Posted ad for a 3rd BF Threesome Relationship

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    Sep 19, 2012 2:23 AM GMT
    My BF and I met a threesome (I've heard these called threeway/triple/triad/throuple/thriple) and the guys we met were fun and hot. So my BF and I posted an ad for a 3rd to see what results we'd get. Has anyone been interested in this kind of scenario? Any thoughts about this sort of thing?
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    Sep 19, 2012 2:28 AM GMT
    Polygamy works better for me...live alone, and date more than one guy.

    I was going to try a thriple once, but I enjoy my "me" time. Having one person living with me ruins enough of that as it is. Two others would make my life a living hell.
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    Sep 19, 2012 4:56 AM GMT
    FlyGuyAFga saidMy BF (of ten years) and I met a threesome (I've heard these kinds of relationships called threeway/triad/throuple) and the guys we met were fun and hot. So my BF and I posted an ad to see what results we'd get. Has anyone been interested in this kind of scenario?


    Go for it - I've known of several polyamorous relationships that have worked.
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    Sep 19, 2012 5:09 AM GMT
    To give you the background story:

    I very much love my BF of 10 years, and we are very well-balanced and have always known from when we first started dating that sex is something that is fun to explore. (and we really love sex LOL).

    Our first threesome was at a 3-day weekend house party. A fellow military really hot guy, built 6'3" really hit it off with us and started flirting with us. My BF and I off to the side discussed fooling around with this guy, and I said hell yeah! Then we hung out with him at his own house, and he was showing us some porn sites, and all of a sudden dropped his pants. We were so excited after being turned on by him the previous day that we had a really hot time with him for the rest of the weekend. Right before we started making out, I mentioned that I heard that sometimes someone feels left out in a threeway, but we really equally all enjoyed each other. We must have done every position and scenario possible.
    We had a second one with a very cute sweet younger guy with a beard, but my BF wasn't as into the third guy as much as I was. I was disappointed in that, because I really liked him.
    Then we had a third boyfriend very cute, blond, 6' but a lot younger than us for a while, while he was in the city for school. and it was really enjoyable for the few weeks while he was with us. The two of them spent a lot of time together, and they always made me feel included. I loved coming home to the two of them and kissing them both. Sex was smoking hot too.
    Now we'd like to date a third guy to see if we click.
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    Sep 19, 2012 5:18 AM GMT
    Why not find a third guy who's more of a FWB and let him live his own life in the meantime? In other words, have a fully open relationship with the extramarital sexual friend. Most 3way live-in relationships don't last very often, though rare cases do exist.

    Open relationships and polygamous relationships very closely mirror each other. One can claim the other is more slutty, but neither will say slutty is a bad thing. It's more of an accomplishment than a disgrace. Being secretly promiscuous while pretending to be monogamous is even worse...even if the promiscuity is only in your mind, because you'll eventually act on it given the right time and place and circumstance.
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    Sep 19, 2012 5:22 AM GMT
    waccamatt said

    Go for it - I've known of several polyamorous relationships that have worked.


    Thanks, I'm glad to hear it. I think it can be healthy and fulfilling, if everyone is very mentally well-balanced, and don't have any hangups about sex.
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    Sep 19, 2012 5:24 AM GMT
    FlyGuyAFga saidTo give you the background story:

    I very much love my BF of 10 years, and we are very well-balanced and have always known from when we first started dating that sex is something that is fun to explore. (and we really love sex LOL).

    Our first threesome was at a 3-day weekend house party. A really hot guy, built 6'3" really hit it off with us and started flirting with us. My BF and I discussed having a threesome with him. He asked me if I liked him, and if I wanted us to fool around with him, and I said hell yeah! Then we hung out with him at his own house, and he was showing us some porn sites, and all of a sudden dropped his pants. We were so excited after being turned on by him the previous day that we had a really hot time with him for the rest of the weekend. Right before we started making out, I mentioned that I heard that sometimes someone feels left out in a threeway, but we really equally all enjoyed each other. We must have done every position and scenario possible.
    We had a second one with a very cute sweet younger guy with a beard, but my BF wasn't as into the third guy as much as I was. I was disappointed in that, because I really liked him.
    Then we had a third boyfriend very cute, blond, 6' but a lot younger than us for a while, while he was in the city for school. and it was really enjoyable for the few weeks while he was with us. The two of them spent a lot of time together, and they always made me feel included. I loved coming home to the two of them and kissing them both. Sex was smoking hot too.
    Now we'd like to date a third guy to see if we click.


    Wow, dude! Every time I read stuff like this I'm more and more convinced I've been a monk most of my life. It looks to me that everyone and their dog is having mind-blowing porn-movie sex 24/7 while all I do is go to work, come home, take care of my dogs, my house, bills, family and other obligations while life [or at least, my sex life] is passing me by.

    Don't get me wrong, I'm by nature a very upbeat, happy-go-lucky kind of guy, but when it comes to sexcapades, I really wished I was more adventuresome like you and your bf. I guess it must be something innate because, while I find the idea of a polyamorous relationship kinda terrifying, it looks like for you and your bf is as natural as breathing. So, my hat off to you, bud. As long as you guys are safe and you're not hurting others, I wish you both the best. I wished I had the courage to join a threesome someday without feeling guilty or awkward about it.

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    Sep 19, 2012 5:25 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidWhy not find a third guy who's more of a FWB and let him live his own life in the meantime? In other words, have a fully open relationship with the extramarital sexual friend. Most 3way live-in relationships don't last very often, though rare cases do exist.

    Open relationships and polygamous relationships very closely mirror each other. One can claim the other is more slutty, but neither will say slutty is a bad thing. It's more of an accomplishment than a disgrace. Being secretly promiscuous while pretending to be monogamous is even worse...even if the promiscuity is only in your mind, because you'll eventually act on it given the right time and place and circumstance.


