Do you ever feel like you're re-dating your partner after they're away?

  • jackthejock

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    Sep 19, 2012 12:10 AM GMT
    My boyfriend is coming back from being over seas for a few weeks and I'm really excited and somehow a bit nervous about seeing him, almost like a first date. This isn't the only time I've had that feeling, a few months back he was away on business for a week and it overlapped with my going out of town for family reasons for a few weeks. When we first got back together it was so weird, it was liking seeing one of my old friends from back home, not like seeing a lover I'd been apart from. He's always very much feeling "OMG I missed you, we must do it ASAP" and I always feel like I need a little bit of time to get reacclimated before I feel sexual again.

    anybody else go through anything similar?
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    Sep 19, 2012 12:40 AM GMT
    Does that mean that you have a 'first kiss' with him time after time?
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    Sep 19, 2012 1:23 AM GMT
    Jack...Could it be that you and your boyfriend need to come up with more creative ways to communicate when you are apart?

    Have you had the opportunity to really pin point the reason or reasons you feel so disconnected?
    Just curious..how do you feel about him when he’s away?


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    Sep 19, 2012 6:47 PM GMT
    Lol, going thru the same stuff except I can relate better w your bf than you. At first we were opposite my first night home he'd b following me everywhere and I got use to having my space, so somebody just jumping in to my personal space, ie shower was so annoying. Well I "won" cause its not like that atall anymore, now I'm the one wondering if he even cares when I come home the first couple of nights I'm back. Anyway ya, pm me if ya wanna chat.
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    Sep 19, 2012 6:52 PM GMT
    Yeah, I understand what u mean.

    I have like a quasi-bf and went away for business for 9 days. Well, we txted and chatted while I was away every single day, however the day I returned and was actually gonna see him, I was kinda nervous. It was strange to me.

    However, once I saw him again, things kinda fell right back into place and didnt feel weird. I guess being away and doing your own things makes it difficult to imagine someone fitting into ur life at that exact moment.

    Just be cool. Relaxed, chill, everything will fall back into place after a few hours of hanging out with eachother.
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    Sep 19, 2012 7:13 PM GMT

    Sometimes being away is exactly what you need... sometimes. icon_wink.gif
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    Sep 19, 2012 9:55 PM GMT
    Same here... we've been dating for about 2 months and Cliff went on vacation for 2 weeks, he'll. be back next week! We've been together almost everynight since we met and really getting to know each other and it'll feel like starting overicon_smile.gif