Why are guys such sissies about phone calls?

  • jsd8675

    Posts: 23

    Sep 20, 2012 3:45 AM GMT
    I mean, it's a phone, right? Telephone. Cellular telephone at that.

    phone - vocal sound

    You finally text with a guy, and then you call and suddenly it's some big taboo. You need permission. Summons the queen.

    What happened? It's mainly the younger guys, but come on. Are people such sissies that they're afraid to talk to somebody on the phone whose number they've given with consent?

    I must be getting old.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Sep 20, 2012 4:42 AM GMT
    Yeah ..what's up with that?
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Sep 20, 2012 5:39 AM GMT
    I spend 8 hours a day on the phone...

    fuck me if at the end of the day I don't wanna talk to someone!

  • DR2K

    Posts: 346

    Sep 20, 2012 8:22 AM GMT
    I have to go outdoors in order to get reception in my house. I prefer talking, awkward moments don't bother me though.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Sep 20, 2012 9:40 AM GMT
    Anocxu saidYeah ..what's up with that?


    lol, that's a good question.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Sep 20, 2012 12:08 PM GMT
    Gays=Sissies, case closed. Damn these questions are easy.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Sep 20, 2012 12:17 PM GMT
    Usually its one of two things

    1. walks like tarzan/talks like jane

    2. socially awkward, cant really entertain a conversation that doesn't exist on an lcd screen
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Sep 20, 2012 12:23 PM GMT
    meninlove said
    Anocxu saidYeah ..what's up with that?


    lol, that's a good question.

    362nzj.jpg
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Sep 20, 2012 12:24 PM GMT
    some from me:
    i like to talk with guys from usa at Phone
    yes and i call an guy
    that was my best phonecall i ever have
    i think germans are not shy for this

    and i know most american like the german accent

    so i call with guys
    and think only the best about this

    btw

    ( sorry for my bad english )
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Sep 20, 2012 12:32 PM GMT
    I rarely talk on the phone .. i used to text a lot when I was back in the States

    but if and when I was on the phone .. I'm usually the one changing topics and talking about random stuff ..
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Sep 20, 2012 2:21 PM GMT
    tangent: it's natural that people who fear intimacy would prefer texting, but it also gives up ALOT of privacy. if you had a phone call, you would have to make a choice to record it. and you would know if you were not talking to who you thought you were. with text....EVERYTHING is recorded, and there's no guarantee they haven't handed over their phone to one of their buddies....

    if you don't have a real life relationship already, texting is the equivalent of a video game with strangers....
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Sep 20, 2012 2:27 PM GMT
    I think it's a generational issue partially. People my age don't do anything over the phone really. If I called my best friend to see what he was doing this weekend or something he'd be like why the fuck are you calling. Everything's just done by text now.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Sep 20, 2012 2:35 PM GMT
    Egro_Nadley saidtangent: it's natural that people who fear intimacy would prefer texting, but it also gives up ALOT of privacy. if you had a phone call, you would have to make a choice to record it. and you would know if you were not talking to who you thought you were. with text....EVERYTHING is recorded, and there's no guarantee they haven't handed over their phone to one of their buddies....

    if you don't have a real life relationship already, texting is the equivalent of a video game with strangers....



    I agree, and it's made me feel surges of dismay. Texting can be so stunningly misinterpreted as it lacks the nuances in tones of voice (as well as when in person, body language).


  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Sep 20, 2012 2:39 PM GMT
    Um.. I'm pretty sure it's not just young guys too. Older men have issues talking to me on the phone, I feel like as well. :/ I personally prefer phone calls to texts unless it's something small and light (e.g. hey, how are you, how is your day going, blahblahblah). Discussions, I feel, should take place on the phone. icon_smile.gif

    That said...


    WE SHOULD START HAVING AN RJ PHONE CHAT. icon_biggrin.gif

    Let's get to know each other better! icon_smile.gifcheer3-onion-head-emoticon.gif?129286249
  • FireDoor211

    Posts: 1030

    Sep 20, 2012 2:47 PM GMT
    I'm the same way. If I text u and u call me, I'll cut the conversation short and probably never text again. Words cannot express how much I hate talking on the phone. So much so that I only got a cell phone a couple years ago, and I didn't get it to make calls, I gut it cuz I could shoot text messages to people from anywhere. It's efficient communication. Don't call me and talk about your boring life, text me to see if I'm home and come over and do it in person!
  • jwand09

    Posts: 91

    Sep 20, 2012 2:53 PM GMT
    Im old school 4 my young age....u can talk all the big talk thro a txt but I want to know what you sound like and if you have a brain....
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Sep 20, 2012 2:55 PM GMT
    I definitely wouldn't be afraid with having a phone call with the OP!
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Sep 20, 2012 2:57 PM GMT
    FireDoor211 saidDon't call me and talk about your boring life, text me to see if I'm home and come over and do it in person!


