I think I'm done with it all.

  • jsd8675

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    Sep 21, 2012 5:28 AM GMT
    I've always taken horrible pictures.. I actually have a phobia against pictures of myself or hearing my own voice.. I know... weird.

    But.. After I turned 28, I no longer have the youth on my side, and I find myself trying to meet guys online and having them flake off.

    I can get a first, second date, third date, but lately just meeting someone has been impossible. I'm completely sick of how hard it is to find a decent masc dude in my area who isn't on an ego trip.

    I've been thinking pretty hard about just staying single the rest of my life. Is there anything wrong with that?

    Sorry for the ramble.
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    Sep 21, 2012 6:17 AM GMT
    Dude it's ok to ramble , your attractive and in great shape! Relax and just stop looking and it'll happen!
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    Sep 21, 2012 7:08 AM GMT
    Giving up at 28 is no way to go dude..!

    So maybe you need to take a step back and figure out what you could be doing better or differently?..

    A 28 y/o hot guy like yourself ... giving up?.. No way man.. just relax a bit... regroup..try not to get frustrated..and go break some hearts.!
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  • IAmTheOneWhoK...

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    Sep 21, 2012 12:50 PM GMT
    Am I the only one that thought "suicide?"
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    Sep 21, 2012 3:33 PM GMT
    Anocxu saidGiving up at 28 is no way to go dude..!

    So maybe you need to take a step back and figure out what you could be doing better or differently?..

    I agree, take a step back. Sometimes we try so hard to find the special someone that we drive ourselves nuts. As for staying single, nothing wrong with that as long as you're happy and have others in your life to enjoy, even if none of them is 'relationship material'.
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    Sep 21, 2012 3:36 PM GMT
    jsd said, "But.. After I turned 28, I no longer have the youth on my side"

    WHAT?!?!? You haven't even begun to approach your prime yet!

    I met Bill when I was 34 and he was 32.

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    Sep 21, 2012 3:48 PM GMT
    No way, dude. You're a good looking guy, and I'm sure you're sweet and fun, too. Don't get discouraged! There are plenty of guys out there, you just have to find the right one. Think of it as their loss, not yours. They just saved you the trouble later on! icon_cool.gif

    On a serious note: Living this life is hard enough, so you have to make the best of it. I know it isn't easy to do, especially since I'm pretty introverted, but you have to put yourself out there. You never know who might walk into the room and change your world forever. STAY POSITIVE! Confidence is very sexy.icon_razz.gif

    To echo what 'meninlove' said: You are in your prime! I thought that once my 20s were gone, that was it, BUT I gotta tell you, 30s are the best time. You're more mature (another sexy point- men are much more attractive to me than boys), smarter, more established in life, more confident...

    Last but not least: Learn to love yourself for who and what you are. Your body, your face, your voice, your personality. It is YOU. So own it and love it, cuz you're stuck! Once you learn to love yourself, you can allow others to love you, too.

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    Sep 21, 2012 3:59 PM GMT
    When you're 38 and having the same problems, let me know.
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    Sep 21, 2012 4:02 PM GMT
    Lot of us have been there... then you find out some younger guys like older guys. Than its like, wtf reallY?
  • calibro

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    Sep 21, 2012 4:04 PM GMT
    yeah, you should just quit it all and become a celibate monk.
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    Sep 21, 2012 4:04 PM GMT
    nothing wrong with giving up on it. who says you have to be with someone romantically? do what makes you happy.
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    Sep 21, 2012 4:07 PM GMT
    i don't get it. You look cute enough from what I can see. I think that these guys keep flaking on you has less to do with you (at least in the way you're thinking) and more to do with the fact that they are flakey guys.
    Having never been on a date myself, i won't deign to give you advice regarding that but definitely don't assume its how you look (and please, don't assume its over at 30)