I would like to hear what you think. For now my strategy is just avoid the conversation as much as possible by walking away. I know it's not the best thing to do but I really feel like I am caught in the middle. I don't want to hurt my sister but I don't want to hurt my mom. Now my mom is visiting us again and she's probably going to stay for a month or so. I am already stressed out.