    This part I agree with.

    Having said that....if you like your nuance at a distance, phone calls are still better than text.

    nevermind the whole privacy thing. i get tired of ppl misreading text contents. people read things completely differently.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Sep 20, 2012 2:59 PM GMT
    RocknMike saidI definitely wouldn't be afraid with having a phone call with the OP!


    He's on the phone with me right now..!! icon_razz.gif
    3 way?? icon_eek.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Sep 20, 2012 2:59 PM GMT
    A lot of people in general are doing that. They prefer to text over having phone conversations.

    If its something quick and simple, its much easier to reply via text. But for long conversation/chat, its soo much easier to just pick up the phone and dial the number.

    I hate when a friend texts me none stop asking a bunch of questions. I end up calling instead to answer all of them. With that said, I also hate having very long conversations over the phone. Idk, maybe I'm anti-social or just dislike endless chit chat with a phone glued to my ear.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Sep 20, 2012 3:02 PM GMT
    Egro_Nadley said
    FireDoor211 saidDon't call me and talk about your boring life, text me to see if I'm home and come over and do it in person!


    This part I agree with.

    Having said that....if you like your nuance at a distance, phone calls are still better than text.

    nevermind the whole privacy thing. i get tired of ppl misreading text contents. people read things completely differently.

    Note to self: Egro gives good interpersonal advice.
    Follow up note: Become more comfortable talking on the phone already!
    Now... I just need someone to call... where's Tropical_Mark.?. he was first on my list...
  • conquer

    Posts: 305

    Sep 20, 2012 3:03 PM GMT
    the advent of texting has given people an easy out. i don't normally like talking on the phone anyways, but i don't love texting either.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Sep 20, 2012 3:07 PM GMT
    conquer saidthe advent of texting has given people an easy out. i don't normally like talking on the phone anyways, but i don't love texting either.

    I used to be very shy growing up, so after texting came along and was available on my first cell phone, I latched onto it. It has hampered my personal life cause I get very timid talking on the phone. Whereas with texting I'm free to express ideas. Ironically enough, I'm better at talking in person... probably cause I can see other person and we can read each other's body language. I don't care if a guy has a hoarse voice, high pitch or sultry voice... if we're having a good dialogue all that just falls into the backdrop.
    My next personal goal: Get better at talking on the phone with people... time to call my bff in AZ! icon_biggrin.gificon_wink.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Sep 20, 2012 3:11 PM GMT
    I hate talking on the phone in general or texting. I rather meet with the person face to face. But Im so busy when im home and no ones around I want my alone time and don't want to be on the phone for hours. This goes for relationships, friends, and family.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Sep 20, 2012 3:13 PM GMT
    JR_RJ said
    conquer saidthe advent of texting has given people an easy out. i don't normally like talking on the phone anyways, but i don't love texting either.

    I used to be very shy growing up, so after texting came along and was available on my first cell phone, I latched onto it. It has hampered my personal life cause I get very timid talking on the phone. Whereas with texting I'm free to express ideas. Ironically enough, I'm better at talking in person... probably cause I can see other person and we can read each other's body language. I don't care if a guy has a hoarse voice, high pitch or sultry voice... if we're having a good dialogue all that just falls into the backdrop.
    My next personal goal: Get better at talking on the phone with people... time to call my bff in AZ! icon_biggrin.gificon_wink.gif


    Hehe. I think I can relate too. icon_smile.gif I was pretty shy growing up myself. Although I latched onto phone calls to help me get better at communication and speaking with others. I have a slight speech impediment. When I get really excited or nervous it comes out. I sometimes jumble my words together or thoughts together. It's kind of embarrassing at times, especially when the other person is like "Huh? Was that even a sentence? icon_redface.gificon_redface.gificon_redface.gif

    My voice is fine though. People like the sound of it, apparently, especially when I had a few shots of scotch or whiskey. Then I begin to sound like Barry White. ;D