Is anyone dating more than one guy?

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    Sep 20, 2012 5:02 PM GMT
    I was hanging out with this hella handsome curious straight guy whom I met at a gay dance venue but things weren't going fast enough for me since I had just broken up with my BF so I meet this eager bottom at a pool party and started pounding him on the weekends. Both are really nice guys but the straight dude has the looks and the worked out body and we have a real connection. So after kinda ignoring the straight guy for a month we meet up for food last night and he tells me he would like to take it to the next step with me.

    Damn, should I have two BF's.? I haven't been actively gay that long so don't know if this is normal. The str8 dude is obviously gonna take a lot of work on my part where the bottom dude is really low maintenance.
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    Sep 20, 2012 5:18 PM GMT
    Not sure if serious lol

    "Straight Guy" = Real Connection
    Eagar Bottom = Weekend Fuck

    Uh....from what you wrote the choice would be obvious for me. Why wouldn't I want to spend time with a person I can bond with on more than just a physical level.

    Don't let the idea of there being a lot of work involved skew things, because it shouldn't in this situation.

    But this is me going off of very little info. Only you'd really know what to do imo.
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    Sep 20, 2012 5:51 PM GMT
    DTP_82 saidNot sure if serious lol

    "Straight Guy" = Real Connection
    Eagar Bottom = Weekend Fuck

    Uh....from what you wrote the choice would be obvious for me. Why wouldn't I want to spend time with a person I can bond with on more than just a physical level.

    Don't let the idea of there being a lot of work involved skew things, because it shouldn't in this situation.

    But this is me going off of very little info. Only you'd really know what to do imo.





    It's not that obvious to me. The bottom dude is a sweet guy and an experienced sex partner. Nothing much is not gonna happen with the curious str8 dude any time soon. I know that personally cus I was married for 21 years and even kissing a guy was a stretch for me.
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    Sep 20, 2012 6:52 PM GMT
    yourname2000 saidJealous!

    (of them, not you.)




    The hottest young dude I ever made out with ended up with a guy that looks just like you. He might have done it for money but I had no idea at the time that he was really looking for a older guy to settle in with. Learning from that I don't ignore the affection of young guys.
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    Sep 20, 2012 10:56 PM GMT
    I would not recommend having two bf's. Thats just being disrespectful to both of them. If you just wanna fuck, stay with the bottom, if you want a real relationship, try the straight guy. Yeah things may go slow, but if he is the one, it'll be worth it. If the bottom has expressed wanting a relationship then you could try that, but you better make sure whichever one you chose is the one you want.
    For the record I don't think its normal anywhere to have two lovers, unless your cheating
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    Sep 21, 2012 6:33 AM GMT
    [quote][cite]WaytoDawn said[/cite]I would not recommend having two bf's. Thats just being disrespectful to both of them. If you just wanna fuck, stay with the bottom, if you want a real relationship, try the straight guy. Yeah things may go slow, but if he is the one, it'll be worth it. If the bottom has expressed wanting a relationship then you could try that, but you better make sure whichever one you chose is the one you want.
    For the record I don't think its normal anywhere to have two lovers, unless your cheating.


    The general gay trend seems to be that being single and dating gays is wrong. I dont remember it being that way before my marriage in the twentieth century. Back then you could date anyone you wanted to. Since I just got out of my first gay relationship I don't want another relationship right away however, I don't see the point of being gay and celibate.
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    Sep 21, 2012 7:16 AM GMT
    One seems more like a hookup or a fb than a bf, but whatever.
    It's ok as long as you aren't deceiving either of them about being monogamous or exclusive.
    And if things start getting serious you should bring it up.
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    Sep 21, 2012 11:19 AM GMT
    MolaMola saidOne seems more like a hookup or a fb than a bf, but whatever.
    It's ok as long as you aren't deceiving either of them about being monogamous or exclusive.
    And if things start getting serious you should bring it up.



    Totally, Im not gonna call anyone BF this time around.
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    Sep 21, 2012 11:22 AM GMT
    Alpha13 saidI was hanging out with this hella handsome curious straight guy whom I met at a gay dance venue but things weren't going fast enough for me since I had just broken up with my BF so I meet this eager bottom at a pool party and started pounding him on the weekends. Both are really nice guys but the straight dude has the looks and the worked out body and we have a real connection. So after kinda ignoring the straight guy for a month we meet up for food last night and he tells me he would like to take it to the next step with me.

    Damn, should I have two BF's.? I haven't been actively gay that long so don't know if this is normal. The str8 dude is obviously gonna take a lot of work on my part where the bottom dude is really low maintenance.



    how is he straight?
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    Sep 21, 2012 11:33 AM GMT
    jaround90 said
    Alpha13 saidI was hanging out with this hella handsome curious straight guy whom I met at a gay dance venue but things weren't going fast enough for me since I had just broken up with my BF so I meet this eager bottom at a pool party and started pounding him on the weekends. Both are really nice guys but the straight dude has the looks and the worked out body and we have a real connection. So after kinda ignoring the straight guy for a month we meet up for food last night and he tells me he would like to take it to the next step with me.

    Damn, should I have two BF's.? I haven't been actively gay that long so don't know if this is normal. The str8 dude is obviously gonna take a lot of work on my part where the bottom dude is really low maintenance.



    how is he straight?


    He is the type that girls just throw themselves at....so he's had his share of pussy but fells he just cant buy into being with a women so has begun to see guys. After initially hanging out with him I kinda gave up on him ever being a sexual partner ... He didn't even want to kiss. After I start banging this other very gay dude he tells me this week that he wants me to be the one that pops his cherry . So I really didn't get myself into this situation . It just happened.
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    Sep 21, 2012 11:34 AM GMT
    I dated 3 guys at once in CO.. Too much work. I prefer to date a single man at a time.
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    Sep 21, 2012 11:38 AM GMT
    Just when I thought the forums couldn't get any dumber.

    Gay - adjective gay·er, gay·est, - of, indicating, or supporting homosexual interests or issues: a gay organization.

    Its thats simple. He doesn't want to kiss because hes internally conflicted. He feels uncomfortable being gay so he tries to cling on to every last bit of "pseudoheterosexuality" that he can. Lots of guys do that, you' d be surprised.
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    Sep 21, 2012 11:41 AM GMT
    titus8229 saidJust when I thought the forums couldn't get any dumber.

    Gay - adjective gay·er, gay·est, - of, indicating, or supporting homosexual interests or issues: a gay organization.

    Its thats simple. He doesn't want to kiss because hes internally conflicted. He feels uncomfortable being gay so he tries to cling on to every last bit of "pseudoheterosexuality" that he can. Lots of guys do that, you' d be surprised.


    exactly, so aka we have a gay man who dated straight girl. not a straight man that fucks guys.
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    Sep 21, 2012 11:57 AM GMT
    shes got hoes, she got hoes- in different area area area codes
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    Sep 21, 2012 12:01 PM GMT
    titus8229 saidJust when I thought the forums couldn't get any dumber.

    Gay - adjective gay·er, gay·est, - of, indicating, or supporting homosexual interests or issues: a gay organization.

    Its thats simple. He doesn't want to kiss because hes internally conflicted. He feels uncomfortable being gay so he tries to cling on to every last bit of "pseudoheterosexuality" that he can. Lots of guys do that, you' d be surprised.



    I don't doubt his conflict so that's why I think he wants the security of an older guy to be with. But his decision to get it on with me is addressing his conflict. Gay does not come easy to some guys.... Me included but being hetero does not feel right either. The other issue is that some guys would say that I'm being used by this gorgeous guy which fuels my reluctance to give up the other just average guy.