    Thanks for the advice! That makes more sense. I think I'll change the add to say seeking BF/FWB.
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    Sep 19, 2012 5:51 AM GMT
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    paulflexes saidWhy not find a third guy who's more of a FWB and let him live his own life in the meantime? In other words, have a fully open relationship with the extramarital sexual friend. Most 3way live-in relationships don't last very often, though rare cases do exist.

    Open relationships and polygamous relationships very closely mirror each other. One can claim the other is more slutty, but neither will say slutty is a bad thing. It's more of an accomplishment than a disgrace. Being secretly promiscuous while pretending to be monogamous is even worse...even if the promiscuity is only in your mind, because you'll eventually act on it given the right time and place and circumstance.


    Thanks for the advice! That makes more sense. I think I'll change the add to say seeking BF/FWB.
    From the sound of things, that would do both of you much more good. If the FWB ends up going his own way (which inevitably he will) it's much less painful than if he'd actually lived with you; and it's much easier to maintain a friendship after the sex stops.

    You can't expect a newbie to enter a 10 year relationship and feel 100% welcome 100% of the time. icon_wink.gif
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    Sep 19, 2012 6:16 AM GMT
    Thanks for the help guys! I updated the ad. Had about 5 responses, but none of them seemed serious about meeting us so far. It's too bad because one guy seemed so into us, exchanged a lot of emails and pics, and we liked him, too.
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    Sep 19, 2012 6:18 AM GMT
    no
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    Sep 19, 2012 2:08 PM GMT
    Three-somes and groups can be quite fun, but never lose sight of the fact that the main actors in it are you and your bf, and that you're in it so that you and your bf can have fun. Never have a three-some if only one of you is interested in the third guy, or if the third is only interested in one of you. You and your bf must be extra perceptive and sensitive to each other's needs during the act, and both of you must--MUST--always pay attention to each other. A three-some can be extremely destructive to a relationship if it's not handled properly and with sensitivity towards each other's emotional and physical needs.
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    Sep 19, 2012 2:12 PM GMT
    I can barely get a decent dates these days...this is all too damned complicated for me.

    I'm going back to writing sappy sex poetry for my blog, lol.

    Edit: I should clarify that I am not in any way disparaging the OP. I'm quite in support of people doing whatever in their pursuit of happiness, so long as it's legal, non-violent and non-invasive of others.
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    Sep 19, 2012 2:14 PM GMT
    RunintheCity saidI can barely get a decent dates these days...this is all too damned complicated for me.

    I'm going back to writing sappy sex poetry for my blog, lol.


    Maybe you just need to find the right couple icon_twisted.gif
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    Sep 19, 2012 2:16 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidPolygamy works better for me...live alone, and date more than one guy.

    I was going to try a thriple once, but I enjoy my "me" time. Having one person living with me ruins enough of that as it is. Two others would make my life a living hell.


    Jesus, am I ever with u on that!

    However I did have a threeway relationship when I was younger. It was the relationship I lost my virginity in. Lol
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    Sep 19, 2012 2:16 PM GMT
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    RunintheCity saidI can barely get a decent dates these days...this is all too damned complicated for me.

    I'm going back to writing sappy sex poetry for my blog, lol.


    Maybe you just need to find the right couple icon_twisted.gif


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    Sep 19, 2012 2:17 PM GMT
    Whatever makes you two happy, makes you two happy. More power and happiness to you.
  • FireDoor211

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    Sep 19, 2012 2:23 PM GMT
    Have u guys ever seen the movie "short bus"?
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    Sep 19, 2012 2:28 PM GMT
    FlyGuyAFga saidHas anyone been interested in this kind of scenario? Any thoughts about this sort of thing?

    Curious would be more the word for me.

    I once ran across a threesome (what they called themselves), because I knew one partner as a drag queen at the shows for which I did the lighting. We'd sometimes have after parties at their place, nice enough guys, who all slept in the same king bed. They broke up about a year after I first met them, together a total of about 2. Most of my gay friends thought it was a bit strange, and didn't believe such an arrangement was sustainable.

    I've certainly been in 3-ways with couples, with mixed results. They were always the instigators, and some don't handle it well. A lot of their issues that they hoped an open relationship would solve only seemed to get worse, and I didn't like being in the middle of them. I wanted to be in a sex sandwich, not a food fight.
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    Sep 19, 2012 7:44 PM GMT
    FireDoor211 saidHave u guys ever seen the movie "short bus"?


    I really liked short bus. The threesome was funny and hot!
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    Sep 19, 2012 7:48 PM GMT
    Any recommendations on where to post our ad or profile?
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    Sep 19, 2012 7:51 PM GMT
    There MUST be a real shortbus somewhere. Point the way!
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    Sep 19, 2012 8:06 PM GMT
    Damn someone is greedy, anyways two boyfriends fuck that. Sometimes one us already a burden imagine another one....I wish you luck though not many could handle two guys. The whole constant attention and stuff.....try Craigslist lol
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    Sep 19, 2012 9:55 PM GMT
    Maybe another established couple would work? that way the numbers are more even and you know they are going home.
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    Sep 20, 2012 5:01 AM GMT
    Well the status so far on the ad is we had about 10 responses. Some completely didn't even pay attention to the ad, and were really out there. I exchanged email with a guy that my bf and I really liked a lot, and we felt mutual connectiom with, but he decided it wasn't for him after all. I think even though people post and respond on CL, they actually get nervous or weirded out about actually meeting. I think other sites have profile options like "couple seeking men" and "man seeking couple" but I can't remember which ones, probably something sketchy feeling like manhunt or something. I guess it's not any more sketchier than CL or Grinder. Adam4adam maybe. Has anyone been on any of those sites?