Mixed signals, losing interest and need a mans opinion.

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    Sep 20, 2012 1:03 AM GMT
    Long story short: I started talking to this guy - we talked alot - hung out once. No fooling around or making out or whatever. Everything seem to be going well for a couple of days - we texted, talked on the phone. He always said good morning to me. Whatever.

    Then - it stopped. Pretty suddenly too - this was last week. We talked on the phone and he invited me to a party - which I didn't go to since I didn't feel like it would be appropriate and I gave him a call last Friday where he immediately apologized for being MIA all week. I missed a call that Saturday morning and called him back but didn't get a hold of him. Talked to him the next day where he tried to set up a date but I was in Atlantic City.

    Anyway....it's now Wednesday night therefore, we haven't seen each other in two weeks. He's been pretty much silent since last Monday barring the two phone conversations we had Friday and Sunday. These are totally mixed signals in my opinion. I get it; he's busy with classes, fire department volunteer work and the hospital he works at. It was his birthday Tuesday and he knew I was still in AC Monday.

    Question: salvageable? I will not make the mistake of last time and asking him if he's still into the idea of US. I talked to a friend and she says that this long without real communication on his part says he's flaking and he should take five minutes to text me at least. A part of me agrees but another part of me says that he's a guy and the rules of girls/guys aren't the same of guy/guy since as a guy we shouldn't expect to be pandered to or need constant reassurance that all is well.

    Opinions?

    (YES, another DOES HE LIKE ME THREAD?)
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    Sep 20, 2012 1:16 AM GMT
    Me no think he has interest anymore.
  • booboolv

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    Sep 20, 2012 3:54 AM GMT
    IceBucket said...as a guy we shouldn't expect to be pandered to or need constant reassurance that all is well.



    I disagree. We all have psychological needs. Perhaps as men ours tend to be buried deeper than those of women. Or perhaps we've been conditioned not to display our emotional needs as much as women. But we have needs. Using the term "pandered to" indicates a disapproval of having needs. But we expect to be pandered to when we go into a retail establishment, don't we? I think sometimes we expect to be pandered to by our loved ones who are supposed to meet our every need without our communicating those needs. Just one guy's opinion. Maybe it's something to think about. Maybe it isn't. Who knows!

    I can't help you with your relationship question though, unfortunately. Sometimes, things just aren't meant to be, and if they are meant to be, you will figure it out. Good luck!
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    Sep 20, 2012 4:00 AM GMT
    IceBucket said
    (YES, another DOES HE LIKE ME THREAD?)


    The same as your going alone to a party thread, actually. And the answer is still the same.
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    Sep 20, 2012 4:38 AM GMT
    Just an update which furthers my confusion:

    Caught him on Grindr today after he had said it was a sketchy app (which it is - and I've never seen him on it before) and I jokingly called him out. We talked - he said he really wanted to see me (no pushing from me) but he doesn't know when since his schedule is all fucked up. Maybe I just didn't notice before, but he started acting a little drunk through his texts "send me picturesssss" - he was looking for pics of my junk. Humored his drunken-self without pics and said he had to work to see the goods. Sad face ensue...told him to buzz me tomorrow morning since he was going to bed.

    Not holding my breath though.
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    Sep 20, 2012 12:09 PM GMT
    When you play, chat, text and fuck around with psychotic men, you have to deal with psychotic men. Enjoy.
  • BarettaB80

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    Sep 22, 2012 5:04 AM GMT
    smartmoney saidWhen you play, chat, text and fuck around with psychotic men, you have to deal with psychotic men. Enjoy.


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